very nice! I love the expression!

..... Alex COCKburn? XD

Personally I have always been the one in all my relationships, family, friend, lover, and so on that comes out and just says what I see and what I think. For the most part they never have ended the friendship completely they just needed a day or two to cool off and think about what I said. It most of the time got through but when it didn't, after hearing what I had to say they then saw it them self...

uhm? please don't lecture me about that, I do that because I can't stop myself

Fair enough

Oh and sorry I was not trying to make a reply to you personally I was just trying to make one to the image it self sorry about that.

It's a Scottish name. It's probably pronounced CO-burn.

Ah, that was more of an answer I was looking for, thanks

No problem. I don't know if that's the pronunciation he or his family uses, but it's a reasonable assumption.

if it's pronounced how I think it is, I'm going to laugh my ass off

If it's pronounced the way you think it is, try to imagine going through life like that.

I do, At one point in my life, my last name was blass. try being called blass ass all the time

I'll take your word for it. Yikes.

I knew a girl with the last name Balike pronounced "ball lickah", whats worse, her father came in for some presentations and he holds the rank of Major. After that, it was no suprise why she was a shy recluse.

Ai yi yi! Sometimes there really is no end to the pain, I guess.

My name's Sky Rains, but it sounds so unlikely that people usually call me a liar when I say that's my name...

That sounds like it'd get old extreeeeemely fast.

my good friend's last name is fister

she takes a lot of crap for it >.<

Yeah. It's surprising how difficult it is for some people to accept the honest truth.

Conversely, there are people who use the truth as a weapon, couching their perception of the truth in such a way as to hurt the other as if that proves their superiority. Tact and empathy as well as truthfulness are important, because as your speech points out, people have feelings.

And nice picture, I particularly like the graduating hatching you've used to shade.

heh i hear ya...i dunno i think its sad when you cant be honest to people ya know? its so hard cause you want to be a good friend or family member etc but you end up passing off a lie to keep from hurting their feelings *hugs* decided a long time ago that my true friends are the ones that wanted the honest truth from me and nothing else, yeah i lost some friends over it but the ones i have now are simply amazing

*squeeze* i hope nothing really bad came of your honesty

Honesty puts alot to the test. For a while I almost lost a close friend due to holding back a truth (long story short I played the part of a really frustrated Cyrano de Bergerac). I told the truth, and for awhile she hated me. After some time she realized I was telling the truth.

I don't think I could stomach a false friendship. They made me feel bitter, and I wound up hating myself for it. An honest person may suffer slings and arrows, but they do become stronger for it (I hate cliche, but can't help the truth).

Boy have I felt this way on numerous occasions. I am always truthful, and unfortunately it has gotten me in trouble often.

I myself am a very truthfull person and sometimes even a little too truthfull.
I pride myself in being as honest and true as I possibly can without loosing my sanity.

However, in order to be a fully truthfull person, sometimes sacrifices have to be made in order to avoid lying. Though that shouldnt be necessary as those you care about shouldny be looking for lies anyway.

Its hard to be fully truthfull, not only to yourself, but to others. Its usually best to keep the harsh stuff wraped up until you have a better way to say it or find the right time to say it right out.
Though when saying harsh things, its often best to explain that you do indeed care, as from what I know that tends to be the first part of the other's confusion.

Ive tried a relationship before, and was hurt that she was lying to me at all. Though despite my efforts she didnt want to work it out either.
I was turned into the bad guy eventually and even accused of lying myself. Tough aparently she was hiding something and well, just kinda ended it there without ever finding out.
After all that fuss I didnt want to keep bothering with it, would just bring up more trouble and stress.

In a relationship, I think its important to atleast have a time or place where you can both be truthfull and straight out with one another.
Holding things in can make things stronger, and even tear someone up on the inside.
A real relationship should be truthful or atleast work on it. Since the whole point of a relationship is to have a special bond and trust.

If the truth is too hard to tell at the time, well, sometimes its best to not bother saying it if your sure it wont hurt to leave it in and perhaps tell later (as you cant leave things in forever).
If its something truely hard and important, its best to just sit down and have a good calmed serious talk about it.
Maybe exclaim that you care about the other first before explaining. That way it wont turn into such a harsh blow.

Its always best to never have to lie, but I find that there are last resorts where one must a small bit in order to get the truth out later.
As long as the truth is on the way and eventually told, then it can be justified.
Though all this stuff reallyy depends on the person and the bond you have with this person.
If the bond isnt very close, then it may be harder than it should be.

Still, either way, full unaltered truth can be a hard thing to maintain. However it really depends on how willing you are to keep it or how willing the couple is to maintain it between them.

I myself would like to find a relationship I can be truthfull and understanding in. As I think these are important things to have.
Though as a truthful person I dont tink I mind being single the rest of my life. Though I still hope to find a girl I can relate with truthfully.
Being truthful is a very important thing to me, and despite it being a hard way to live, its the only way I think I can accept for myself.

This is all simply what Ive come to understand in my life so far. Im still learning afterall.

Bottom line though, is that you gotta be as truthfull as ya can handle. To be 100% truthful can take its toll on a person. Its best to not be right out with things and wait for the best times for it. Even lying atleast a small bit as a last resort with the will to repair the damage done by said lie.
Its hard to be as truthfull as possible, but it really depends on how much youcan handle, and how understanding the other person is.

This is simply what Ive come to understand as someone who lives as truthfully as sanely possible. (and yes I'm proud of it. Even if others dont always understand it :/)

BUT THE BRAVEST ARE SURELY THOSE WHO HAVE THE CLEAREST VISION OF WHAT IS BEFORE THEM, GLORY AND DANGER ALIKE, AND YET, NOTWITHSTANDING, GO OUT TO MEET IT.

Facing any fears you have to do what you feel is the right thing to do... I have said it before Alex...I wish i'd been as brave as you in my own trials, and I hope that you are rewarded in some way in the future for the person you've been... love you *hugs tight*

it is never the truth itself that hurts. it is the reaction a person has on realizing they've lived on a lie. the will pass through a chain of reactions, finally accepting it, or choose to ignore it. one of these phases is denial. and in denial the person will blame the one telling them bad news. "don't kill the messenger over bad news" i've lost more than a couple friends to the truth, and it has in turn helped driving me towards the edge. in the end its all in the psychology of a person, and if they don't accept the truth from their best friend, who are they to call themself a friend. a friend would not lie.

truly, truth is both a weapon and a bandage. it the truth-teller that decides the use.

believe me when i say that truth can never be kept back, it finds it's way in the most mysterious ways and keeping the truth from someone will ultimately only come back to bite you. and those fangs hurts more than most can fathom. the sooner it's said the sooner it will be over, and the sooner things may become better, sure someone can take it the wrong way, but then it's more or less a duty to make them see truth as it is.

*hugs* shutting your mouth will only serve starvation. let the truth run free, and if they can't accept truth from you, their friend, who are they supposed to believe? it comes back to haunt them in some or other way later.

lying is not good... but being 100 percent honest 100 percent of the time is too risky. sometimes a situation calls for a harmless "little white lie" or not saying anything at all...

*insert huge comment here, once i have time to write it*

Knowledge is honest, but wisdom is knowing what not to share.

You do awesome B & W...*watches you*

I know... I try to be honest at all times, but without hurting...

Muzzles can be aesthetic, or have a deeper meaning of self control and restraint