*HUGS*!

The big thing is whom do you spend the most time with? And I mean in real life, not just talking over a phone or internet.

That may just be a clue right there.

that would be jeff but thats cause I live with him. And have been living with him for the past year

hmmm. I think you should frget all of them and come live with me in my little wolf den ^_^. i cuddles. rpooarr ^__^
but no, on the serious side. Its hard to say what to do, the only advice i can give is to shut your mind out of it and follow your hear. Your thinking too much and thats whats hurting the most. Try just standing back and watching for some time.
sorry i cant be of any more help. ^^ i tryed......and my wolf den is always open to you ^^

where is said den? we have a den here too ^>^

Oh Tab.... Call me or message me on AIM tonight. I'll be up probably all night long. We can talk about this all you want then.

I'll try to get it working on this computer. Its just... my computer charger was left at a friends house

All i can do is offer my advice and wisdom on things, and hope you make the choice best suited for you, thats really all i can help with for the time being.

thanks.

As much as I would love to save you, I'm too far away to be of any real help. The only thing I can suggest is to bear with it and hope for the best.

thank you. that does kinda help

The Heart, a hard and soft subject. Hard when its tied to more than one other, soft in the fact that it allows us to have love. You need to take a step back. review what you have and what you need. If you need to be held and one wont, than you need to let go of him, be friends but move on. that leaves you with the other 2. you have a big choice. Take your time. dont rush into it and remember to be happy. Your happiness is the most importand thing.

without Jeff I'm practicly homeless. I have no income that makes enough money to live on my own... my happiness... its... its hard to come by sometimes

*hugs* sorry that you are having love pain, i agree with winged_fate about the thinking thing, it is never good too think too much about these things, your still young for one thing, too young to be upset about something like this, sorry that i don't have advise on who to choose, really try not to think about this. you probly need to turn on some soul-peacifing music, if you have any, and if you have anything piano, listen to it, it will calm you down and make the depression go away, try not to listen to anything depresing, like a sad song or a love music, or heavy metal, atleast not at this time, it's alright to listen to them at other times but at something like this it's best to listen to some light string or peaceful music, if you need someone to talk to, just give me an im alright?

ok thank you

(Clears throat) Ok 1 that is way to many guys 2 have on your mind I dont know what todays dating seen is but its common sense with the more you juggle the harder it is to keep it all in place and 2 of all the guys you mentioned from above I say Beaker is the a good guy i dont say you should go with him but I feel he deserves you more if that sounds right 3 FUCK JEFF 2 hell with jeff he is not an affectionate guy and sounds like a dick 2 me I dont care if he dosnt "do relationships" it means 2 me that he is a player and dosnt really care about you past experience tells me that we all have flaws but thats no excuse or reason 2 not show love I hug and kiss my girl all the time even when she dosnt want it but its 2 show i care and I do love her even when i had a bad day and things didnt go my way i always kiss her and tell her i love her but thats just me ^^; I hope it goes well for you I really do but try not 2 juggle so much u will have "less injurys" that way
The dark 1 ^^

I've been with jeff for 10 going on 11 months now. He's dated me and two other chicks his entire life.

I'm dating only Jeff. I'm interested in other guys.

hmm ^^, my dens in the woods beneath a big oak tree, I live alone so your welcom any time ^^ .lol. *grins* plus i got cookies ^^
listing to music is a good suggestion by Redguardian.....or staying up late and eating ice cream from the tub and watching movies that scare the shit out of you by yourself helps too^^....well, thats what i do at least..and i normally go threw a few tubs of ice cream....

I wish I was good at giving advice, but I would say give it time, listen to some music, play some video games, go for a walk and watch some movies. I am sure you will find someone you will truly love and he will love you back, keep your chin up and don't give up.

That makes it harder, but one must love themself and be happy in life. Im sorry to hear your heart hurts and I hope you find it.

>> Passes FoxyTangerine a monster Cookie Heart. <<

^.^ Thank you

I do love jeff, I love him a lot. And well... He's always there for me when I really need him. I agree with him. we kinda bypassed the whole friendship thing and started dating... I guess that friendship thing has to start sometime. Maybe after we really get to know each other we'll find out we love eachother even more...

And Duo... well he wants me to be happy, as does Beaker. If I can be happy with Jeff they'll be happy. If I'm happy alone... well...

