Ma'am? There's a group looking for people like you. The army could always use a level head. You ought to look into it--it's not so dead-end as most would suppose.

Sadly the army seems to be like the only place 'people like me' would actually fit. :c

That's a pretty enormous logical leap to go from having socially-imposed gender identity issues to "you should join the army".

Not to mention; Do you really think there aren't massive amounts of bigotry, sexism, and old-world views on women there?

I didn't see gender indentity issues relayed here, though, I apologize if Tartii does have some, I understand how fuckin' rough that is, but what I generally see is dissatisfaction with gender ROLES as opposed to identity.

Fair point. Out of curiosity where would you draw the line between the two? I've used the terms somewhat interchangeably.

That is; Is not an identity derived from the societal role it must assume?

It's really difficult to say to be perfectly honest. Partially, yes, partially no. Ask one transgendered person this question you'll get one answer, ask another person, you'll get a completely different answer. Gender Identity is a very individual thing, as it is, identity, and everyone is different as far as that is concerned. So I can only speak from *my* perspective.

Yes, to an extent, society does play a role with how one identifies, but it is mostly something that is inside of us, so no, it's not society alone. There are roles in society that are labeled as strictly masculine, or strictly feminine, and to an extent, that can indeed fuck with the head of someone who falls between the lines, however, it is the gender itself that is more important than society's influences as a whole. To put it simply, either you are you see yourself entirely male, or entirely female, with or with out society putting on these masculine and feminine roles. Of course, there are those that fall between the lines (Tartii for example) may be strictly a straight female (going by what I see here, again, if this assumption is wrong, I whole heartedly apologize). Tartii Identifies as a girl that likes masculine things, which is great, but that is also something that falls between the lines and further perpetuates stereotypical gender roles as she can't be herself, a girl that falls between the lines of masculinity and femininity. Society defines gender roles, rather than identity itself, and being someone that falls between those lines as a Tomboy, she is seen as someone on the outside. She identifies as a woman, but likes masculine things, where as a normal, gender role following girl would be a woman that likes feminine things. So yeah, there is a difference between roles and identity, and they aren't exactly interchangeable or have to to do with one another entirely

K, I hope all that made sense? XD if not, I am more than willing to elaborate on anything that didnt.

Nope that did, and was informative, thanks!

I love the expression she has, very nice detail.

It's a sad thing that there's no such thing as a "tomboy" to society anymore, only butch lesbians. :[

I bet you'd look good in this ensemble myself. <3

Yeah...I remember the days when tomboy's actually were recognized. But now you cant just be more 'boy mannered' and still be straight. Its rather frustrating.

Somebody's gotta make a stand, obviously :\

this foreverrrrr fffffff, also it works the same way for guys who enjoy what ladies usually are into, they get labels put on them. :/

 tomboy and Im still into boys

You're not alone, i feel the same way, i love loose and covering clothes and i much prefer hanging out with guys. Im a female too but girls can be such bitches XD. ... And also i like the art!

Haha yeah, loose and covered clothing pretty much is perfect for every day. There is no being uncomfortable, no irritating tops you 'have to get used to because it looks cute. Deal with it.' I mean that thinking CONFUSES me!

Too bad it's 88 degrees F here all day long :C

agreed!
this is why i make my own clothes to my liking.
Because all girl clothes are slutty and too small now it seems. Atleast the good clothes XD

Why cant you go out like a tomboy? I do it all the time! Of course most guys around my area HATE tomboys and only like polished prissy women who are no fun, hate video games and are just trophies...but you do what you wanna do! Have fun because you only live once <333

Ugh I wish I could make my own clothes. :c

I cant go out because.......well because Ive been judged before. And when your told something a lot it eventually weasles its way under your skin. That and my mother just flat out doesnt like it. She will constantly shove and push me in another direction. She wants me to be a 'lady.' Blegh.....

Like you said, most girls want nothing more than to be trophies D: Fck that Ima wear the pants in my relationship lol

my mother told me all the time to dress like a girl.
I live in Texas and grew up in a christian home until I was 17.
What did I do? Say FUCK YOU to the rules, dressed how I wanted, learned to sew and over the years start a clothing company in Japan for girls with this very same problem.
Unisex outfits for males and females.
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/7508600/ <--- what i wear on a daily basis.
People sometimes assume I am a dyke but others find it incredibly appealing.

