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This is my 15th 'Father's Day'! Kazootles does time ever fly! They are not kidding when they say that your kids grow up before you even realize it.
***
Peep is the source of celebration. Without Peep, I would not be able to chirp, or quack, about this particular day. I also can truly say that, even though my marriage was a bust, the concilation prize of a young rooster is certainly worth having given Tina Bear and I a try.
***
This Father's Day / daddy's Day is particularly special for one major reason. This being that, as of 5:00 PM EST yesterday, June 19th, I officially purchased a home!
***
Now, as you may all be wondering as much as I still wonder myself, how did this happen? Especially since I am paying off debts to Social Security and a Debt Consolidator up until Spring 2024. (This is approximately 900 per month for those curious.)
***
The story of house hunting starts with Peep.
When his mother left me and started into new relationships, Tina Bear promised Peep that she was going to find a home for her to live in with our little rooster and her dog / his honarary brother, Enoch.
Now into relationship #6, which has lasted over a year so far, the promise has not been able to be kept. This hurt Peep for how, before his mom left me, she promised him that our family would never seperate. So, as you can guess, Peep isn't really big on 'promises'. Especially since the promise was broken just shy of his first year of Junior High and, truly, is there a any worse time to go through such a massive life change than when you transition from Elementary School to Junior High School?
***
We now shift to my mother. Her story is very long and I will abridge it by stating how unhappy she is since selling her home and moving into a cottage behind my sister's house. My sister's husband, Petrie, has become quite a bully towards her and, despite having paid into the cottage herself and providing financial assistance to Petrie and my sister, Winry, for their home, is watched like a hawk, talked down to, and is not doing much more than wasting away playing 'Candy Crush' while watching NetFlix all day.
***
We now combine the stories as, for over a year, my mom has nudged me about being a home owner. However, personally, I had given up on such a possibility after losing my second job, my eyesight, and my marriage. It's kind of hard to see yourself as a home owner when you have never been able to genuinely get ahead in life. Moreover is how I, unlike Winry and Petrie, do not have a stable career at the same organization for 12+ years.
Over the past year, my mother has spent a lot of time looking at houses around the area I live in, which is South Central Pennsylvania. She has even gone as far as to get very upset at people who say they are going to "Help her" and do not. So, starting to take a hint, I took over the house hunting mission using the power of my big, babbling beak.
***
We now arrive at when my mom was at her wits end upon calling a realtor who told her that a home showing was cancelled as the house sold before the showing could even happen. Before my mom was set to kill the lady on the other end of the phone, I took the phone and asked if I could work with her as 'The Business Side' and allow my mom to be 'The Eyes'. The realtor, who was very friendly, was okay with this idea and, as others before her, started to send home listings that were within a budget my mom could down pay on and I could maintain monthly payments for.
***
Less than a month later, the realtor and I really came together. My mom had to return back to my hometown, which is where she lives in the small cottage I previously mentioned that is behind Winry's house, and has gone through a massive depression that is only compounded by how she feels without a purpose. The house hunting gave her something to be excited about and I made sure she knew I was excited, too.
***
On Thursday, with help from my friends from my previous job at the grocery store, Peep and I went to see a house that is about a mile / 2 km away from where we have resided for nearly 7 years. It is closer to his High School, which he starts in the Fall, while still being in a place i can easily walk to various businesses, or just walk in general, with my Seeing Eye Dog, Uri / buddy.
***
Peep, for the first time, lit up like a candle over the home. He told me to "Go for it!" and, well, I did. After all, upon deeper thought, I realized it was something my mom would be able to keep herself busy and comfortable in while giving Peep more privacy than he has ever had in all his life.
***
Our bid was placed at lower than the asking price, another person put a bid in, we raised our maximum, and we found out our bid won at $10,000 less than expected and $14,000 less than the asking price.
***
I now am up to my ears in paperwork. However the realtor, not experienced in working with those with physical limitations, was super helpful and never looked down upon me for my lack of physical eyesight nor tight budget. My friends like the place, Peep really likes the place, and my mom can, at last, do things that she has not been allowed to do in the cottage behind Winry's house!
