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Another symbolic piece of art, which can be interpreted as you will as a viewer. But it is vent art inspired by a conversation I had with a lovely old shaman friend of mine, where I told them something like:
"You say that your life's purpose is to be the bringer of love, and that my purpose might be to be the bringer of truth. Well, I've been single my whole life with few to no friends at all, while you are surrounded by hundreds and are also at your 8th or so relationship. Relationships which were always started and broken up by you. All this makes sense though when you think about it, doesn't it? Haha."
Meanwhile I also realize how naive I was to think they weren't playing around with our friendship all those years. No, people who jump from one love relationship to the next will also do the same with friends.
What is it called when your closest friend abandons you out of nowhere, because of more interesting people they met recently, and simply stop the contact with you for many months at the time? I got acquaintance-zoned? That happened, after 9 years of considering the person to be the closest friend I've ever had. Wake up to reality, wake up to truth. I was merely a toy, a guinea pig for them to get to know different kinds of people and learn how to manipulate individually. Like a general studying the art of war, practicing on different armies and battle fields.
Aaand soooo my serious trust issues with people intensify once again.
Fact is, people will often choose nice things like love (whether romance, friendship, family, etc) over nasty things like truth. Because truth shows everything, including all the bullshit which love tries to cover up and hide away from your sense of reality.
It's a classic trap and I keep falling for it too often. Buy my trust with kindness and then throw me away as soon as you're bored. And if you're a patient person with much time on your hands, it's a 100% success rate. Make me believe that genuine loyalty and caring is involved, and you're already there. You've won. You can break me into pieces now.
"You say that your life's purpose is to be the bringer of love, and that my purpose might be to be the bringer of truth. Well, I've been single my whole life with few to no friends at all, while you are surrounded by hundreds and are also at your 8th or so relationship. Relationships which were always started and broken up by you. All this makes sense though when you think about it, doesn't it? Haha."
Meanwhile I also realize how naive I was to think they weren't playing around with our friendship all those years. No, people who jump from one love relationship to the next will also do the same with friends.
What is it called when your closest friend abandons you out of nowhere, because of more interesting people they met recently, and simply stop the contact with you for many months at the time? I got acquaintance-zoned? That happened, after 9 years of considering the person to be the closest friend I've ever had. Wake up to reality, wake up to truth. I was merely a toy, a guinea pig for them to get to know different kinds of people and learn how to manipulate individually. Like a general studying the art of war, practicing on different armies and battle fields.
Aaand soooo my serious trust issues with people intensify once again.
Fact is, people will often choose nice things like love (whether romance, friendship, family, etc) over nasty things like truth. Because truth shows everything, including all the bullshit which love tries to cover up and hide away from your sense of reality.
It's a classic trap and I keep falling for it too often. Buy my trust with kindness and then throw me away as soon as you're bored. And if you're a patient person with much time on your hands, it's a 100% success rate. Make me believe that genuine loyalty and caring is involved, and you're already there. You've won. You can break me into pieces now.
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I'm no expert on this, so lemme start by saying it's a beautiful piece.
On the personal side, sometimes it's better to be alone than in bad company. This may not help much, but you were not the one who faltered on his loyalty. Definitely betrayal hurts terribly, although you can stand proudly because you did not betray yourself by becoming what you dislike and betrayed someone else.
You have all the right to not trust and take your time to heal, just know it wasn't on you nor that you caused it. Good wishes to you and I hope these words help at least a tiny bit.
On the personal side, sometimes it's better to be alone than in bad company. This may not help much, but you were not the one who faltered on his loyalty. Definitely betrayal hurts terribly, although you can stand proudly because you did not betray yourself by becoming what you dislike and betrayed someone else.
You have all the right to not trust and take your time to heal, just know it wasn't on you nor that you caused it. Good wishes to you and I hope these words help at least a tiny bit.
Thank you for your thoughtful feedback, I appreciate it. :)
The irony is, the person became a close friend to me BECAUSE they let me be myself around them. For someone like me who has grown up around people who kept counting everything wrong with me and told me to be better than what I am, this was a brandnew experience.
