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This is not an apology.
This is blame deflection.
This is condescension upon condescension.
This is gaslighting.
This is NOT. How you TALK. To the ARTIST. You just tried to COMMISSION.
Honestly, this isn't how to talk to anyone. I have removed the name out of the the only respect I will give this person, as online backlash doesn't help anyone.
But let's not ignore the fact that this person subverted the ban in question to drop this brick of self-serving, sanctimonious bullshit on my lap by contacting me on a platform I hadn't yet blocked them on. Not even to apologize, but to evasively BLAME ME for their own hateful, condescending drivel, wrapped in a thin veil of "honest advice."
End rant, I'm going to work. See y'all later with some spicy art.
This is condescension upon condescension.
This is gaslighting.
This is NOT. How you TALK. To the ARTIST. You just tried to COMMISSION.
Honestly, this isn't how to talk to anyone. I have removed the name out of the the only respect I will give this person, as online backlash doesn't help anyone.
But let's not ignore the fact that this person subverted the ban in question to drop this brick of self-serving, sanctimonious bullshit on my lap by contacting me on a platform I hadn't yet blocked them on. Not even to apologize, but to evasively BLAME ME for their own hateful, condescending drivel, wrapped in a thin veil of "honest advice."
End rant, I'm going to work. See y'all later with some spicy art.
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Ah yes, the age old manipulative trick of saying "be more compassionate" to make you feel like you were not being fair when they really mean "be more subservient".
Some of the worst mistakes I have made being an artist for hire, and ones that cost me a lot of time, money, and mental health were allowing commissioners to get away with more than normal & be overly nice and tolerant because I thought it'd provide a better service and take me further.
No, it just lost me a ton of money and they socially abused me.
Some of the worst mistakes I have made being an artist for hire, and ones that cost me a lot of time, money, and mental health were allowing commissioners to get away with more than normal & be overly nice and tolerant because I thought it'd provide a better service and take me further.
No, it just lost me a ton of money and they socially abused me.
Telling me not to treat this like a business basically meant "only day nice things to me and defer when I demand a discount."
This IS a business. In casual conversation, I will be casual. In business conversation, I will be formal.
I'm not a naive, desperate teenager. I know what I'm worth, and it's more than what that guy wants to offer. Too bad for him.
This IS a business. In casual conversation, I will be casual. In business conversation, I will be formal.
I'm not a naive, desperate teenager. I know what I'm worth, and it's more than what that guy wants to offer. Too bad for him.
This is not an apology nor is it "friendly advice", this is an entitled child explaining why you owe them something and how they are offended that you didn't deliver whatever it is they feel entitled to on a silver plate with a smile. This person sounds like the type that goes to a restaurant and instead of a tip leaves a note for the waitress to "Find a better job." You treat your commissions as a business transaction because that's what it is, they are paying you for a service. It's good to be polite throughout that process but the same goes for the client as well and you shouldn't be expected to kiss someone's... rump just because they bought a commission from you.
Digitally beams hugs should they be needed. Seriously though, this mouse is sorry to hear that happened. Gave up on art a long time ago and never ran into this, so sadly mouse can't say she understands the feeling, but boy, heck mouse if that person trying to be scary manipulative. And she DOES know how that feels x-x wish there was more mouse could do to help.
As soon as he said "I'm sorry things turned out like that" I knew it was not a sincere apology at all. No specificity, no acknowledgment for his faults, nothing. Just blame-shifting and gaslighting. I especially hate it when he said "be more compassionate". Very shameful guilt-tripping tactic from that person!
I'm so sorry you had to deal with toxic people like him.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with toxic people like him.
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