Well honey I'm here for you no matter what happens <3

thank you

i think you should stay with jeff. even though he dosnt touch you, you still love him, and he still loves you(?)...
hope it helps (prob didnt at all XD)
but i hope you feel better

and for that "person" who called you that stuff, fuck them, they aint even knowin

Thanks little bro *hugs*

I'm here if you need me. I'm a note or IM away.

awww. sorry to hear that. Some times you got to tell the one you love what you like and don't like. and as for the person who called you a slut, the're the slut, not you. and don't let eany one tell you diffrent. *Hugs* tell ya what, How about I make you a pic. to make you feal happy.

can I make your avi go bite that guy who insulted me?

Ok! what do you want him to look like?

haha, dont worry about it. I feel better. And like my friends are saying, I'm just going to blow it off. I shed enough tears, I dont need something to remind me. How about one of you and me playing video games or something... in an arcade...

that sounds good. Chibis?

if you want. Its up to you from there

ok, I'll get right on it!

Well, I'd like to help, I really would. But I don't really understand monogomy, especially when it causes this kind of pain. From my own point of view, my own experiences, my first suggestion would be to try and work something out with all of the parties involved. It wouldn't even have to be a full-circle relationship; I've known plenty of groups where some of the partners had no sexual interest in each other, but were good friends and shared a common love. However, I don't really know where your stances are on polyamoury, so I can't guarantee that'll work for you.

My only other suggestion would be to consider which of them makes you happiest. It isn't a matter of which one you've known longer, but which one makes your life the brightest. Even though it can be hard to figure that out, that's because people spend too much time trying to focus on the bigger picture; a picture which, in this case, is far too large for the mortal mind to fully comprehend.

Rather, you need to look at the smaller details. Which of them rubs up against the most of your pet peeves. Which one shares the most of your interests with you. Which is more open about their feelings toward you. Everything you may think is insignificant alone, but add up to a major factor in any relationship when piled on one-another.

hmm... that kinda ties Jeff and Beaker neck and neck. I love Jeffs cooking and hate beakers smoking (that he refuses to quit) I love beakers snuggles but hate jeffs lack of tact

*hugs*

It's a tough predicament for sure. I know that I can relate to a bit of how you feel for sure. Love is hard sometimes. :(

I don't know you very well, but you seem nice enough. Just try and stay strong. An answer will present itself eventually.

I'd save you if I could, but I don't think I can.

Oh, and most importantly of all, ignore the haters. They're not even worth expending energy thinking about them.

thanks bear ^>^

I really care for you and know I´d walk over there if the distance was reasonable enough if noone drived me there.

I would so hug you right now and nuzzle gently. If Jeff, wich your heart really lies I guess, loved you so much in the first place I hope he shapes up cus non of the others sound that worthy of you.

And remember the well and kind comments, forget the bad ones

I like to quote something that i hopes helps, it helped me in many ways

Ladies and Gentlemen

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, never cry

The long term benefits to laugh have been proved by scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience.

I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked.

You are NOT as fat as you imagine.

Don't worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing every day that scares you.

Sing.

Don't be reckless with other people's hearts, don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don't waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself.

Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don't.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you'll miss them when they're gone.

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't, maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't, maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself, either. Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's. Enjoy your body, use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it, or what other people think of it, it's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.

Dance. Even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.

Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good.

Be nice to your siblings; they are your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography in lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too will get old, and when you do you'll fantasize that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.

Don't mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.

Bestest luck and well wishes for you

thank you. that does help *hug* you're a good friend

and so are you *hugs back nuzzling*

did u just quote the entire Sunscreen song by Baz Lurman, I wish I had that song on my comp, that's just such a good song, very well added here to i might say.

She is worth it and yes indeed.

Well I'll pray for you.

But all I can ask is what do you want in life?

to be happy. At least most of the time.

Aside from praying for you. All I'll say is this.
Work on you first. Then and only then. Will you find that special someone. Just don't rush things.

Plus think about this. You don't need a man to verify your existence. It's good to have someone in your life
but don't let it become to the point it's desperate.

Find things in common and don't forget who you are.

wow its a hard 3 way....i think yuchichan said it pretty much.. its a hard choice, but you gotta also think about reality.. if you have no where else to go, you really will have to talk it out with jeff and make things right.. being interested in other guys will always be there, but right now you need to work on what you have... why trade in a bunch of problems you know about and can try to work out, for a whole bunch of new ones, and to start all over with a new person? my brother did that, and he made the biggest mistake in his life.. now he just gets shitfaced and stoned every night after work, and feels like a turd... hope that helps..

