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I’m not gonna go crazy in detail and keep it simple. Overall the trip I think was a W, it definitely was a bit of a roller coaster and I would say did not live up to my expectations. But that’s not the fault of the convention itself. We rode there by train from Chicago and that was pretty cool, sleeping really sucked because we had to opt for coach seating, but the service was pretty good (Amtrak). On the way there apparently our dinning car caught on fire and our observation deck lost power as well. At first it seemed like it was going to suck, but ultimately Amtrak provided free food because of it and it made for a pretty romantic night for me and 
to cuddle on the observation deck because all the lights were out so you can look out and see the stars, it was really cool and probably one of the highlights of my trip. We also ran into another group going to the con and they turned out to be really cool and very nice to hang out with at the con when we were struggling to find things to do.
Once we got there it was definitely a surreal experience seeing a bunch of fursuits for the first time, throughout the week we did a bunch of different panels and some of them were kinda cool. I will say I was extremely disappointed with the lack of dragon anything at BLFC, the den had some dragon stuff for sales. Otherwise there were few dragon suiters, and the only events for dragons were packed in one night and were all just 18+ dragon smut events. I was hoping maybe I could meet more dragons or talk to more people in general. Unfortunately the negative for the con for me were mainly struggling to fit in. I was mostly just following my bf wherever he wanted to go for the event because there was nothing that really stood out to me. So I really just felt like dead weight trying to keep up with everyone, it actually was so bad it ruined most of the con for me. Even when I tried to meet with the few that I knew were going there. I either got cold shouldered because they didn’t seem interested or plans got changed because my group wanted to do other things that got in the way of it. To be blunt this kinda left me questioning bothering to be social in the fandom because I just feel unimportant to people even when I try to interact with. It’s either I have to set something up and hope the other is interested, and if I don’t make a strong effort for someone else I just kinda don’t exist lol.
Anyways enough with the whining, luckily the end of the con was kinda saved thanks to and giving me such a fun night of bowling/pool even though I’m horribly bad at both. Also the arcade we went to earlier in the day while running into the other train group at the arcade. It definitely went feeling like the whole event was a waste of time and money to enjoying one of the best days there with the person who matters the most to me.
Ultimately I’m not sure if I will go to another con again because I’m not really excited to spend a bunch of time and money for something that had such negative experiences for me previously. Maybe if I knew more people who were going and actually wanted to be around me I will. But I don’t see that changing since everyone is either on another continent or don’t give two rats about me. I do think having a suit/partial would be nice because everyone loves Fursuits and who doesn’t want to hug me.
I do think this event has helped me social confidence overall though. Being able to approach people consistently has always been a struggle for me, and I felt like I was able to get over that. I was shy about taking photos with suiters but maybe next time if I go to a con I’ll solve that too.
If you plan to go to a con, and are not an extroverted person. I highly recommend you go with people who will spend a lot of time with you and share mutual interests, or know other people who are going. Because I basically only went knowing my bf and 1 other person who was going to be there and I never even seen them. And not feeling like I belonged to a group of people made a massive difference to my experience. Maybe this is just a me issue though. I can be a bit socially awkward and I struggle to make conversation. I don’t struggle talking to people once we start talking though so idk.
to cuddle on the observation deck because all the lights were out so you can look out and see the stars, it was really cool and probably one of the highlights of my trip. We also ran into another group going to the con and they turned out to be really cool and very nice to hang out with at the con when we were struggling to find things to do.Once we got there it was definitely a surreal experience seeing a bunch of fursuits for the first time, throughout the week we did a bunch of different panels and some of them were kinda cool. I will say I was extremely disappointed with the lack of dragon anything at BLFC, the den had some dragon stuff for sales. Otherwise there were few dragon suiters, and the only events for dragons were packed in one night and were all just 18+ dragon smut events. I was hoping maybe I could meet more dragons or talk to more people in general. Unfortunately the negative for the con for me were mainly struggling to fit in. I was mostly just following my bf wherever he wanted to go for the event because there was nothing that really stood out to me. So I really just felt like dead weight trying to keep up with everyone, it actually was so bad it ruined most of the con for me. Even when I tried to meet with the few that I knew were going there. I either got cold shouldered because they didn’t seem interested or plans got changed because my group wanted to do other things that got in the way of it. To be blunt this kinda left me questioning bothering to be social in the fandom because I just feel unimportant to people even when I try to interact with. It’s either I have to set something up and hope the other is interested, and if I don’t make a strong effort for someone else I just kinda don’t exist lol.
Anyways enough with the whining, luckily the end of the con was kinda saved thanks to
and giving me such a fun night of bowling/pool even though I’m horribly bad at both. Also the arcade we went to earlier in the day while running into the other train group at the arcade. It definitely went feeling like the whole event was a waste of time and money to enjoying one of the best days there with the person who matters the most to me.Ultimately I’m not sure if I will go to another con again because I’m not really excited to spend a bunch of time and money for something that had such negative experiences for me previously. Maybe if I knew more people who were going and actually wanted to be around me I will. But I don’t see that changing since everyone is either on another continent or don’t give two rats about me. I do think having a suit/partial would be nice because everyone loves Fursuits and who doesn’t want to hug me.