***
We are not able to start moving in until August 1st. However this gives time to see if I can get my ex-wife to convince her boyfriend to take this apartment. This current dwelling, which the lease was signed for in both our names, is still her mailing address, has furnishings that belong to her, and personal items that I have left in place since she declared us over. More notably is how this apartment is walking / biking distance away (With sidewalks and controlled crossings) from the house we found. (This means Peep would no longer be 40 minutes from all his friends when he spends time with his mom. He would, quite genuinely, be able to come-and-go without feeling forced one way, or the other.)
More positives, if it happens, is my ex-wife would be closer to her job, no longer be living within the home of her BF's parents and BF's brother, not need to worry about much furniture (That which is hers still remains untouched and in-place.), get a washer and dryer unit (The place I am moving to is leaving behind the washer and dryer units.), and Peep could retain his room!
As you may guess, the part about Peep being able to leave his room as he sees fit for being with his mom would be the real win.
Right now, though, Peep's mom does not see it happening do to her BF not wanting to live here. This would be unfortunate as, truly, Peep would love having a greater degree of freedom, stability, and ease of transition. (The going t-and-from BF's house has really worn on him over the past year. He is not a fan of leaving the area where all his friends are to have nobody to genuinely interact with outside of the internet.)
***
So, back to 'Father's Day, I know I could not have even had the courage to try for this without all my friends always believing in me and offering so much kindness and support. The home is already having Peep feel over the moon ae starts to tell his friends, asks if he can have a party at it to celebrate his own space, and so much other great stuff. Knowing how happy this makes him drives me to do what I can to ensure this works. Having him moved in before starting High School is also perfect as he will make two transitions that will seamlessly go well together while he becomes more a part of 'The Big Wide World'.
Your Pal,
Yosh E. O'ducky ;)
nishiThis is my 15th 'Father's Day'! Kazootles does time ever fly! They are not kidding when they say that your kids grow up before you even realize it.
***
Peep is the source of celebration. Without Peep, I would not be able to chirp, or quack, about this particular day. I also can truly say that, even though my marriage was a bust, the concilation prize of a young rooster is certainly worth having given Tina Bear and I a try.
***
This Father's Day / daddy's Day is particularly special for one major reason. This being that, as of 5:00 PM EST yesterday, June 19th, I officially purchased a home!
***
Now, as you may all be wondering as much as I still wonder myself, how did this happen? Especially since I am paying off debts to Social Security and a Debt Consolidator up until Spring 2024. (This is approximately 900 per month for those curious.)
***
The story of house hunting starts with Peep.
When his mother left me and started into new relationships, Tina Bear promised Peep that she was going to find a home for her to live in with our little rooster and her dog / his honarary brother, Enoch.
Now into relationship #6, which has lasted over a year so far, the promise has not been able to be kept. This hurt Peep for how, before his mom left me, she promised him that our family would never seperate. So, as you can guess, Peep isn't really big on 'promises'. Especially since the promise was broken just shy of his first year of Junior High and, truly, is there a any worse time to go through such a massive life change than when you transition from Elementary School to Junior High School?
***
We now shift to my mother. Her story is very long and I will abridge it by stating how unhappy she is since selling her home and moving into a cottage behind my sister's house. My sister's husband, Petrie, has become quite a bully towards her and, despite having paid into the cottage herself and providing financial assistance to Petrie and my sister, Winry, for their home, is watched like a hawk, talked down to, and is not doing much more than wasting away playing 'Candy Crush' while watching NetFlix all day.
***
We now combine the stories as, for over a year, my mom has nudged me about being a home owner. However, personally, I had given up on such a possibility after losing my second job, my eyesight, and my marriage. It's kind of hard to see yourself as a home owner when you have never been able to genuinely get ahead in life. Moreover is how I, unlike Winry and Petrie, do not have a stable career at the same organization for 12+ years.
Over the past year, my mother has spent a lot of time looking at houses around the area I live in, which is South Central Pennsylvania. She has even gone as far as to get very upset at people who say they are going to "Help her" and do not. So, starting to take a hint, I took over the house hunting mission using the power of my big, babbling beak.
***
We now arrive at when my mom was at her wits end upon calling a realtor who told her that a home showing was cancelled as the house sold before the showing could even happen. Before my mom was set to kill the lady on the other end of the phone, I took the phone and asked if I could work with her as 'The Business Side' and allow my mom to be 'The Eyes'. The realtor, who was very friendly, was okay with this idea and, as others before her, started to send home listings that were within a budget my mom could down pay on and I could maintain monthly payments for.