Imagine you're a dog among cat lovers and suddenly you find someone who's cool with dogs, and so you come wagging your tail like an idiot. This is what I feel like right now... a dumbass overly excited dog. :'D
The irony is, the person became a close friend to me BECAUSE they let me be myself around them. For someone like me who has grown up around people who kept counting everything wrong with me and told me to be better than what I am, this was a brandnew experience.
Imagine you're a dog among cat lovers and suddenly you find someone who's cool with dogs, and so you come wagging your tail like an idiot. This is what I feel like right now... a dumbass overly excited dog. :'D
Definitely I get your feeling, so I agree that it's bitter to see it go away just like that.
I wish you the best, and it's alright of feeling sad or overall pain because of this. Don't ignore it, just embrace it because all goes up and down, and you'll find true people who you can be friends with :3
If this helps in any way, I've had my share of betrayals from family, friends and partners too, so I get you. Don't let it get to you too badly, you got this and take your time.
I wish you the best, and it's alright of feeling sad or overall pain because of this. Don't ignore it, just embrace it because all goes up and down, and you'll find true people who you can be friends with :3
If this helps in any way, I've had my share of betrayals from family, friends and partners too, so I get you. Don't let it get to you too badly, you got this and take your time.
I understand this all too deeply! Most are indeed fairweather friends who are only interested in you at your best and are unwilling to break through disagreements, Especially if they've already had replacements in mind. Its takes years of effort to coexist as lifelong friends. Most will never reach this level beacuse the truth will eventually make them look inwardly at themselves. Naturally, most flee from such responsibility. That, and drifts will happen as your interests change or the foundations were never strong to begin with.
Im convinced that 90 percent of internet "friends" recycle people when someone new shows. There ARE amazing genuine people out there, but its like finding a hay in a needle stack.
Im convinced that 90 percent of internet "friends" recycle people when someone new shows. There ARE amazing genuine people out there, but its like finding a hay in a needle stack.
As the guy below me said "some people are blessings, others are lessons." Its best to consider the loss as just that: a loss. Try not to hold onto it and consider them a lesson; something you learn from and can carry into a much stronger relationship. Perhaps with time, you can make amends. Many people will leave your life for even years and eventually turn up out pf the blue hoping to rekindle with new lessons learned on both sides. Sometimes people just need to say "look, we were both young, stupid, and closed minded, lets just move on."
Regardless, its a beautifully symbolic image that can have a ton of different relatable interpretations!
Regardless, its a beautifully symbolic image that can have a ton of different relatable interpretations!
I'm sorry that has happened to you. A bad break-up sure doesn't have to be between romantic partners, it sure as hell also happens between friends. I certainly have an X-friend as well... I noticed all too late just how far apart we had grown from each other and the result was ugly :/
It feels scary to think of all the time and concern you have wasted on said "friend", but I suppose we could only wish we could go back and do things differently. I think in the end it all comes down to the saying: Some people you meet along the way are a blessing while others are a lesson.
... And this sure sounds like one of them. Again, I'm so sorry that happened to you, that bloody sucks! But I hope you feel a bit better after having gotten to do a bit of vent art (beautiful work at that <3) and have hopefully got to put things in perspective/get some structure on your feelings. It may not solve much of the situation itself as it is, but I'm certain it still helps.
My own perspective on the matter of the symbolism, to me I think love is truth. (So sorry if I misunderstood the message you were trying to convey here, I just saw it as an opportunity to share a point of view ^_^; )
In my own relationship I have found that hiding away your problems/repressing your negative feelings gets in the way of love as it is a very frustrating and distracting force, and it can easily lead to misunderstandings if you don't talk things out... Having the "real talk" (regularly) with my SO sure has made me see and understand a lot of things more clearly, and for us, honesty is incredibly important in our relationship (as part of "loving each other for who we truly are" and all that). For us it works, but I'm sad to hear about all the relationships where it doesn't for... various reasons, I suppose, as we are all so different, delicate creatures with different opinions and ways to cope with things. I like this subject and this art piece as it does leave the door open for countless interpretations, and there isn't really a wrong answer to it. It's just good food for thought and you can't help but self-explore a little bit.
