All the more reason I am so, SOOOO glad I'm Aero-Ace.

I'm not sure what that means.

Asexual aeromantic.

I still don't know what that means. (not trying to be a pain I really dont know)

Asexual just means a lack of desire to have intercourse with another person (we can still have libidos, just not for human-on-human baby-making stuff), and aeromantic just means we don't crave or need a romantic relationship with anyone.

There's a lot more that goes into it than that bare-bones description but you can always Google it if you want to learn more.

Ah

Aromantic, surely?

Aero is a prefix for air. Aerodynamic, aeroelastic, aerofoil.

Right, I derped on the spelling.

I can relate, I too have no sexual interest in planes!

Jokes aside, I’m pretty sure a similar thing can happen for aros. Just replace them being a girl with them being a person you’d really like to be friends with.

I've always struggled making friends. The biggest issues is most people who I vibe with have even more debilitating anxiety than me and thus even when they do find time to do something, they cancel at the last minute. Even fur meet-ups in my home city are hard to find because Ottawa furs are so very extremely introverted that it's like a "Don't talk about Fur Meet" thing, and the one time I DID manage to go to one I thought I'd be the most awkward one there but oooooh no somehow I was one of the less awkward ones.

The other reason I only have one IRL friend who I can count on to do stuff with is that we're both crass surly grumps who understand each-other's lack of a filter. Not everybody can handle the amount of profane yelling we both find way more hilarious than we probably should. Just watch any of my Let's Plays to get a taste of that.

mooooooooooooooooooooooooood...

I feel you there, bro. If it makes you feel any better, I will always be here to chat with you! As a friend

At least he wasn't catfished.

At least hopefully not. No personal info not even actual names were exchanged but there was some "interesting" topics talked about.

I've been trying online dating with little success, too, so I feel your frustration.

oof

I know that feeling, my two ex gfs were online

Granted this wasn't someone I'd really call "girlfriend material", she was just someone different than the usual people who talk to me. A breath of fresh air of such, at least while it lasted.

(* sheesh *)

I know that feeling. Though mine wasn't a relationship. Mine was a guy had a psychotic break and tried to end everything by burning down his house, with him in it.

check on your friends.

We ended up maybe maybe not breaking a few laws to track down the dude across country lines to make sure he was OK. And he is. Just needed help, and friends that he had forgotten he had.

Mine wasn't a relationship neither, just someone different than the sea of dudes that normally communicate with me that shuffled things up a bit, as brief as it was.

That's a pretty insane situation though, I kinda had a similar run-in (in the self harm department) with an online friend and ended up coordinating with another person to get a police wellness check on that friend. Was insanely stressful throughout until we got the report back that he was totally fine and was basically trying to play up drama points so we'd pity him...

Well in my case, i knew he was getting a bit unstable, but i got to see pictures of his house afterwards and then he moved in with a family friend to turn to ranching. he'll be fine. Just had to take things slow, and when he found a dozen people hunted him down, was a bit of a wakeup call that people cared.

Though i can feel the whole "pity card". I have a family member who does that for attention. I'm just glad my friend of nearly 2 decades is alive and well.

I've had a sort of remix of this happening here lately. Had girls reply to me to get to know me, then they ask me to play a game. They show me and its a mobile game. I have zero interest in playing ANY mobile game. And when I politely decline their offer... they ghost me. No saying sorry or any form of apology, they disappear off the face of the earth. -.-

That kinda sounds like scammers or bots to me NGL.

I wouldn't doubt it, either. But they were real people.

Damn...I was really rooting for you when you had the last piece. Hopefully it's just a life event and she'll be back soon.

Yeah maybe. I dunno. Was just nice having someone "different" to talk to than the usual.

Dating apps are objectively the worst place to meet an SO/partner. From what i hear this situation can happen due to two major reasons - either it's not a real person or the other party perfunctorily gives you their 5 mins before finding something else.

Imo the best thing to do is to date within 30-40km or towards places where one can arrive quickly via car or public transport. This is because you have an option to go on a date or a fun activity together instead of trying to woo a person 2-3 states away.

In any case - good luck and if dating apps fail, try to sign up for dance class or some sort of club (but don't be a creep there, just let things happen, at worst you will only meet new people and possibly a few friends!).

Well this whole deal wasn't really an "online dating" situation, it was more a "random person from Twitter who wasn't a dude that reached out to me" and we had just chatted some. Neither of us were going to try and pursue something more than casual talking since distance alone basically meant that would be impossible even if there was feelings between us. It was just a shakeup to the usual "sea of dudes" who normally talk to me, a welcome shift to the norm as short as it lasted. Part of the reason why it's had me so Down is because it took basically 8 years of being online to meet someone who wasn't a dude and feels like that'll be the case again...

Oh. In that case i do have some good news - A LOT of peeps online are actually gals, not ''a lot'' like 60-70% but i'd wager a good 30 to maybe 40 % are women. The problem is that there are also MANY creeps online who push them into concealing their sex/gender but also just a desire not to be accosted by people looking for a relationship or who have some other angle.

You may have been contacted by a gal without even knowing it XD

Yeah maybe. Those might be percentages for the internet as a whole but according to polls I've done on a couple of my other platforms it came up to being basically 90% Male and 10% Female and then I later had some males message me that they voted as females...
So i dunno, if my crowds are pushing those levels of unbalanced it does seem a bit unlikely a chick has been talking to me masquerading as a male (especially since most of the people who regularly talk to me are also the "forever alone dude" types)

Ah, that's a different story then, yes.

Sadly, Furries tend to skew heavily towards male side and from what i've seen, the female side tends to be pretty quiet for some reason *shrugs*

Personally, i've given up on dating fem-Furries since a. there are virtually none in my city, let alone the country that use furry-specific dating apps and b. long-distance relationships are mostly non-viable in the long-term. As for just talking - if the person is sweet and interesting enough i honestly couldn't care less what they are :D

Way of the road