***
Less than a month later, the realtor and I really came together. My mom had to return back to my hometown, which is where she lives in the small cottage I previously mentioned that is behind Winry's house, and has gone through a massive depression that is only compounded by how she feels without a purpose. The house hunting gave her something to be excited about and I made sure she knew I was excited, too.
***
On Thursday, with help from my friends from my previous job at the grocery store, Peep and I went to see a house that is about a mile / 2 km away from where we have resided for nearly 7 years. It is closer to his High School, which he starts in the Fall, while still being in a place i can easily walk to various businesses, or just walk in general, with my Seeing Eye Dog, Uri / buddy.
***
Peep, for the first time, lit up like a candle over the home. He told me to "Go for it!" and, well, I did. After all, upon deeper thought, I realized it was something my mom would be able to keep herself busy and comfortable in while giving Peep more privacy than he has ever had in all his life.
***
Our bid was placed at lower than the asking price, another person put a bid in, we raised our maximum, and we found out our bid won at $10,000 less than expected and $14,000 less than the asking price.
***
I now am up to my ears in paperwork. However the realtor, not experienced in working with those with physical limitations, was super helpful and never looked down upon me for my lack of physical eyesight nor tight budget. My friends like the place, Peep really likes the place, and my mom can, at last, do things that she has not been allowed to do in the cottage behind Winry's house!
***
We are not able to start moving in until August 1st. However this gives time to see if I can get my ex-wife to convince her boyfriend to take this apartment. This current dwelling, which the lease was signed for in both our names, is still her mailing address, has furnishings that belong to her, and personal items that I have left in place since she declared us over. More notably is how this apartment is walking / biking distance away (With sidewalks and controlled crossings) from the house we found. (This means Peep would no longer be 40 minutes from all his friends when he spends time with his mom. He would, quite genuinely, be able to come-and-go without feeling forced one way, or the other.)
More positives, if it happens, is my ex-wife would be closer to her job, no longer be living within the home of her BF's parents and BF's brother, not need to worry about much furniture (That which is hers still remains untouched and in-place.), get a washer and dryer unit (The place I am moving to is leaving behind the washer and dryer units.), and Peep could retain his room!
As you may guess, the part about Peep being able to leave his room as he sees fit for being with his mom would be the real win.
Right now, though, Peep's mom does not see it happening do to her BF not wanting to live here. This would be unfortunate as, truly, Peep would love having a greater degree of freedom, stability, and ease of transition. (The going t-and-from BF's house has really worn on him over the past year. He is not a fan of leaving the area where all his friends are to have nobody to genuinely interact with outside of the internet.)
***
So, back to 'Father's Day, I know I could not have even had the courage to try for this without all my friends always believing in me and offering so much kindness and support. The home is already having Peep feel over the moon ae starts to tell his friends, asks if he can have a party at it to celebrate his own space, and so much other great stuff. Knowing how happy this makes him drives me to do what I can to ensure this works. Having him moved in before starting High School is also perfect as he will make two transitions that will seamlessly go well together while he becomes more a part of 'The Big Wide World'.
Your Pal,
Yosh E. O'ducky ;)
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I wish I could have bought it straight out. Though, for me to make this work for my mom and son, I have to do an FHA loan. I will be paying on this for 30 years, but it will be worth it to know my mom has a place to do more than just sit around and feel depressed while also providing my son a place of positivity during his High School years.
sounds good!
Silly question, but do you have to pay for school tax, property and water tax when you are paying via morgage? I bought mine straight out and I do pay those taxes (good thing I live in a low income neighborhood!)
Definitely more space than an apartment for sure!
Silly question, but do you have to pay for school tax, property and water tax when you are paying via morgage? I bought mine straight out and I do pay those taxes (good thing I live in a low income neighborhood!)
Definitely more space than an apartment for sure!
Well, based on what I learned from my sister buying her home over 10 years ago, I know the mortgage loan considers all the taxes that are placed upon home / land owners. Though, once the loan is finished, you become responsible for paying the taxes yourself. (It does not add new costs as much as you are not locked into a monthly payment meant to ensure full payment of all taxes associated with home ownership. I think it also includes some home insurance, but not anything that would matter if something happened beyond a massive Act Of God disaster.
