they may be transpobic but i do still like their portrayal of queernes in fang, even it's not genuine like in most media, but rather herself experiment as a part of self-discovering. i think it's a deep and mature sight on the thing, we can't all be special and sometimes we try to convince ourselves we are something we aren't, something we often can't easily backtrack because of friends who are strongly enabling and supportive of this side of yourself you aren't even sure it's the real you.

Exactly, there is literally nothing wrong with (especially if you're a teenager) trying out different identities/pronouns and seeing if they're right for you, you can try identifying as nonbinary for a month or year or whatever and if you decide its not right for you then that's fine! I just hate that transphobes use people who went through that as a "gotcha" as to try and prove that being nb/trans/queer isn't real (or shouldn't be allowed or whatever). Tbh I wish more stories would showcase that part of gender self discovery but I understand the hesitation as jerks will try and take it and spin it the wrong way

its hard, if not nigh impossible to find these lind of stories from non-transphobes because the idea of someone being wrong about their non-cis identity if often seen as a taboo.
Not in an explicit way, but rather implicitally by what people refer to as toxic positivity and aformentione constant enabling, which honestly do make it all feel more oppressive and disturbing than the shit transphobes push to you. maybe its just me but i just find creepy the idea of a person, maybe a close friend or even your favourite parent showing a big smile, probably unaware or unable to understand that you genuinelg don't feel sure about being queer/trans and it makes you uneasy that just goes
"i'm encouraging you to express what you really are. how can i be wrong? are you sure you haven't been gaslit by him, your hateful, bigoted friend/parent?!"
and don't get me wrong, an idiot on the interned posting the YWNBAW copypasta will never gonna do shit nor contribute to any cause. pretty much incompetence made persom

I suppose its seen as "taboo" mostly cuz statistically only about 1-8% of trans people actually detransition (I'm unsure if this statistic includes nonbinary people but it gets the point across) and a majority of the time the reason for the detransition is because they don't feel safe doing so and will later continue when they are in a safe environment again. An overwhelming majority of queer people know they are queer, and its very important to show that especially in this current place in time when queer rights are on the verge of getting erased completely, but that doesn't mean the representation of the small group who don't know or who are still figuring things out isn't nice to see, like I'm queer and I'm still questioning and figuring things out, again its why I find SG Fang so relatable. At the end of the day if someone comes out to you as trans/nb/queer whatever, you have to take their word for it cuz the only person who knows is them. If they also come to you and say "Hey, I think I'm this but I'm not sure?" then you can give them your thoughts if they ask for your input and try and help them through their journey, but like, even if someone came out to me as puppygender or something, a gender that makes absolutely no sense to me, I'm not going to tell them to not identify that way, cuz I'm not them, I don't know what they're feeling and they have probably put a lot more thought into their identity than I have. I'm gender queer and I'm sure lots of people wouldn't understand the way I feel, but its not anyone elses business really, people identifying as whatever gender they want really affects me and everyone else around them 0%