Trust me..you can become anything you set your mind to girl, I am a perfect example.
Hopefully one day I can see you blossom in my outfits I make n___n

and atleast we dont have it as hard as males who like to dress in drag... they get beaten, we only get called butch

Omg if I could be allowed to wear something like that, but maybe a baggier top xD, I would be sooo freakin happy. And I would be ecstatic to wear clothing you would make. Id feel like a million bucks xD!

Problem with me is.....well I dont know if its a problem, but I let my parents walk all over me. I listen to them...and try to be the best daughter I can, but often get constantly kicked down or get put-down for speaking my mind. So I dont know. :c I am growing up in a christian home too. Im 21, but once I am finally able to leave and get my own place things will change, and I eagerly look foward to it.

And the guys that dress in drag....I feel for them so much. They have it harder than anybody ever. They probably have the worst of the labels. Apparently there can only be 'one type of guy' in the world.

I understand parents being parents..
Mine wouldnt allow me to watch most movies because they were "of the devil" and burned my toys lmao..
But they need to understand that a kid needs breathing room in order to develop and learn who they are.
And considering you are 21..yea

Haha I am very thrilled you think its cool! I have many baggy clothes designed and made n___n makes it feel a lot cooler in the summer days!

Homg girl, you need to start a clothing line HERE so I can buy yo sht and wear it.

working on an online store! costs a lot of money :[

Blegh :C
Well if you need a model...........;D

You can't make everyone happy, if your parents don't like something they never will, so just tell them to deal with it and do what you want. My parents hate my fiancee of 6 years because he's not rich therefore he's "irresponsible". He bought his own car and rented a 2 BR apartment with fulltime job and school and my parents still didn't give a fuck. Just go your own way, it's YOUR life not theirs, you have to answer for your decisions.

There are many around that know the feelin there tart, im one of them :)
Someday not too far down the road you will be able to!

I go out like a tomboy whenever I want. I usually don't get much crap for it but I can see where it can be a problem. Guess I'm just not one for dressing all girly and stuff. Hope your situation gets better one day.

You're far from the only one that feels that way, you know. It's just that most people can't step out and take a look around and realize that society runs almost completely off of hegemonically-programmed ideas of 'masculine' and 'feminine,' to the extent that they are considered biological traits when really they are completely arbitrary. I used to have people tell me all the time "One day you'll want kids" and stuff like that. Sure then. Because of course you would know what I want better than I would. They've learned better by now XD And someday those around you will, too. If you can't be yourself completely now, try to slowly work into it. Maybe that won't work for you, but it might be worth a shot. It's better than hiding who you are.

this is honestly my style as well 0__0


though Im ok with at least showing some skin ^^; ( I dont wear jackets or sweaters at all >..>;;; )

though I agree with what Dipper said. Why cant you go out as a Tomboy? Hell just because one dresses a certain way doesnt mean shit. Its how your comfortable, besides in the long run this is YOUR life not theirs so you get to pick how you wish to be.

I applaud you for fighting to be who you want to be as someone who has to fight for the same thing. Good onya~

You would gladly be welcomed in my group c: labels and such things are silly and people should grow up. Who cares how someone wants to act or dress. As long as it is socially acceptable for someone to do it, anyone should be allowed to.

Looking badass sweety o;

i fckn love you man. Freakin ugh. <3

You can be whoever you want to be , cause I like you for who you are~ <3 c:

I'm what is considered gender fluid.

And I related to a lot of what you say. I'll keep this short. You're a lady if thats what you feel like, regardless of how you dress act speak or are imagined by other people. You are what you feel inside. Your actions, just emphasize your personality. Fuck off to everyone who tries to define you by anything other than what you inform them of. Stand your ground as who you are, own who you are, and be amazing just like we see you be every day when you post up your art and journals.

Don't let anyone get you down for your identity, association, preferred fashion, or habits.

You are -beautiful- Tartii. Hats and hoodies and all. And you are a wonderful -woman-

Wow, I never thought I would have something in common with you, but after reading this...God it's like I wrote it. I've never fit in with girly girls, only tomboys. I get a long much better with men it seems. I am however bisexual, but my sexuality has nothing to do with how I dress. I constantly worry that I'll be labeled a dyke/butch/lesbian just because I like wearing dark tops, baggy jeans and a fedora/cadet style hat... Sometimes I really hate society and how it forces its views on us.

~<3

People like you remind me every day why we should take the norm of society out back and put it out of its misery. Fight the power, girl, be yourself. ~<3

I absolutely love colors and I'm a guy. There is still such a thing as a tomboy, just depends on where you are.

