
Brain Wont Shut Off
"At work, my mind never slows down. I never have time to think about my or worries. After work, I focus on TV, video games and chatting with friends. I focus a lot of attention on my friends. The TV distracts my mind from the outside world. Video games put me in a state of bliss by just focusing on something that has a lot of colors and lights - my thumbs and fingers moving quickly to progress further in the game, revealing more of the story to me with every level I beat. My mind is too busy to think about my worries and my issues. Work, Games, Friends, Movies, Food. Thats all it thinks about. But when it's time for me to go to bed, when I hear nothing but silence, when my body lies still in bed, my mind slowly goes through personal memories, finding ways to have less respect for myself. It comes up with questions why I'm not doing what I "should" be doing in my life. It reminds me of my age and where I should be in my life compared to friends and family. It compares my life to others and how my life seems pathetic. ' Why can't I be here? Why can't you do this? Why aren't you there yet? ' I try to answer those questions as I lay still, but more questions comes up, making it harder and harder to answer or try to find the right answer. In the end, I find myself sitting up in the darkness, holding my stuff animal in my arms. My brain doesn't shut off, my eyes remain open. Sitting up or laying down, I remain awake until I can see a hint of the sun off in the distance. In order for me to answer the sea of questions my mind float upon, I have to make changes. But due to lack of work, money and freedom, I feel confined where I am. Feeling stuck, I get more depressed. More questions come up. When the time is near for me to get ready for work, those questions fade and I'm now on 'work' mode. I just know that those questions will haunt me again the next night. I just don't know how to answer them all..."
Brain Wont Shut Off © 2012 Alex Cockburn
Brain Wont Shut Off © 2012 Alex Cockburn
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My spouse has been in that situation a lot- it can actually be diagnosed as mania. Her metaphor is that those thoughts are coming too quickly for her to be able to stay on top of them, and it's like she's drowning in a sea of noise. I would offer suggestions, but I don't know enough about your situation to really give you any useful advice :\
I can say that she's feeling a lot better now that she is actually seeing a psychiatrist. I don't know if that's an option available to you, but it could be the sort of thing that can help.
Best of luck, and you have my sympathies :]
I can say that she's feeling a lot better now that she is actually seeing a psychiatrist. I don't know if that's an option available to you, but it could be the sort of thing that can help.
Best of luck, and you have my sympathies :]
this is interesting...a piece that describes the onset of insomnia brought on by chronic worrying and depression... for almost two years i fought this particular demon... two years i had to face these feelings every night i went to bed, my roomie would take sleeping pills before bedtime, and he would talk to me for a few minutes before he would zonk out...leaving me struggling, silently BEGGING for sleep...I would lay in bed, staring into the darkness as my mind raced...it was not uncommon for me to spend hours before finally fallingasleep, or just eventually slipping out of bed to go to the living room and distract myself...eventually spent a few months on antidepressants while plotting life changes...
guess what though...a new job, moving away to someplace new, the support of everyone around me, and all that jazz...i've been off the pills for about 2.5 years, and usually have no trouble sleeping anymore! although sometimes those icky thoughts creep back in...
the secret isn't to make the radical changes you think you need to, so you are at a "place you should be" ... the thing you have to do is to sit back, and make realistic plans and goals to better yourself...maybe saving a small amount of money over a period of time, then using it to make your situation better... its all about STEPS... one step at a time...don't say "i want to be a college graduate with a high paying full time job", say "I want to apply for school, and secure a financial situation through either a steady job or financial aid." me, my current goal is to be able to fix my main credit issues within a year...its tough, but it can be done if i buckle down...i really wanna be able to get a loan for an older wrx...
guess what though...a new job, moving away to someplace new, the support of everyone around me, and all that jazz...i've been off the pills for about 2.5 years, and usually have no trouble sleeping anymore! although sometimes those icky thoughts creep back in...
the secret isn't to make the radical changes you think you need to, so you are at a "place you should be" ... the thing you have to do is to sit back, and make realistic plans and goals to better yourself...maybe saving a small amount of money over a period of time, then using it to make your situation better... its all about STEPS... one step at a time...don't say "i want to be a college graduate with a high paying full time job", say "I want to apply for school, and secure a financial situation through either a steady job or financial aid." me, my current goal is to be able to fix my main credit issues within a year...its tough, but it can be done if i buckle down...i really wanna be able to get a loan for an older wrx...
Glad you shared your experience and "the secret" too often it become overwhelming to be stuck in a cycle like this and lost in how to get where you want to be... instant gratification, I want it now without taking the time to make way through steps of planning, goal setting, how do I get there... can wind up leaving a heap of "it'll never happen"... so to speak.
Wow, I've had more than a few nights like that. My friend says it's another sign that I'm a fox, and that I'm constantly overthinking and trying to outsmart myself.
But seriously, I know exactly how that feels. I'm slowly learning that comparing myself to family and friends is not helpful, and that I should just have personal goals and strive toward them. Those goals may or may not match up with what people think I should be striving toward, but at least if I accomplish things for ME, I feel personally satisfied.
Also, I have been taking Melatonin supplements at night to help me sleep. They help... but instead of lying awake at night while my mind does this, I end up dreaming a LOT.
But seriously, I know exactly how that feels. I'm slowly learning that comparing myself to family and friends is not helpful, and that I should just have personal goals and strive toward them. Those goals may or may not match up with what people think I should be striving toward, but at least if I accomplish things for ME, I feel personally satisfied.
Also, I have been taking Melatonin supplements at night to help me sleep. They help... but instead of lying awake at night while my mind does this, I end up dreaming a LOT.
Now I remember why I loved your art and submissions SO MUCH. :>
You're writing and drawing about things that I have to go through.
I've struggled with anxiety and depression my whole. fucking. life.
So I remember when I was going through some pretty hard times back in high school (maybe just before the time I started watching you on FA), I would really appreciate that someone else was able to summarize my thoughts and feelings, without even having known me. It was almost a feeling of acceptance. Just hearing about somebody who felt the same way or knows how I feel (even if they don't feel the same), what I struggle with, etc., made me feel a little better.
You're writing and drawing about things that I have to go through.
I've struggled with anxiety and depression my whole. fucking. life.
So I remember when I was going through some pretty hard times back in high school (maybe just before the time I started watching you on FA), I would really appreciate that someone else was able to summarize my thoughts and feelings, without even having known me. It was almost a feeling of acceptance. Just hearing about somebody who felt the same way or knows how I feel (even if they don't feel the same), what I struggle with, etc., made me feel a little better.
Your art and meaning behind is really quite wonderful. I believe almost everyone can relate to this at some point in their lives, I know I surely can relate as it is obvious many others can as well. All is not hopeless or un-attainable... for me... I've come to realize I may need to spend less time distracting myself from my worries & possibly meditate, visualize, plan out how I can approach things to make improvements and move me forward into the direction I wish to go... and not feel stagnant and stuck in place.
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