This is a much more personal piece than I usually get. My sexuality is something that have struggled with a bit for a long time. Nothing really felt accurate. And while labels do not define who we are, they can be very helpful in figuring things out internally, as well as making it easier to explain to others.

As you might tell from my gallery, my interests are quite broad when it comes to attraction. Just about any combination of genders for my self insert and their partner, and a bonus for various gender shenanigans. But that was largely restricted to fantasy. In real life, I have never really looked for things like that. I have never really felt the desire or the need for similar physical activities. I have dated a few times, almost entirely with people online who eventually wanted to meet up in real life, at fur cons. But while I could tell they wanted more, I always felt uncomfortable with the idea. But I couldn't really explain it, to myself, or to them, so I didn't. Instead I was just kind of...non responsive when it came to interacting in real life. Online was fine, just not in reality.

I had never really considered ace as an option, because quite frankly I am very into various kinks (which is almost certainly why you're following me. However, a bit over a year ago, a friend of mine who is ace helped to introduce me to some of the options. Asexuality is a spectrum of different options, and one of them seemed to fit very well: Aegosexuality.

Aegosexuality means, basically "without self". That is, I enjoy the idea of sex as a fantasy, but not necessarily featuring myself directly involved. Of course, this sort of thing meshes really well with being a furry, because so much of it is a fantasy. But most people have physical desires extending beyond that, whereas for me it feels quite different.

As I said, this is all relatively recent, and I'm still kind of exploring things, but it feels right. And it's a good way to help explain to others why I am the way I am. It helps me to be much more forthcoming in future relationships, including the one I am in now. And I am sorry to those who had to deal with my lack of understanding myself in the past.

This is the first pride month where I've really felt confident in who and what I am, so I decided to commission this picture.

TL;DR
Aegosexuality

Art by  drakefenwick