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I never thought I would extend my hand to ask for as much support as I am now. Life hasn't been the kindest for us all, yet here I am asking for help. A part of me is expecting this to sit and gather nothing but spiders and dust. Yet there is small hope that I can get close enough to my goal to work my butt off to finish it.
The pandemic did a great deal of damage to us all (discounting the actual virus itself). Isolation forced us to reflect for the time we were in lock down. Being battered by paranoia and fear mongering from your government. I had realised in this time that I have had imposter syndrome for so long in my jobs, not because of doubt in skill, but of the person using the skill. Given time alone and access to the internet, I began exploring who I am and what all of that means.
Ta-dah! A blue, white and pink flag unravelled behind me. At first I was excited, this is the most happy I have been able to look at my own reflection. To take what was beaten into me, and do the opposite... I cried soo many tears of joy in my wife's arms that first night, fully presenting as myself, her poor hard work on my makeup was for naught . Yet we began walking towards what we would later find out to be a really, REALLY, long minefield.
The current state of affairs in the UK regarding gender dysphoria assessments with just the waiting times alone is morale crushing to first find out. Up to 6-7 years for JUST the first assessment (2-3 required) for these assessments. This left me feeling trapped in a state of uncertainty and disarray as it has thousands in the UK. Yet it is the only service that has been given leniency on the NHS commitments to prompt referrals. Because 13 years of people, who hate anyone who isn't their kind of people, have deemed it's OK to fail a particular minority.
Once I get an assessment (in 2027?), I will be bombarded with a series of questions from a cis gendered person, that was written by a board of cis gendered men. These question are brutally private, graphic, and unnecessary. Nobody should go through that kind of information with a stranger, even a doctor, just to get the government rubber stamp of approval to live as myself. It was never a barrier for others, sadly.
That journey has been long so far, especially with close relatives who refused to accept me and turning their back on me. Then there is the media and the hate it is stirring up just to score political points for ignorant people. Drawing narratives that people like me are a danger to children and cis women. I love my wife, and would do anything for her without a second thought. Yet walking outside as myself has become dangerous. Using the restrooms has become dangerous, travelling for work to the states has become dangerous, speaking my truth has become dangerous.
It is also disheartening to acknowledge the recent statement made by the Prime Minister, who questioned the very essence of our identities, stating that "a woman doesn't have a man's genitals" This dismissive and uninformed perspective only exacerbates the struggle we face as a marginalized community.
By contributing to my GoFundMe campaign, you have the power to make a tangible difference in my muddy life. Your support will enable me to undergo the life-changing gender reassignment surgery, allowing me to embrace my true identity and live a more fulfilling and authentic life, free from angry people who just want to take their anger out on something, and Bright rainbow colours attract their attention.
I invite you to join me in this journey of empowerment and change. Together, we can challenge societal norms, break down barriers, and create a more inclusive and compassionate world.
Please consider donating to my cause, as your generosity will not only transform my life but also send a powerful message of support and acceptance to countless others who are facing similar challenges.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story and for being a champion of authenticity and empowerment. Your contribution, no matter the amount, is invaluable and greatly appreciated.
With heartfelt gratitude,
Lucy
(as an aside, if I can reach my goal quickly I will be more than happy to provide before and after pictures if you are interested ^^)
I never thought I would extend my hand to ask for as much support as I am now. Life hasn't been the kindest for us all, yet here I am asking for help. A part of me is expecting this to sit and gather nothing but spiders and dust. Yet there is small hope that I can get close enough to my goal to work my butt off to finish it.
The pandemic did a great deal of damage to us all (discounting the actual virus itself). Isolation forced us to reflect for the time we were in lock down. Being battered by paranoia and fear mongering from your government. I had realised in this time that I have had imposter syndrome for so long in my jobs, not because of doubt in skill, but of the person using the skill. Given time alone and access to the internet, I began exploring who I am and what all of that means.
Ta-dah! A blue, white and pink flag unravelled behind me. At first I was excited, this is the most happy I have been able to look at my own reflection. To take what was beaten into me, and do the opposite... I cried soo many tears of joy in my wife's arms that first night, fully presenting as myself, her poor hard work on my makeup was for naught . Yet we began walking towards what we would later find out to be a really, REALLY, long minefield.
The current state of affairs in the UK regarding gender dysphoria assessments with just the waiting times alone is morale crushing to first find out. Up to 6-7 years for JUST the first assessment (2-3 required) for these assessments. This left me feeling trapped in a state of uncertainty and disarray as it has thousands in the UK. Yet it is the only service that has been given leniency on the NHS commitments to prompt referrals. Because 13 years of people, who hate anyone who isn't their kind of people, have deemed it's OK to fail a particular minority.
Once I get an assessment (in 2027?), I will be bombarded with a series of questions from a cis gendered person, that was written by a board of cis gendered men. These question are brutally private, graphic, and unnecessary. Nobody should go through that kind of information with a stranger, even a doctor, just to get the government rubber stamp of approval to live as myself. It was never a barrier for others, sadly.
That journey has been long so far, especially with close relatives who refused to accept me and turning their back on me. Then there is the media and the hate it is stirring up just to score political points for ignorant people. Drawing narratives that people like me are a danger to children and cis women. I love my wife, and would do anything for her without a second thought. Yet walking outside as myself has become dangerous. Using the restrooms has become dangerous, travelling for work to the states has become dangerous, speaking my truth has become dangerous.
It is also disheartening to acknowledge the recent statement made by the Prime Minister, who questioned the very essence of our identities, stating that "a woman doesn't have a man's genitals" This dismissive and uninformed perspective only exacerbates the struggle we face as a marginalized community.
By contributing to my GoFundMe campaign, you have the power to make a tangible difference in my muddy life. Your support will enable me to undergo the life-changing gender reassignment surgery, allowing me to embrace my true identity and live a more fulfilling and authentic life, free from angry people who just want to take their anger out on something, and Bright rainbow colours attract their attention.
I invite you to join me in this journey of empowerment and change. Together, we can challenge societal norms, break down barriers, and create a more inclusive and compassionate world.
Please consider donating to my cause, as your generosity will not only transform my life but also send a powerful message of support and acceptance to countless others who are facing similar challenges.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story and for being a champion of authenticity and empowerment. Your contribution, no matter the amount, is invaluable and greatly appreciated.
With heartfelt gratitude,
Lucy
(as an aside, if I can reach my goal quickly I will be more than happy to provide before and after pictures if you are interested ^^)
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