Today I would like to talk about a rather important topic that has been constantly heard over the past ten years.
And, no matter how sad it is, this topic concerns an abusive relationship, which can often cause a lot of pain to one of the partners who has been a victim of abuse for a long time. To my regret, I am a victim. The consequences of this relationship still haunt me, and even this person who does not want to leave me alone. At times, we should think about which partner we choose, so as not to be a victim purely by chance, and I will now try to describe what happened in my relationship. In principle, it we started like normal people, however, being a 16-year-old teenager then I did not understand what I was getting into and how I would suffer for the next two years from the person I contacted out of ignorance. I will not describe the abyss in detail that I visited, but I can highlight points that you should think about at times and even check if any coincide with your partner's behavior. I didn't even think about it then.
It all started with the fact that he forbade me to communicate with my friends, took my phone and simply blocked the people with whom I communicate. Without my knowledge, for no reason. However, it was better further - he constantly criticized my appearance, and it seemed to me that this was normal, since before that I had never been in a relationship. He forbade me to wear what I liked, made demands that also included only his interests, bypassing mine. In any stressful situation, he broke down at me, yelled at me, pressed morally and loved to humiliate, poke my nose into the mistakes that I made and which I was aware of. And when I tried to break off relations with him, he immediately became docile and pressed on pity, which is why I simply could not leave. I had some affection for this person, but after another quarrel, everything inside seemed to fall into place and I realized that something unhealthy was going on. Ultimately I was able to get away from this person, but I had no luck with the fact that he turned out to be sick in the head.
And so, even now, when I am 19, I am still in danger, even if I broke off the relationship last year. This person is following me, insisting on meetings, trying to persuade mutual friends to "accidentally" set up our meeting. Threatens me, my family. The police, unfortunately, in Russia, in such cases only shrugs their shoulders, and I have nowhere to look for protection, because until my dear mother received threats from him, she insisted that I continue my relationship with him, like my dear father.
Please, be careful, keep an eye on the person as much as you need, and do not succumb to an abrupt entry into a relationship. Who knows who you will stumble upon :(
If you suddenly become a victim of such a relationship, you can write about it in the comments, since this is a fairly important topic and it is worth sharing your experience with other people. But! If you are afraid to write in the comments, you can always write to me and I will try to support you, because I understand how hard it can be for you.

I want to say thank you to many people, but it is this person who helps me to cope with my bad state at this point in time. Thank you very much my dear  kazuyavioletdeathcoil <3