***
I like the idea of making a house your own through the creation of various repairs and add-ons. Knowing you got the basic framework to customize as you can is super-duper. At least it is in my opinion. ([I]If I had eyesight, I would never run out of things to do as my creative nature would always have me finding something to improve on during times nothing else is going on. I also find it really fun to listen to movies, books, etc. while doing chores. I just get lost in so much stuff, get exercise, and my sense of accomplishment is off the charts!)
***
Something fun I have learned is how diapers can be used with great effect for leaks in appliances. I use baby diapers for my, until it can be fixed, dishwasher leak. I have been strategically placing them so that I can narrow down the primary leak sources by finding the diaper that has absorbed the most. I now know the two places it leaks the most and can tell the repair dude where to look. :)
Also, another DIY Diaper benefit is cleaning. As I cannot physically see what grossness may be lurking in my sinks, or tub, I hold the diaper like a giant sponge and just dig into what is in all the nooks and crannies of the basins. It has saved me a lot of yuck given how, no surprise, my 14 year old isn't really on the ball with cleaning up the sink after he 'helps' me with dishes. :)
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I like the idea of making a house your own through the creation of various repairs and add-ons. Knowing you got the basic framework to customize as you can is super-duper. At least it is in my opinion. ([I]If I had eyesight, I would never run out of things to do as my creative nature would always have me finding something to improve on during times nothing else is going on. I also find it really fun to listen to movies, books, etc. while doing chores. I just get lost in so much stuff, get exercise, and my sense of accomplishment is off the charts!)
***
Something fun I have learned is how diapers can be used with great effect for leaks in appliances. I use baby diapers for my, until it can be fixed, dishwasher leak. I have been strategically placing them so that I can narrow down the primary leak sources by finding the diaper that has absorbed the most. I now know the two places it leaks the most and can tell the repair dude where to look. :)
Also, another DIY Diaper benefit is cleaning. As I cannot physically see what grossness may be lurking in my sinks, or tub, I hold the diaper like a giant sponge and just dig into what is in all the nooks and crannies of the basins. It has saved me a lot of yuck given how, no surprise, my 14 year old isn't really on the ball with cleaning up the sink after he 'helps' me with dishes. :)
Woo! Haha I wasn't sure if it was gonna be a story, but it still kinda was! It's a big event to happen for Daddy's Day weekend, glad you have a cool new home up ahead that'll be a good spot for your mom and Peep both. :3 Hopefully something can work out with your current apartment, it can be tricky, but it sounds like you're close and set so I hope everything else can fall into place. :3 Woo~!
*Giggles* Semi-Story as, well, I knew the timing of Father's Day aligned well with the news. Oxnard hugging a Pappy DILF Yosh just made me remember how I did not do this alone and how it was caring support that made it all possible. *Schmubby-Wubby*
***
I have some story ideas for Yosh, Oxnard, Winry, and Nishi. However I need to finish other projects I have strewn across the table. I need to really get into my 'Spike Mode' so I can make things all tidy. I work best when I do not feel like I am being lazy towards something else that is also relevant.
***
I have some story ideas for Yosh, Oxnard, Winry, and Nishi. However I need to finish other projects I have strewn across the table. I need to really get into my 'Spike Mode' so I can make things all tidy. I work best when I do not feel like I am being lazy towards something else that is also relevant.
You do more for your parents than you may realize, Leon.
***
Over the years, I never thought what I did had any profound meaning to anyone. This, as I came to realize, was a result of how our society tells us what makes for success and what does not.
This said, if you step out from the trappings of societal expectations and measures of what makes your contribution worthwhile, you will see that you do far more for your family than you think. More importantly is how you do things that only 'you' can do and, truly, being uniquely gifted in helping those closest to you is better than being just another sheep "Keeping up with the Jones". :)
***
When we met at BronyCon, I can tell you that I got nothing but positive vibes from those family members I got to meet. They certainly value you and know you are doing quite more than you give yourself credit for.
To this, and I learned this after years-and-years, is that those things that seem easy to you are not easy for others. So, when you think of it, definitely remember that what you are able to do is far more than many others can do. The fact it comes easy is just because you so happen to enjoy / have a 'Cutie Mark' for it. :)
***
Over the years, I never thought what I did had any profound meaning to anyone. This, as I came to realize, was a result of how our society tells us what makes for success and what does not.
