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Narc Mom Comic #3
There's going to be more of these. I've been in therapy for about a year and these comics are my way of getting out a lot of thoughts I needed time to work though. Comics are my means of expression, so those thoughts are coming out in comic form. I also wanted to get this out because maybe one of these comics will help someone who needs to hear words like this.
When you go no contact THIS is the singular phrase you hear the most, usually by someone who just thinks you're being rebellious because you got spanked once or twice. It's amazingly easy to pass judgement about a situation that doesn't affect you, I suppose.
When you go no contact THIS is the singular phrase you hear the most, usually by someone who just thinks you're being rebellious because you got spanked once or twice. It's amazingly easy to pass judgement about a situation that doesn't affect you, I suppose.
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I won't ever understand this thought process. Like if someone has been abused, it doesn't matter how close a kin they are....THEY ARE AN ABUSER! just cause it is a blood relative that doesn't make it right! Hell there is family of mine I have cut off for less than physical/mental abuse. I have cut off family for being bigoted, racist, etc.
The people I notice that have this mindset came from good homes and no abuse (like me but I was raised to have a more open world view) and try to put their mindset on others.
The people I notice that have this mindset came from good homes and no abuse (like me but I was raised to have a more open world view) and try to put their mindset on others.
You have my sympathies, Gen. I never was physically abused but I was emotionally abused. No matter how good I was at something, I never was good enough for my father. However, I don't blame him, I blame his mother. She was just a cold person who, as far as I know, never said anything nice about any one of her kids (She had 7 who survived to adulthood.). I also never heard her say one loving thing to me or my sister. Maybe it was a good thing I never became a father because I'm afraid I would have passed that on to my kids.
Abusers always have plenty of enablers hanging on them like remoras on a shark. And blaming the victim is as old a practice as America, especially when a woman is involved.
It's all too easy for me to understand these wretched people. It doesn't mean I have to tolerate their bullshit. Screw them and screw your abusive mother. We like you for you.
It's all too easy for me to understand these wretched people. It doesn't mean I have to tolerate their bullshit. Screw them and screw your abusive mother. We like you for you.
This has always bothered me as well.
"But they're your MOM/DAD/GRANDPA/AUNT/whatever! You HAVE to forgive them, they're your FAMILY!" Like okay, and? Where were these people to tell your abuser this same stupid spoonfed response?
It's weakness and hypocrisy, plain and simple. If they were around, they were either too ignorant to care or they were too cowardly to confront the abuser out of fear it'd be directed at them. Then they wanna demand that YOU make a high road decision, but god forbid they set the same standards for your abuser.
It's a mad mad world.
"But they're your MOM/DAD/GRANDPA/AUNT/whatever! You HAVE to forgive them, they're your FAMILY!" Like okay, and? Where were these people to tell your abuser this same stupid spoonfed response?
It's weakness and hypocrisy, plain and simple. If they were around, they were either too ignorant to care or they were too cowardly to confront the abuser out of fear it'd be directed at them. Then they wanna demand that YOU make a high road decision, but god forbid they set the same standards for your abuser.
It's a mad mad world.
I've heard this far to oft. And oddly enough similar dialogue about my father.
Don't envy the mental and emotional backlash that comes from reliving those dark moments.
Forgive me for sayin this though but, I'm proud of you for being stronger then her. For not falling down the same dark hole she did.
Don't envy the mental and emotional backlash that comes from reliving those dark moments.
Forgive me for sayin this though but, I'm proud of you for being stronger then her. For not falling down the same dark hole she did.
...Yeah. I remember having this exact conversation in high school with mine. "You're supposed to listen to your mother!" "And you're supposed to care for your children. Why should /I/ honor the social contract when you clearly want it to just go one way? No way honey, you can go screw."
I haven't spoken to mine since the beginning of the year, either, and she keeps trying to call and leave messages like "I just don't know why you're so mad at me", like...Gosh I dunno, maybe if you take them two brain cells and rub 'em together you can figure it out.
I haven't spoken to mine since the beginning of the year, either, and she keeps trying to call and leave messages like "I just don't know why you're so mad at me", like...Gosh I dunno, maybe if you take them two brain cells and rub 'em together you can figure it out.
I know someone who is no-contact with most of his family. Although I'm sad about it, I've never tried to change his mind. Something like that is a very personal decision. On the other hand I know someone who really should go no-contact, since they do nothing but complain about what their family is putting them through, but still insist on keeping in contact.
I know other children with a similar experience. It's horrible.
I'm so glad you've gotten counseling. You're a wonderful and kind person-- your mother doesn't deserve to have a daughter as fine as you.
That said, I do hope you now have one or more loving mother figures in your life.
I'm so glad you've gotten counseling. You're a wonderful and kind person-- your mother doesn't deserve to have a daughter as fine as you.
That said, I do hope you now have one or more loving mother figures in your life.
Vent away. The catharsis is good for your psyche.
I've seen this first hand and was once selected for the jury pool on a murder case. The Defense and the Prosecution settled out of court (time served) and I was astounded at first. A former girlfriend was a close friend of the Defendant. She told me, after the fact, what went on in that house.
(* brrr! *)
I've seen this first hand and was once selected for the jury pool on a murder case. The Defense and the Prosecution settled out of court (time served) and I was astounded at first. A former girlfriend was a close friend of the Defendant. She told me, after the fact, what went on in that house.
(* brrr! *)
I'm glad that therapy, and these comics, are helping you to express these things. You didn't deserve this happening to you as a child, and everything I've seen from you just says to me how much of a caring and wonderful person you are. Not because you were automatically that, but because you worked to be that person.
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