he doesn't get "loving every body"

"loving everyone" hopefully doesn't mean "I have sex with everyone!" because I personally wouldn't put up with that either IF!!! now that's the keyword IF!!! thats what that meant lol.

But I like you and I hope everything gets better.

i think she meant tolerance and understanding...

well, if she meant that she would just say "tolerance and understanding" but she just typed a big thing about how she was extremely intimate with her guy friends and then said her boyfriend was offended by that, and then left a comment after implying she thinks it's okay to be intimate with other dudes "He doesn't get loving every body".

So I don't think thats what she meant. but it's irrelevant because she will clarify herself or not, it doesn't matter it's not even any of my business and I barely care.

loving everyone refers to the fact that you can see the good in everyone. Love doesn't mean a sexual attraction to them. The phrase "loving everyone" envelopes every type of love at that point weather it be family love, friend love, true love, or the type of love that one could have for an artist they look up to or a celebrity. :)

I don't need the definition of "love" explained to me. Maybe you should explain it to wolf man though.

But there is something called "context" and that's what I thought she may have meant in "context" to her description. I didn't say she did mean it. So can all you irritating fans like...mind your own business? And not try to insert what you guys think into my comments because my care meter is like -5 trillion.

And this isn't just to you Rondonu but to EVERYONE replying to me, and I know people will say "this is a public forum" yeah, well if there was a "do not allow public 'not including author' of this submission to reply" I would have pressed it.

Don't be offended by this Rondonu but I have been spammed by people before who think I care about what they have to say I just don't when I leave a comment it's to falvie not anyone ells. v_v

yes you do.

Her context was quite clear, the timing of events was quite clear, and nothing you have said has indicated you even have the least rudimentary understanding of what she wrote at all. You sound as bad as her bf at understanding people..

"you are as bad as her bf at understanding people" WELL! that's quiet the assumption about someone you don't know.

No assumption, you show it plainly.

No that is a assumption. Like, factually if you looked up "assumption" in the dictionary it would describe what you just did.

Also my comment about when I post a comment its to Falvie and not her retarded fan base this is exactly what I was talking about. when I leave a harmless comment I don't want it to have to be reviewed by her fans

and I shouldn't have to have my comments reviewed by you guys, I think that's pretty reasonable. So fuck off. and mind your own business.

Then you should note her if you think your comment is so benign and we're all just retards, but thats just you assuming your comment was benign and that we're all retards, when in fact your comment was poorly disguised vitriol, or you simply did not read her written statements very carefully.

I'm leaning towards the former given your replies.

let me think..I left a comment for falvie saying "hope that's not what you meant! haha!" then saying "hope everything works out for you!" and then here comes the flood of comments by mindless fans crying like little babies because I implied maybe she likes to have a lot of sex with her dude friends. (because there's something wrong with that? I guess?)

Then you have the audacity to compare me to someone who emotionally abuses someone and steals their possessions...you know...because my comment and his actions are just neck and neck exactly the same! anyone who would imply a young attractive female would want to have a lot of sex, has the same mental capacity as a overly emotional man with trust issues who abuses and steals things from his "girlfriend" because he is suffering from paranoia.

yeah.

You're showing that you're retards. The first comment was completely harmless.

i'm sorry you have to deal with that crap... that picture is very true though... i hope things look up for you soon

Honestly if trust is broken between you two it's hard to overcome, I agree with Haunt though, you guys need to be more open with each other in the communication department or there isn't much hope or point of remaining together.

I try to put myself in both sides shoes, I imagine my gf messaging her ex and saying she'd "cuddle" them after I was obviously upset and it hurts. I also am very in your position though, because I'm a lover and I constantly want to be sweet on everyone, I know it taxes my gf, but I've worked on toning myself down, the same way she's worked on understanding my desire to love everyone. It comes down to talking and working through these problems.

If you can't communicate... Or if you can't reach a reasonably solution or compromise to where you can both be happy... Then yeah. You guys might just be better off splitting ways. You're both still young. You can't always win and get it right the first couple rounds. You've got a lot ahead of you, don't be afraid to take new paths. You'll both grow and learn from your experiences now, and that makes your time spent worth it in the end.