Thanks for sharing your view of things! Wish you all the best, JW! <3
It feels scary to think of all the time and concern you have wasted on said "friend", but I suppose we could only wish we could go back and do things differently. I think in the end it all comes down to the saying: Some people you meet along the way are a blessing while others are a lesson.
... And this sure sounds like one of them. Again, I'm so sorry that happened to you, that bloody sucks! But I hope you feel a bit better after having gotten to do a bit of vent art (beautiful work at that <3) and have hopefully got to put things in perspective/get some structure on your feelings. It may not solve much of the situation itself as it is, but I'm certain it still helps.
My own perspective on the matter of the symbolism, to me I think love is truth. (So sorry if I misunderstood the message you were trying to convey here, I just saw it as an opportunity to share a point of view ^_^; )
In my own relationship I have found that hiding away your problems/repressing your negative feelings gets in the way of love as it is a very frustrating and distracting force, and it can easily lead to misunderstandings if you don't talk things out... Having the "real talk" (regularly) with my SO sure has made me see and understand a lot of things more clearly, and for us, honesty is incredibly important in our relationship (as part of "loving each other for who we truly are" and all that). For us it works, but I'm sad to hear about all the relationships where it doesn't for... various reasons, I suppose, as we are all so different, delicate creatures with different opinions and ways to cope with things. I like this subject and this art piece as it does leave the door open for countless interpretations, and there isn't really a wrong answer to it. It's just good food for thought and you can't help but self-explore a little bit.
Thanks for sharing your view of things! Wish you all the best, JW! <3
"Some people you meet along the way are a blessing while others are a lesson."
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That's beautiful, I don't remember ever hearing that saying.
Yes, I think drawing this helped me unload some things. c: That, or maybe I'm happy I get to draw anything after a long art block, or both, haha.
The topic of whether love IS truth or whether it's two things, is something I could discuss with someone forever (in a respectful way btw, it's no angry topic for me). Especially because the definition of love has become so blurry for me. And then people have different lives, different experiences which also influences their view of what love means.
For me, I like the saying "Love is blind."
Because you see this especially on people that fell in love. They're like:
"OMG this person is so wonderful and perfect in every way we're gonna have a beautiful relationship and we both wanna get married after knowing each other for like 3 weeks."
"You know, they've been in psychiatry for beating up their last relationship into a hospital, and being a hardcore out-of-control drug-addict?"
"Well, YEAH but I'm sure it's fine, they definitely changed. We love each other so much, mwah mwah darling."
And so after two years or sooner, they come back like
"Damn, I got beaten up badly over a disagreement and they also stole my money to buy more drugs, what an asshole. We gonna get a divorce, I never saw that coming."
That is the difference between love and truth to me. Love tries to paint things in pretty colors and hold on to hopes if they're unrealistic. Truth is.. what is already THERE, yo know? Thruth shows you all colors of a rainbow, love says it's all pink with hearts around it, haha.
BUT I also really like reading about what is love from your perspective. It sounds like a healthy relationship when you wanna get real and honest over everything. c:
Thank you for your thoughtful feedback, by the way~
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That's beautiful, I don't remember ever hearing that saying.
Yes, I think drawing this helped me unload some things. c: That, or maybe I'm happy I get to draw anything after a long art block, or both, haha.
The topic of whether love IS truth or whether it's two things, is something I could discuss with someone forever (in a respectful way btw, it's no angry topic for me). Especially because the definition of love has become so blurry for me. And then people have different lives, different experiences which also influences their view of what love means.
For me, I like the saying "Love is blind."
Because you see this especially on people that fell in love. They're like:
"OMG this person is so wonderful and perfect in every way we're gonna have a beautiful relationship and we both wanna get married after knowing each other for like 3 weeks."