This said, if you step out from the trappings of societal expectations and measures of what makes your contribution worthwhile, you will see that you do far more for your family than you think. More importantly is how you do things that only 'you' can do and, truly, being uniquely gifted in helping those closest to you is better than being just another sheep "Keeping up with the Jones". :)
***
When we met at BronyCon, I can tell you that I got nothing but positive vibes from those family members I got to meet. They certainly value you and know you are doing quite more than you give yourself credit for.
To this, and I learned this after years-and-years, is that those things that seem easy to you are not easy for others. So, when you think of it, definitely remember that what you are able to do is far more than many others can do. The fact it comes easy is just because you so happen to enjoy / have a 'Cutie Mark' for it. :)
Thanks, Saphy! *Hugs* Perhaps, one day, you can come and visit? Your travels may take you through the Harrisburg PA area and, should they do so, I would love to have you over to meet my mom and have art fun with Peep. (Plus you can see all my ponies and the ponies you helped me get.)
Thank you, Tacki. Honestly I never thought of this and had long given up on owning a home. It was my mom who just kept pushing-and-pushing until I realized that she wanted this place as much as Peep wanted more privacy as he enters into his High School years.
So, in thinking outside myself and what works best for me, I now know that any sacrifice made going forward is going to make both my mom and son happy.
So, in thinking outside myself and what works best for me, I now know that any sacrifice made going forward is going to make both my mom and son happy.
Thank you, Sweetie. It has been a very long journey filled with negative and positive times. Knowing that, with my mother helping, this is going to be a possibility is very exciting.
I hope that you know that you will also achieve such wonderful accomplishments, too, Sweetie. What makes me say this is how I never in my life thought that someone like myself would even be considered for such an opportunity. You truly never know when life will look up. There are a lot of scary things that cause anxiety and depression. However it is my hope that I can help show that there can be good outcomes with time and determination.
*Snugs* I will always be wishing you all the best as you journey towards a happy future, Sweetie. I will also do all I can to be a good friend and support you in whatever way I can so we can both see a happy future.
I hope that you know that you will also achieve such wonderful accomplishments, too, Sweetie. What makes me say this is how I never in my life thought that someone like myself would even be considered for such an opportunity. You truly never know when life will look up. There are a lot of scary things that cause anxiety and depression. However it is my hope that I can help show that there can be good outcomes with time and determination.
*Snugs* I will always be wishing you all the best as you journey towards a happy future, Sweetie. I will also do all I can to be a good friend and support you in whatever way I can so we can both see a happy future.
Oh my gosh, I can't believe I missed this! Congratulations on home ownership! I'm so happy you've got a place that's better for you, for your mom, and especially for Peep. That's so wonderful that you were able to get the price down that low.
I hope the paperwork wasn't too difficult and that moving is equally painless. Getting all your stuff moved is a pain in the tushie sometimes.
Happy well-belated fifteen years of fatherhood!
I hope the paperwork wasn't too difficult and that moving is equally painless. Getting all your stuff moved is a pain in the tushie sometimes.
Happy well-belated fifteen years of fatherhood!
*Snugs* Thank you, Mommy Nutalie! The home fell through. However I learned a lot from doing all the paperwork and other actions that went into the process of home ownership.
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The biggest lesson I learned is that, no matter where I go next in life, I need to have access to someone who is invested in being my helpful pair of eyes. There is just too much I miss without the benefit of physical eyesight. I would love to modify a home to my liking, but there are so many things I cannot do, or notice, without eyesight.
I'm still going to be looking for a new crib to crawl into. Though, despite losing some money, I have a far better idea of what I am looking for and what I need to do in order to make it all work out.
***
*Sleepy Snugs* Love you, Mommy Nutalie!
***
The biggest lesson I learned is that, no matter where I go next in life, I need to have access to someone who is invested in being my helpful pair of eyes. There is just too much I miss without the benefit of physical eyesight. I would love to modify a home to my liking, but there are so many things I cannot do, or notice, without eyesight.
I'm still going to be looking for a new crib to crawl into. Though, despite losing some money, I have a far better idea of what I am looking for and what I need to do in order to make it all work out.
***
*Sleepy Snugs* Love you, Mommy Nutalie!
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