While a totally agree with you, communication is important, I can see him being more in the wrong. His attitude about it is really childish. I think he kind of needs to deal with his low self esteem because not only does it hurt relationships but jobs and other things. And invading per privacy was rather rude.

My boyfriend and I had to work, and are still working out my issues so I know what that's like. Takes a lot of time.

Considering we only have Falvies word to go on, I like to remain a neutral party as much as possible and not point fingers. From what she's said I obviously would uh, yeah totes not like her bf. He sounds possessive and immature, but everyone's got a side to tell.

It's more or less why I posted the "break ups don't have to mean bad things" message at the end. I think we all know there is a certain point when shit is jut not going to get better and we gotta pick up and carry on to greener pastures. I wish I had done it in quite a few earlier relationships. My current one is 5 and a half years long already and going strong, so... It's why I really push for communication.

Kinda sounds to me like your bf if kind of an asshole. I mean what does it matter who you had sexy times with in your past? He's with you NOW so what does it matter if you wanna be friends with someone you had sex with in the past? thats your own buisness. Also, just because you wanna stay friends with this guy doesnt mean you're going to have sex with him again. Ugh... your bf really needs to start using his brain. (this is just my opinion of course^^ Nothing was meant as a personal insult^^)

you are so undeserving of being treated so foul. and he's undeserving of a heart as golden as yours.

I guess some people can't see a face and into what a person's life was like.
Or accept what someone's past was like.
Some people persist with possessiveness... Eventually there may be a big wrong that they will learn right from.


As for the drawing, it looks good.

No matter a pity backstory, no one deserves to be treated like that. I've had similar situations in my past relationships. If he's going through your messages just to start something...I dare say the trust is completely gone within your relationship. And, from all that you've told us in the past, it seems more of a trapped relationship and not even a loving relationship at all anymore.
You must remember that you are the one to make your own decisions, not us. We cannot tell or force you to break up with him. Be strong, when the moment comes when you have the opportune moment in your life to say "should I stay, or should I leave?" Repeat to yourself: "Does he really love me?", "is this the perfect relationship for me?" "Where do I see myself in the future with/without him?"
Things like that.
Relationships are about love and companionship, not hating one another.
I'm sorry to hear all that you've been going through. :C *hugs*

Falvie; I've never left you a message on FA before but you are one of the artists here that I both check up on regularly and have a lot of respect for. This sound eerily similar to a past relationship (or two) of my own, and even though I might be a stranger to you I want you to know I understand how frustrating and depressing a situation like this can be.

I live in Oakville; it's not far from Toronto, and if you need help pricing places, information on what neighbourhoods are friendly, or anything else feel free to contact me.

I've had to leave everything behind once because of a bad relationship. It's really rough at first, but with some good friends and a little hard work I'm sure you can set yourself up comfortably if you need to move to the area.

Best of luck, I know you won't let someone like him subtract from who you are.

I relate to your situation so much it's uncomfortable... do you take donations? if you do i'd like to give you a little bit to help save up that money to move, I've been in a very similar position myself and if there's anything I can do to help I would love to.

I hope things go okay.

fuck that guy, end of discussion lololol

you should move to t-town anyway, it'd be way better for you than that piece of shit sudbury or whatever. you need people and a social life and exciting things happening.

i totally get this.. I cuddle some of my guy friends and did so with an ex of mine and at first my boyfriend was really sketchy about it, but after explaining to him how i am and that I'm an affectionate not slutty person and that i like taking care of my friends he was ok with it.

When significant others are suspicious like that, it makes you wonder if they themselves are cheating. Hrm...

Augh, I'm so sorry you have to deal with that :(

I swear this guy is being so dramatic.

Leave him behind! Come to me baby!

Anyone who makes you feel bad for being yourself, isn't worthy of you. It doesn't take money to leave someone-- unless you're living with them I suppose. Do you have any friends you could stay with until you save enough dough?

Distrust is toxic, and a failure to recognize privacy is unacceptable, not to mention the misogynistic vibe I'm getting here.

I really really hope that you can get away from this. I hate that this type of thing follows you around, and I'm unhappy with how every time you get comfortable something else happens and you have to leave.