It's a shame that society is like that. I would wear much more feminine clothes in public if I wouldn't be labeled a fag.

XD I dunno about more feminine clothing, but I walk around in tight pants and designer tee's that're tucked in underneath a decent belt and everyone thinks I'm gay around here... *Shrugs* I'm just waiting for the day somebody tries to beat the crap outta me, XD Livin' in the Southern parts of the USA suck for a metro like me, but honestly I am what I am, I'm not gonna change just to 'fit in' with everyone else. (I also support such with the fact I'm a good six inches taller and much more broad shouldered than most guys. XD Which is amusing honestly.)

Be like Andre The Giant. Just hold them by the head until they tire out. XD

XD Very close to what I have done before. I'm not quite THAT big. XD That'd be awesome though.

Ah well, wait until you have your own place, then there is no one who tells you what you can wear and what not. Don't let it get drowned, you will get your time. <^_^>

ummm, all i can say is, move the heck away from where you are as soon as you can o.O it's gotta be a pretty crappy place that thinks you're automatically a lesbian because you wear pants and hoodies. where i live, that just means you aren't one of the 27346387486529 sluthoes around.

Join the army and piss your parents off by reballing

Reading the description, I think you're an awesome person.
You should totally just do it and become a tomboy.

(I know it's easier said than done, but still!)

Hats off to u miss, for speaking up tomboys are wat this world needs! Bot some slutty ass girly girl that cant do anything for herself

To be honest I much prefer girls that dress up in boy-ish clothes more than the girls that dress up in slutty outfits .. I mean short skirts do look okay but not when they go parading around like "Ohhh look at me boys!"
What Im trying to say is its your choice if you want to wear baggy clothes and such then go for it! I mean if thats what you're use to and such :3
its like whenever I go shopping for jeans .. I always make sure that they're a tight fit (like skin tight basically) because that's what I've always been use to ^^
P.S. Hats are freaking awesome xD

Seconded. :3

Glad someone did :3
Its just clothing at the end of the day
you wear whatever you feel like .. if whatever your wearing makes you happy then wear it ^^

Quite true, weise ein. ^^

I'm a tomboy, have no sense of colors and how to match them on clothing, i don't wear heels, skirts, or dresses unless it's a formal event, and even then i don't wear heels, so - all i'm sayin is fuck anyone who thinks they can tell you how to act. When you get out of your 'rents place, you can do whatever you like. if wearing guy's stuff makes you comfortable and happy - who can try to make you do otherwise.

Great job on this! Tomboys are the best. I think I actually managed to hang out with a lot more tomboys than actual guys growing up.

A lot of the differences between butch and tomboy come in mannerisms. People now-a-days are so superficial about things that they aren't willing to stop and consider alternative reasons. The brain works primarily through relations and until there's some significant exposure to a certain concept, a primal reaction without logical intervention will just go for a more prevalent one. Of course, these relations usually have an emotion attached to it, such as disgust, so bringing a new concept to life in a good light can be a difficult thing.

Easiest way is to ease into it - make subtle changes around those you interact with the most. People usually don't notice these changes the more you're around them. Think of perception like a rubber band: stretch too fast, it snaps; go slow and it will adjust. Even if you can't dress like you wish, you should be able to sit, talk, and mostly act with what feels natural.

Nobody can change you into something your not, and there's no need to change into what you already are. Just be yourself, if your parents can't handle it, that's their problem. You shouldn't bend yourself just to be perfect for them, I mean, sure they're your parents, I respect my parents 100% but if they told me I couldn't wear my favorite purple shirt, or my tight pants because they look too gay...

Well, honestly I don't know what I'd do. XD Find a compromise probably, or just move out... Hmm... My parents respect my individuality enough they don't try to make me be anything(other than polite, but hell I LIKE being polite. XD Makes me laugh when people stare when I hold the door for them.) But my parents were both little goths and had me at a waaaay too young age so I think they understand and remember more so than others do.

I hope you're able to express who you really are soon, whether it makes other people look at you or whatever. Be proud. XD Or something like that.

