*hug* I’m sorry about this.

Dont lose hope friend. Things will get better one day

the shaving part is a mood though

hugs
you'll get there I promise

Even when reality hits hard and sucks, you still deserve nothing but the best, and I hope that you can make some of your dreams come true this year and look towards the positives.

I feel ya my friend, you're not alone.
Though in my case it's the other way around.

I can understand of expectation of reality. You still are cool furry and you will get far ahead in ambition.

I don't know what words to use in thsi case. Only that you should keep going. You went to far to get where you are, it would be a shame if you gave up.

That's a big mood. But improvement and changes happen little by little, and they're hard to appreciate in the moment. You have to take joy in the small steps you take toward your goal, as hard as it may be. =3

I'm gonna say something very unpopular here. Stop chasing an impossible goal. No amount of hormone replacement treatments or surgery will make you into the woman you want to be. Accept yourself for who you are, flaws and all. It will be better for your mental health in the long run. The things you can change about your body involves eating better and exercise. Maybe a nice hairstyle. Live out your fantasies through other means. Roleplaying, art, writing short stories, play as girls in videogames, all is good. Crossdress if it makes you happy! But I'm not going to encourage any destructive behaviour for your body or mental health.

I just don’t know if this is the answer. It’s just what society already tells everyone to do. I think you were trying to be supportive but it came off incredibly mean spirited and belittling to the expression of gender dysphoria in pic

Mean spirited and belittling? No, I'm just concerned, honest and serious. Taking care of your body and finding alternative outlets is healthy. Upsetting your natural hormonal balance and doing invasive surgery is dangerous.

Telling people you don’t know the weight of to diet and telling them a summary of what any magazine will tell everyone to do to feel "better" and be "happy" is not helpful. Even if you wanted to be helpful. I am not upset I just want to make sure you know that... Like I said, I understand you are saying you meant well and are even concerned, but telling people to diet lose weight is just incredibly rude… it would make any man or women feel bad being told to just lose weight and exercise. Because you aren’t the first or last to say it and it’s a thoughtless thing to say without knowledge of details.

Also abouthormones: like all prescription drugs we take, the doctors make sure they work with their trans patients make sure they are on the right doses and work with the individual to make sure their transition goes well. A trans persons hormonal levels are really their and their doctors business. Your concern about ‘levels’ seems misplaced

You are saying you don’t want to recommend something dangerous, but dieting often leads to nutrition deficiencies, starving to lose weight. and working out isn’t a magic cure all. Also you don’t know if you are just repeating what they’ve already tried. All I’m saying is your suggestions are just as harmful or worse to a humans psyche and physique. Food restriction is one way a lot of people ‘punish’ themselves and it is also what most anyone will say because of the impossible beauty standards. I’m saying your recomendation is not realistic and was unoriginal, insensitive and un-thoughtful. Maybe just consider your words and think of their impact next time. Or think of how your advice isn’t a fix-all bandaid.

You added something about surgery so I wanna say this: Being scared of surgery is valid dude!! Surgery is very scary, to me too. Ever since I was a kid I’ve been scared of all my invasive surgeries- all of which have been life-saving. It’s normal. But this is a part and nature of our lives is finding support through these inevitable events. There are a myriad of things our Human body needs medical health with, all of which are, ‘messing with the natural state o things, or whatever…?. But It’s not cool to project that fear onto others. It’s actually really uncool

Yeah bud this ain't it.
Gender affirming surgeries and hormone replacement therapy exist for a reason, and they're proven the world over to be safe, to alleviate gender dysphoria, and to improve the overall mental wellbeing of trans individuals in almost all cases. It's not "destructive", if anything its constructive, it's a way for people to physically manifest the person they see themselves as, and often that's ultimately what's most important to them.
I'm not gonna stand by and let this kind of casual transphobia go unanswered, because frankly that's what it is.

I think you are the most beautiful diva

Thank you for sharing this with us. It means a lot to feel known by all of us dealing with dysphoria. I’m thankful you can share these feelings so bravely with others.

I just wanna share my experience, because I can relate to feeling "made wrong", as a trans guy…. My face is incredibly tiny….. all my clothes are xs... I think look like a little boy instead of the man I want to be… my silhouette to me always looks and is perceived as a my assigned gender... I would get really upset about everything, and, because it hurt so much, I denied it for a long time, these feelings, choosing to ignore them, searching for other answers. But even through all that self loathing and fear, what I’ve found that makes me happy is: it still makes me smile and feel at ease, to dress and present the way I want to. Don’t let others expectations and societies impossible beauty standards stop you from being you.. Even if it can feel all consuming or like you should just give in to the numbness. Take the baby steps, and celebrate your worth right here in now, because you are worthy, and deserve to be happy.. And know so many empathize with you and understand what you’re dealing with. Gender dysphoria is no joke.

You should do what makes you feel good and pretty because you ARE worthy and pretty and valid no matter what.

When I said it means a lot is because- these feelings are truly relatable, and shared by so many millions of cis females too. You really aren’t alone. My body dysmorphic cis cousins and my gender dysphoric trans self can relate and draw strength together. You aren’t alone in battling dysphoria. And you have the support of many. Our bodies may not be perfect but your feelings are real and so is your beauty too okay

Big mood

This. This is why I've always been in favor of letting people change their bodies as they wish (as long as they don't try to force others to pay for everything), and why I still wish we were further along in manipulating human biology. Hell, we don't have a "cure" for male-pattern baldness, just a way to try and hold it back.
Here's to hoping that we can find more ways to combat how our bodies are genetically formed to shape our selves into the people we want to be: mentally AND physically.

Very brave piece.

I wish there was a better answer than "keep working, every step counts".... but, even after 15 years living full-time, and a decade of hormones, there's always ideals you strive for but fall short of...

I live in hope, and understanding, that most folks have ideals they fall short of: we're all a work in progress ^^
Just gotta keep practicing!
Heck, 15 years in, I still have to strategically shave to get 10-12 hours of effective make-up, knowing I might have to scurry away before becoming a pumpkin at midnight: it's not stopped others saying kind things, or people liking me, or passing in public.

Please don't lose hope!
You'll get there sometime in the future!!

This hits way too close to home. Please dont lose hope!

Make the best with what God gave you and embrace your masculinity. You'd definitely feel a lot better just staying the way you are and with time you'll experience true happiness!