"You know, they've been in psychiatry for beating up their last relationship into a hospital, and being a hardcore out-of-control drug-addict?"
"Well, YEAH but I'm sure it's fine, they definitely changed. We love each other so much, mwah mwah darling."
And so after two years or sooner, they come back like
"Damn, I got beaten up badly over a disagreement and they also stole my money to buy more drugs, what an asshole. We gonna get a divorce, I never saw that coming."
That is the difference between love and truth to me. Love tries to paint things in pretty colors and hold on to hopes if they're unrealistic. Truth is.. what is already THERE, yo know? Thruth shows you all colors of a rainbow, love says it's all pink with hearts around it, haha.
BUT I also really like reading about what is love from your perspective. It sounds like a healthy relationship when you wanna get real and honest over everything. c:
Thank you for your thoughtful feedback, by the way~
Infatuation is what really paints things in a pink little neon light. Real, true and genuine love is all accompanying truth, wisdom, compassion, aid, ect
Love at its core is the most powerful force of all.
Infatuation feeds strictly on romanticism. In other words; its cheap and a lie.
That's just my own perspective on it. I'm definitely seeing your point so I'm not here to heat up anything at all!
Love at its core is the most powerful force of all.
Infatuation feeds strictly on romanticism. In other words; its cheap and a lie.
That's just my own perspective on it. I'm definitely seeing your point so I'm not here to heat up anything at all!
Nah, I totally see your point! And I enjoy our conversation.
I used to think this blind love thing only works for romanticism. Turns out, I react the same way about friendship. Only after I was dropped like that, I had some time to think about what kind of friendship that was. And found out that I also interpreted more in it than there actually was.
I used to think it's a mutual friendship thing, when it was more like a therapist-client relationship in the end, haha. For example, they never came to me to open up and cry in my presence. Now I think it is kinda weird when you've known someone for 9 years, but never really got to their core. But you opened up to them.
And now I'm worried it was a mistake, because there's nothing I can win from this, only lose. That they can only use it against me, while I have nothing to use against them.
But that's also me overthinking everything.
I used to think this blind love thing only works for romanticism. Turns out, I react the same way about friendship. Only after I was dropped like that, I had some time to think about what kind of friendship that was. And found out that I also interpreted more in it than there actually was.
I used to think it's a mutual friendship thing, when it was more like a therapist-client relationship in the end, haha. For example, they never came to me to open up and cry in my presence. Now I think it is kinda weird when you've known someone for 9 years, but never really got to their core. But you opened up to them.
And now I'm worried it was a mistake, because there's nothing I can win from this, only lose. That they can only use it against me, while I have nothing to use against them.
But that's also me overthinking everything.
I COMPLETELY get it! I've had many friendships fall off after years. However its MUCH less common in real life so you're very wise protecting yourself from superficial online relationships. If your "friend" cannot bring themselves to be their genuine, human, messy, emotional selves around you, it was best to be removed from it. A genuine person needs a genuine friend.
I've always liked the saying, "Friends come and go, enemies accumulate" ;) This is a very interesting piece and open to different interpretations, as someone else with trust issues I've learned not to dwell on the people who've wronged you because you can be absolutely certain they're not thinking about you.
The other day, a friend told me how her therapist tries to help her by comparing life with a train. You're sitting in a train, going in the direction of your path of life or something. And stop by stop, passengers come in and passengers leave when their stop arrives. And others come in, and leave again. And apparently, this is what people and friends are in your life. Coming and going.
I don't know. It's kinda hard to bond for me, knowing it's not gonna last anyway. Also, I'm kinda terrified of someone interested in dating me because of this. Maybe it's just another passenger. Someone who uses a lot of charme and kindness, and then leaves again.
I don't know. It's kinda hard to bond for me, knowing it's not gonna last anyway. Also, I'm kinda terrified of someone interested in dating me because of this. Maybe it's just another passenger. Someone who uses a lot of charme and kindness, and then leaves again.