PEACE!
-AZR

Ugh I can understand this so much.
I'm straight, but I love guy clothing and also hanging out with dudes. I've been hanging out with them ever since I was a kid because...well... the girls were just boring to me. XD I still kind of feel like I am the only one like that around in my area, but who know. :/ I just wish people wouldn't judge so damn quickly.

ive never had much a issue with it... i used to wear baggy clothes and i do when i chill but well im a chub soo i wear things that are girl clothes out in public just cause well it looks good. i would rather look good and feel good about myself then deal with inner isseus and dicks on the street... i mean yes im a tom boy yes i like to have fun yes im a crazy child but i also know how to put on a pretty face and attract someone or act frilly if i need to though i hate it. its still fun to socialize. i only have one girl friend.. the rest of my buds are men and i wrestle and mess with them all the time ^^

really just do what you want but still it might be simpler to dress nice outside. though i know plenty of girls that wear that outfit and ive never though WOW SHES A DIKE lol people like that tartii... just give them the finger and hang with your real friends.

Honestly, you should just do whatever makes you happy. Life is too short to worry about what other people will think of you.

Hehe, I'm transgender and I'm very much a tomboy, myself. c:

Everyone expected that after I started transitioning, I'd develop a Cinderella complex and start wearing pink and Hello Kitty garbage everywhere. The fact remained, though, that though I'd always been a girl (hormone therapy made it true for the outside), I had really always been a tomboy regardless. I love motorcycles, cars, computers and guns, and a good afternoon usually closes with some kind of grease stuck under my nails, which I keep trimmed because it's more convenient, and I'm less likely to break them tooling around with my bike. I keep my hair just below shoulder length, because I like it that way, and though I'm guilty of wearing skirts and camisoles on occasion, I've always vowed to never wear heels because I don't believe in wearing shoes that you can't run, jump, and fight in.

It really sucks that your parents are more concerned about you growing up the way they want you to Bree than they are about you being happy with your identity. :/ I pretty much had to defy my parents to get where I am, but everything is relatively calm with them now.

At worst, you'll have to deal with them for a bit longer, but its upsetting to think that you're being told who to be. :/

I totally understand how you feel, girl b: I usually dress pretty adrogynous/tomboyish too! My parents always hated my tomboyish-ness and called me a Lesbian or angrily/sarcastically asked if I wanted to be a boy pretty much everyday. There were a lot of times where I did wish I was a boy, since my parents favored my two older brothers. My parents always wanted me to buy girl clothes/ swap out my converse for heels [My Mom HATED my Converse]. They also hated my short hair and wanted me to grow it out and have long hair.

Nobody should be forced to be someone that they're not, it's just not right. We should all be able to freely be who we want to be [except you know, serial killers and stuff].

Just hang in there, Tart and stay true to yourself no matter what anyone else says. <3

P.S. Lovely picture <3 :]

I think gender roles and expectations are worthless and out-of-date, like a lot of things people do for the sake of tradition. It seems like when you can get away from your parents things might be easier for you, so I hope things go well for ya in that regard! :D

Find some time each week or so and just go for it. You'll feel better about yourself for it. Even if you can't dress that way all the time for family/personal/professional reasons taking some time to just be the you you want to be will make everything slightly more bearable

Dammit. Fuck society. I love that style, no matter the gender of the person that's wearing it. I would love it if my GF felt secure enough to wear what she wanted.

Personally I always feel people should wear/do what they want, without regard to what other people think about it. (obviously within reason, can't be like doing anything illegal.)

I totally get that it's difficult to do though. Way easier to make everyone else happy even if they are being stupid/sexist. Plus I get that some people care a lot more about what others think. I'm more of the opinion that if you don't like the way I am, that's fine and you don't need to be my friend x3

Like for example before I got my tattoos I asked my mom what she thought about me having that done, and she basically said, "Well gee, just don't get something like this. . ." listing pretty much exactly what I wanted. So I had it done anyway *shrugs* not to like piss off anyone, but because it was what I genuinely wanted. I guess I'm a little lucky that most of the time the way I like to act/look isn't really any trouble to people. I think I get away with a lot of ridiculous because I'm a musician and people just kind of write it off as part of that or whatever. I think I ran into some trouble ONE TIME because I was trying to get into this school building and I was wearing like a trenchcoat and tophat. I'm in and out of there all the time, but that particular day they were like OMG YOU LOOK SUSPICIOUS MR. And wouldn't let me in.

Anyways I'm sorry your community is so dumb about this sort of thing

I feel you... I've never fit into the mold of the "lady" and I've been called a dyke to my face.. Tomboys are apparently cute when you're a kid, but sadly when you're grown it makes people question your sexuality.. Which I never understood.. Since when does my clothes have anything to do with whether or not I like dick?