I do think this event has helped me social confidence overall though. Being able to approach people consistently has always been a struggle for me, and I felt like I was able to get over that. I was shy about taking photos with suiters but maybe next time if I go to a con I’ll solve that too.
If you plan to go to a con, and are not an extroverted person. I highly recommend you go with people who will spend a lot of time with you and share mutual interests, or know other people who are going. Because I basically only went knowing my bf and 1 other person who was going to be there and I never even seen them. And not feeling like I belonged to a group of people made a massive difference to my experience. Maybe this is just a me issue though. I can be a bit socially awkward and I struggle to make conversation. I don’t struggle talking to people once we start talking though so idk.
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I understand the feeling of not finding things related to your species (fellow dragon). Dragon stuff is hard to find and it kinda makes you feel isolated when there aren't events/meet ups that are what you're looking for. Sometimes it helps looking for group chats for the event! Thats helped me before.
Yeah, it's too bad to hear how it went, overall. But it was good that you had some positive experiences a learned some things. I can definitely relate to the feeling of not fitting in. I have yet to attend a con, and I don't think I will for the foreseeable future. I am way too shy and introverted to do so XD. But it was definitely good to hear that it helped with your social confidence, any event that does that is a good one!
I am a bit weird. I am a bit shy and introverted when it comes to meeting new people, but as soon as I know you well enough to be comfortable I’m pretty chill and don’t mind going out of my way to talk to someone. I did get over my shyness to talk to random people a bit. But still could use some work.
And yeah unless you have people you know you’re gonna be around a lot at a con, it’s hard for me to recommend going to a con. If my bf wasn’t with me, I would’ve had a terrible time.
And yeah unless you have people you know you’re gonna be around a lot at a con, it’s hard for me to recommend going to a con. If my bf wasn’t with me, I would’ve had a terrible time.
I don't really have much challenge in getting to that point to talk to people. It's mostly finding mutual interests with someone that I don't know and making a conversation with them is where my biggest struggle lies. If I approach someone for example though and they're already talking about photography topic(which I am big into.) that's so easy for me to talk about since it would be a mutual interest. I am also terrible with small talk which makes things even more difficult at times. But I am trying to improve!
Stuff like you have there is SUPER NEAT to have! Taking home REAL things form a con is awesome! Train ride sounds like fun. Its different and neat.
Bowling is hella fun but pool is eh ok. I'd rather bowl. Also, going to an Arcade HELL YA LETSSSSSSSSSSS GOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Arcades would be my jam! I miss them so much!
The lack of dragons. Ya, from pictures I've seen, there are very few dragon fursuits. your con not having many panels about dragons kinda sucks. I think I saw another con and it had some. Example: WoF panel would have been fun to go see. I've never read the books but seeing the excitement of others about the topic is a joy to me. Also, I think scalies are a very small part of the fandom in general. I think its the 6th biggest part of the fandom but even though its one of the higher placements, its just doesn't compare to anthros wolves foxes ect ect. Top 3 critters dominate the fandom.
I'm still surprised you didn't seem to enjoy the trip. Sounds like a blast! Get to do new things. Get to be there, in a space, with other real furrys is something else!
Bowling is hella fun but pool is eh ok. I'd rather bowl. Also, going to an Arcade HELL YA LETSSSSSSSSSSS GOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Arcades would be my jam! I miss them so much!
The lack of dragons. Ya, from pictures I've seen, there are very few dragon fursuits. your con not having many panels about dragons kinda sucks. I think I saw another con and it had some. Example: WoF panel would have been fun to go see. I've never read the books but seeing the excitement of others about the topic is a joy to me. Also, I think scalies are a very small part of the fandom in general. I think its the 6th biggest part of the fandom but even though its one of the higher placements, its just doesn't compare to anthros wolves foxes ect ect. Top 3 critters dominate the fandom.
I'm still surprised you didn't seem to enjoy the trip. Sounds like a blast! Get to do new things. Get to be there, in a space, with other real furrys is something else!
Just the combination of spending a ton of time doing stuff that didn't really interest me/feeling isolated were pretty strong negatives. I mostly enjoyed the trip. But the bads were pretty dang bad. For being in the fandom so long and finally going to a con and not being able to interract with other dragons let alone furries in general, makes it really hard for me to want to go to another con. That said, my partner wants to go to more, and if I end up investing into a partial or something eventually. I do think my experience would be overall better since more people are interested in interracting with suiters than random person walking around. Would probably also help my self confidence with talking people too I'd imagine. For me approaching other furries that I don't know and just starting a conversation can be a bit challenging for me at times.
I totally get feeling out of place at cons. Definitely helps when you have a friend group to hang with, but it can be a little lackluster without.
I'd still recommend BLFC in the future, or maybe try for a smaller con in your local area to attend. Also look for local meetups or join dragon related telegram groups (im in a few) so you can meet and interact with folks before cons ^^
Wonder if you saw me wandering in suit at all.
I'd still recommend BLFC in the future, or maybe try for a smaller con in your local area to attend. Also look for local meetups or join dragon related telegram groups (im in a few) so you can meet and interact with folks before cons ^^
Wonder if you saw me wandering in suit at all.
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