OMG. I thought he was misogynistic too! Especially seeing how he talks to him mother... O__O

Life's just throwing hard ball though, I just... gotta keep my emotions in check. I just want there to be peace between us. I really do like him, I know why, but I'm lying to myself. I knew this was coming when I first started seeing him, and I kept telling myself not to get involved, but I was so tired of being depressed and lonely I didn't listen to my gut.

welp, I know I'll be listening a lot better next time. x___x;

I worry that you will not get the peace that you want for some time. I will not claim to know him, but I fear that even after you leave, he may follow you out of some misguided sense of punishing you for a perceived transgression. The passive aggressive behavior I see leads me to believe I know this type of person, and I'm concerned that that's the case.

I want you to be safe. Do everything you can to be safe. Call the police if it gets worse, or find someone on FA to stay with if necessary, someone you trust. I wish I was within range to help.

That is so stupid...not of you, I mean your boyfriend. You trust him and you love him and trust he won't cheat on you, why can't he do the same? People these days, I swear...I do have to thank you for the words of inspiration on your picture, though. I've been having some issues with friends, especially family lately, that's been giving me HELL for the way I truly am. I even got kicked out of my house and had to sleep in my car for a night in sixty or fifty degree something weather. I'm just glad there's family I can come home to online, and I'm glad you can too. In the words of someone obviously wiser than me, "I do not judge, hate, or tease others...because I've been treated that way my entire life, and I know how it feels."

Does this apply to parents aswell?
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Sounds exactly how i jest went throguh litlerally one year ago on the 7th of Februray... after he broke up with me of course.... need somone to tlak to? Us watcheers here feels you r pain...

these images just that youve posted just ripped my heart out and have made me remember those horrible feelings i also hold.... youve actually inspired me to do emotional drawing too... thank you


and for loves sake leave the bastard. Before love kills you on the inside Q mQ

I'm in agreement with Jjazmin167- Leave him. Before it kills you inside.
I went through years of misery due to my boyfriend having the same mind set as yours.
He got jealous when I hugged any of my friends, male, female, taken or available.
But bottom line, is that I'm glad I'm away from him, because he was killing me inside.

I hate to hear about someone else going through the same ordeal...
Good luck and best wishes
-Jade

ugh that sucks. Sounds like your boyfriend is oppressive/manipulative. From what it sounds like, he's trying to guilt you into doing what he wants. Which really sucks, because that's not fair to either of you. That form of jealousy that you described shows a lack of self-esteem and a lack of trustworthiness, and from what I can see it seems to be coming from just his side of things. If he thinks he can emotionally manipulate and oppress someone to get what he wants, he's not going to get far in life.

I really hope you get out of this soon... it sounds pretty draining emotionally AND physically.
Best of luck to you c:

absolutely. and 100% true.

Yeah, that is a total psychic vampire. Sapping away your happiness. That irritates me when messages are misconstrued like that. Is there a way you can either leave him or kick him out? Change the locks while he's gone or something. No one deserves to be treated like that, especially someone like you. Ah that just really irks me. Good luck

I'm not sure where I read this quote, since it was so long ago, but here:
"Be yourself. Those who mind, don't matter, and those who matter, don't mind."

I may be getting the phrases switched up, but I think that's right.

Another thing that seems to happen in this world is that when you're actively trying to find someone, you can't. But when you legitimately stop caring about it and accept yourself and your life, that special person practically drops right in front of you.

He sounds like a soul sucker....GURL YOU DONT NEED A SOUL SUCKER

Man I cant believe a person would treat someone like that. Its just trashy and a bad reflection on themselves. Im sorry ID GIVE YOU 4000 IF I HAD IT<3

i dont blame your BF for being concerned that you FB'd somone saying youd "cuddle them."

but i would blame him for combing through your FB.

and IDK what "treating you like shit" consists of, but if you truly feel he treats you like shit.... please leave him.

"vampiric presence" is a very good definition it seems.
And the words in the drawing is SO true. I know because I used to have problems with friendships. Now I don't. I prefer having few good friends than tons of "friends".