Either way, you look badass and I wish you luck.. I hope you get there someday and can be happy in your baggy clothes and dark colours.. I'm still fighting the good fight myself..

I hope you make it to your own place some day soon. That changes a lot! And that style is really cool!

nicely done <3 I feel like you except the opposite xD. >>ish male

Honestly i think girls as tomboys are pretty cute, maybe its that I have more in common with them than girly girls idk.

Anyway think of it this way, once your out of the house you can be who YOU wanna be. You will be your own person and do what you like to do. Your parents are telling you how to act mainly because well they are parents and they see you as a kid living in their house. I know they want you to move out because its at that time in your life for you to be on your own. Once you do then you can live by your own rules.

So pretty much just keep doing what your doing and bide your time for right now. Also keep up the good work with your art.

COOL!

Yep, I definitely know what you mean. Im a guy and I want to doll myself up as pretty as Id like. Nothin really stopping me, but in that same context, theres nothing stopping anyone. I say do it, and do it hard. Let them bitches hate

If somebody looked at you while wearing that and said you were a butch lesbian, 1) they don't understand what those terms mean, and 2) they're idiots locked into a strict, misogynistic gender binary. I know plenty of straight, married women who dress like that daily and they look awesome doing it. Your clothing doesn't define your gender or your sexuality: those who can't see past that don't matter. And the fact is that lots of women are tomboys - myself included - and there's a whole crowd of guys out there who think that's the hottest thing on earth.

(As for the "crossdressing boys have it hard" bit... yeah. Was there before I transitioned and it was a terrible, dark, lonely place to be. I have some horror stories. Here's to hoping we can break down those barriers with time.)

Well you shouldn't worry what others think. There's tons of other tomboys in the world. ^^
Though, I'm just rather upset that people think all girly girls are sluts or liking girly things is bad. D: Not saying anyone has to like it, I'd just rather people not think it's a bad thing to be feminine. Our society is full of labeling and stereotyping now, unfortunately. Just like when all the movie critics saying Merida from Brave is a lesbian because she didn't want to get married to any of the three dumbasses she just met. -3-


Be who you want to be regardless of what everyone says about you. You can not please everyone all the time. It will only make you crazy x_x;

I love this. Really.

I don't get why people are telling you to join the military just cause of the way you are =\

Anyways...there are a lot of girls out there just like you. I am one of them. Eyeliner is as far as makeup goes for me..I love guys clothing and I feel most comfortable wearing black or some other dark colors. My mom hated that, always asking why I can't be normal, but you know what? I ignored them.
It's always something to do with wearing a dress or putting on lipstick or whatever, but I don't. Maybe my parents aren't like yours =\ they gave up on trying to fight me on it.

Or something else I did was wear what they wanted me to wear then change out of it when I left the house. (Example was when they made me go to prom and I had to wear a red dress I didn't want to. On the drive there, I changed into something I was actually willing to wear, then changed back when it ended) idk..maybe you don't want to go through that trouble..but I'm just sayin'

Move to Canada, honey. I only just started wearing girly clothing and whatnot when I was 23/24 (I just turned 26). No one's ever found it weird, called me a lesbian or whatnot. I had a BUNCH of tomboyish girl friends. We would hang out and play video games all the time. My female friends still DO play video games (one of them is "the girl at The Last Game Store" as a job and I'm jelly).

Screw dressing and "acting" like a girl. So far as I'm concerned, clothes are clothes. Boys can wear what they want just as much as girls (I love boys who wear skirts and panties as much as I love girls in baggy sweaters) and girls can act like boys.

I don't know WHERE you live, but being a tomboy up here is still a thing.

Don't worry Tartii, you'll soon be able to be who you want when you want all the time once you are able to move out. And for those people on the street you shouldn't worry about what they will think. You are your own person and no one can say otherwise. You shouldn't have to change yourself just so you can fool others. You should be able too be yourself as much as you want and screw what others think. Just hang in there Tartii cause things will get better in time.

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Be who the hell you want to be girl and do it now before its to late your a tomboy good on you . If you don't be who you want it like a broken leg setting wrong . Sure you can walk on it but never feels right ever again

This reminds me of my mate. A lot. I'm going to tell you what I told her. You are your own person. Your parents do not have any claim on you, and you will find your own way. Don't let them sway you into being something you aren't. There are people who will love you for who you are, (depending on what you believe, there is only One that matters, or not. #notstartingadebate) and you should love everyone the same. I know it's hard, but you need to worry more about yourself and less of what other people think of you. Respect is a two-way street, and you should treat it as such.