That makes sense, some people stay longer than others I suppose and some people are around for most of your life, and the same for the people's lives you enter and then leave.
I guess I have a different attitude to this coming from a time and place where people tended to marry and stay together, of my childhood friends I only know one person who's parents divorced and they got back together again after 20 years. Of my own generation things aren't nearly as stable. So it *is* possible to find the right person even if I haven't done so myself.
To be honest I'm not sure what to think about social relationships today, there's an awful lot of players out there as you say.
I guess I have a different attitude to this coming from a time and place where people tended to marry and stay together, of my childhood friends I only know one person who's parents divorced and they got back together again after 20 years. Of my own generation things aren't nearly as stable. So it *is* possible to find the right person even if I haven't done so myself.
To be honest I'm not sure what to think about social relationships today, there's an awful lot of players out there as you say.
I find that a very important saying to keep in mind for sure :)
I'm glad it's not an angry topic! Not for me either ^^)b
It's just one of those things that are bound to be different depending on which ever point of view we see it from, because we all have different baggage, and it is interesting to hear everyone's good points :)
Oh! Hahaha! Yes, I forgot about the rose-tinted glasses!! XD
In that way love can definitely be blind, but I think I still agree mostly with Valentine on this one: I may have referred to it as looking at someone with rose-tinted glasses here (that blinds out all of the flaws ( and red flags!!! ^^; ) but he probably describes it better with the term "infatuation"... This overwhelming rush of positive, "lovey-dovey", horny emotions, the fangirling/fanboying crush that (in my experience) surely is always temporary. It's strong! But it's always been temporary because it's based on a fantasy... Or the little lies that you tell yourself because you don't want to think badly of who ever you're crushing on.
I see the crush as a sort of stepping-stone to love. Like, when the crush fades away and you can see and judge things more clearly again (Droppin' those rose-tinted glasses): If you still like the person after the crush is over, see them for who they are and you still - like - that, then that's where I would say that real love can slowly begin to develop. It takes time and you gotta nurture it (Both parts of course!), unlike that horny/excited/overwhelming/happy-happy-joy crush that comes waltzing in on its own. At least, that's the experience I have got on the subject, but I'm sure there are countless ways to interpret love :)
Sorry about the late reply, I wanted to have the time to take my time to reply ^^
I'm glad it's not an angry topic! Not for me either ^^)b
It's just one of those things that are bound to be different depending on which ever point of view we see it from, because we all have different baggage, and it is interesting to hear everyone's good points :)
Oh! Hahaha! Yes, I forgot about the rose-tinted glasses!! XD
In that way love can definitely be blind, but I think I still agree mostly with Valentine on this one: I may have referred to it as looking at someone with rose-tinted glasses here (that blinds out all of the flaws ( and red flags!!! ^^; ) but he probably describes it better with the term "infatuation"... This overwhelming rush of positive, "lovey-dovey", horny emotions, the fangirling/fanboying crush that (in my experience) surely is always temporary. It's strong! But it's always been temporary because it's based on a fantasy... Or the little lies that you tell yourself because you don't want to think badly of who ever you're crushing on.
I see the crush as a sort of stepping-stone to love. Like, when the crush fades away and you can see and judge things more clearly again (Droppin' those rose-tinted glasses): If you still like the person after the crush is over, see them for who they are and you still - like - that, then that's where I would say that real love can slowly begin to develop. It takes time and you gotta nurture it (Both parts of course!), unlike that horny/excited/overwhelming/happy-happy-joy crush that comes waltzing in on its own. At least, that's the experience I have got on the subject, but I'm sure there are countless ways to interpret love :)
Sorry about the late reply, I wanted to have the time to take my time to reply ^^
I'd be lying if I said I'd never been stabbed in the back by a close friend. I'm better at choosing my male friends than women; shaking hands tells me a lot about a man's personality. It doesn't work with the ladies. People who have burned me online -- I never have the contact to see what's going on in their hearts and minds.
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