I DONT WANNA BE A SHITFACED TURD!!!

yeah, and im not saying that you are, but i know that you will make the right choice following your heart, THATS the important thing... my brother listenend only to his penis and his friends (who were also thinking with their own), and got him in that situation... so yeah, keep ur head up :D

hey, you know what? You are having problems now, and whatever your heart decides it will be the right choice, don't feel guilty about anything because this is your life, you can make choices like this if you want. my suggestion is really just come to be with me in the Rockies and we'll enjoy the beautiful view and amazing landscape together. cuz, well, that just what lynxs like myself get to do all day. it's great!

peace!
Andrugolf/Argent Mcnaughty

maybe on vacation one year ^>^

also, take a rest, sleep on it, and think about it a few times, don't get all spontaneous and make a rash decision now, u may or may not regret it. But I just want u to know that I'm here by your side if u want to talk or anything, k? I really hope you feel a lot better tomorrow. Life sucks, hard, but you find the little things that help get you through the day, like a cookie or a cute stray cat that wants you to pet him/her (note, the cat thing actually happened to me today on my walk home from work) but enough about me, this is all about you, please feel better and know that we're all here for you.

i was thare when you drew this. and i know how you are fealing. i have been in the same ball park myself. like i have said i just want you to be happy. you spend so mutch of your time making others happy. you forget yourself. yes i care about you. but i will also suport you what ever your dision is. coz thats what friends do. if thare is aney way i can help you be happy with jeff ill do it. if you decide to be with duo ill help you pack.
your the only one who can truly make your self happy. the only one who can make this decision. im here for you in what ever way you need me.

thank you. I mean it. Mr. Stress releif *wink wink*
You really are a great friend

i do what i can.

Take care of you; enjoy some friends and worry about a serious relationship later.

I'll take that into concideration ^.^

I'm not gonna comment on the issue here. You got enough help already. I will say this: You art has drastically increased, you really made the pose work and your anatomy is almost completely spot on, I hope you keep getting better. Both art and life situation.

I know its kinda sick but this immage was in my head and like.. god its almost perfect for placement compared to my older stuff ^.^ I like the way it looks too bad it has to be so sad... but its a really sad pose... the protect thyself pose

It's almost the fetal position.

I swear when I saw this pic my heart snapped, I'm glad you feel better though, I just felt like commenting here on this pic

*hands you some crazy glue* I hope you can fix your heart... like maybe you just dislocated it... maybe it didnt snap...

*giggles and pats* well aslong as I know your not troubled anymore I think its fixed

God Tabbie, you make me cry =(

...I think thats the first time I've called you by your name...

Theres not much I can do or say really...I know if I was in the same position I would be just as confused as you are.

But dont worry, I'm sure once you do make a decision, it will be the right one =)

im sure once my head can get my heart to shut up I"ll do just fine ^>^

You just need your head and heart to work together.

oh man...I wish I had checked FA earlier...sorry for being so late..

I really don't know what to say to you that might help..
But I can tell you this much - if it's meant to be, it will endure..

I can't believe that things aren't going so well with you guys..

Whatever you choose do to, like Little_joey above me said, I'm sure the decision will be the right one...

Godspeed Tabitha..

I"m supprized how many of you actually know my real name ^.^

I wish I could help you, but I fear my suggestions are either stupid or would make it worse...

they are neither. they are opinions based on how you've lived your life. They cant be wrong. I'm feeling a bit better now...

Hey Tabbie, you know I love you, and if I could find the person who called you that they'd be short of kneecaps.

hehe... thank you

Awwww...*hugs*

I'm a little better... but I sure could go for some curly fries the curly fries the curly fries...

Foxy, first off sorry you're having issues and I would be more than happy to offer you a place... but I'm kinda having home issues myself. God bless mothers and attics. But when I do get back on my feet you need anything just let me know.

Second, I'm not doubting you love Jeff but the fact you are looking at others says that the needs he isn't fullfilling, isn't anything triffle. I've seen relationships fall for less. I would suggest talking to him. If you trust him so much then try pouring out your heart. let him know how important he and this is to you. I'm sure if he loves you back, he'll fight for you.

As for the others. there are gonna be nice guys out there and it's great you have so many how care about you but right now They shouldn't even be in the equation now. This is between you and Jeff and none others. Once you decide to end it Jeff then you can think about them and which one to go with, but right now take it one step at a time.

The fact that you are thinking about pursuing these other guys might make you wonder exactly how "IN" love you are with Jeff, and again this goes back to step one. If you truely care about him then fight for your relationship, cause if not, you may one day stop and ponder "what if"

things are looking up now btw.

I'm glad ^.^

>> i am going through the exact same thing....even though i dont know you...i wish i could do something to help...>>

this has been resolved. If you IM me maybe we can chat ^.^