Perhaps one day you'll be able to dress and be like who you want. I feel a lot like you do. I grew up liking boys more and hanging around them more because I just don't do girly things. I fought with my mother over the fact that I wore mens clothing, always sizes bigger than I needed and always Converse shoes. I still wear loose clothing, still wear the Converse and still prefer guys clothes over girls. Why? They have more awesome clothes. Been this way since 1997 and I'll be 34 in a couple months. I do have the short hair now to boot and love it. Hey, just try to do what you want to do, society be damned.

I've dressed like a tomboy since I was old enough to pick my own clothes. Sure, my mom always wants me to wear girls clothes and swears that someday I'll want to have a kid, but yeah. Honestly, you just gotta get used to not caring about what others think, sometimes even parents. You can't please everyone, might as well make yourself happy.

I'm male and I actually run into a lot of the same issues you do. It's only getting more frustrating over time, I wish I had some advice for it.

Clothes don't change who you are, only other people's perception of you. Sad that your parents care more about the one than the other, it seems. Be who you are as much as you can.

I know this may not mean much, and you've already gotten so many comments, but you should do what you want. Because you want to. Wear the clothes that you like, that make you happy. Act the way you want, hang with who you want. Because a happier you, is a more confident you. And that's always the best thing. I'm the same way. I like boys clothes, because they are comfortable, and I like the mindset that I'm in when I wear them. Sure, it gives off a persona of being a butch lesbian, even my little sister calls me one, but I know I'm not, so she and everyone else can shove it. :3

Aww don't be silly. You can be, and you Are You. Don't worry what others think - you don't live for them. You live for yourself only. Wear whatever the heck you want, it's nobody else's business as long as it doesn't physically hurt anyone. It's their butthurt if they dislike it , Not Yours.

Just be~ Being comfy as yourself is the start of a wonderful life with much much less complications and conflicts.

Also it's unavoidable, that likes shift when time passes. It's okay to dress however you like at This moment Right Now. Next year you might like other things entirely, and that's perfectly fine! As long as you feel comfy Now. Don't worry ^^

Also, if everyone dressed like the mainstream suggests, life would be BORING.

Will say I too, personally, enjoy tomboys. Hell, I'm practically engaged to one. :>
Like many other folks have said here (so I won't repeat things too much), don't let your parents stomp your personality out, hang in there until you've got more breathing room to act as you please, and then do whatever the fuck you want because society is full of idiots who wouldn't know what's attractive from a hole in the ground. <3

I really like this, I feel for you and I hope that you can look like the person you want to be and have your parents and family and friends accept you.

So I know this is from 9 months ago so it's a lil old, but I'd assume from what you wrote that it's still going on.

1) Things will be a lot different once you're out of your parents home.
2) Not everywhere is created equal, places like San Francisco (where I live) are much more accepting of whatever kind of presentation you want to have. No one really cares if you go out wearing boy clothes or girl clothes or whatever & I'm sure it's not the only place like that.
3) Sometimes you have to do what you want to do, not what everyone else wants you to do.
4) When you're your true self, you will be happiest.
5) I'm not saying that going around in boy clothes wont get you perceived as "butch" or a lesbian, but honestly either way you're being mislabeled. If you wear girly clothes you're being labeled as a girly girl, if you wear guy clothes you're labeled as a lesbian or butch or whatever. Honestly, there are plenty of guys out there that would give anything to get a girl like you, one who likes what they like, isnt afraid to get dirty or horse around....people like other people that they have stuff in common with. Why else would most girls just hang out with mostly girls & most guys just hang out with mostly guys? Wouldnt it be much more fun to date a guy who was into that style & really liked you for who you really are as opposed to a front your putting on just because others are telling you that's the right way to do it? If anyone were to call you a lesbian, it's a simple answer "no, actually I'm straight, I just like wearing this type of clothing"
6)I think you're a girl that just has different preferences than what a lot of people around her are trying to tell her is right. It goes back to what is really "male" & "female" Darker clothes, shorter hair, & not being afraid to get dirty are not male. They are just things.


My advice, move out of your parents place ASAP & start doing what you want to do. You're an adult, you have that choice & right just like everyone else. If people around you give you a hard time, especially those you're close with, it might be time to re-evaluate who you're hanging out with. Again, not saying you'll never encounter that...but it's one of those things where you have to ask yourself : Is making those kind of people happy more important than my own happiness?