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4 years ago
This is a post I was desperately hoping I wouldn't have to make this year. Or ever.....
About a week and a half ago, my mother passed away from cancer.
We had some reason to believe that we might have been out of the woods after her surgery earlier in the year, but everything flared back up in August. At that point, there just wasn't enough time to do anything direct to combat it. Two months was all we had from that point on to say goodbye and help her wrap up the last moments of her life.
The last few months have been a nightmare. I've been avoiding talking about all of this purely to avoid the trainwreck that my head turns into when I think about it. Tinkering with Vega and Mia here and there and hanging out in discord VCs during some of the moments of clarity between work/family/anxiety overload was a tremendous help in keeping my sanity intact, and I can't thank you guys enough for putting up with me.
So yeah...just wanted to get this off my chest. Not talking about it was starting to hurt worse than talking about it. Right now, unfortunately my focus is completely fucked. Projects will not halt, but the pace is going to stay extremely slow for obvious reasons. Apologies to anyone who DMed me in the last few months that I wasn't able to respond to. When I'm in this state I just can't manage replies sometimes.
Don't waste time. Don't take the people you love for granted. And take care of yourselves.
- AAD
About a week and a half ago, my mother passed away from cancer.
We had some reason to believe that we might have been out of the woods after her surgery earlier in the year, but everything flared back up in August. At that point, there just wasn't enough time to do anything direct to combat it. Two months was all we had from that point on to say goodbye and help her wrap up the last moments of her life.
The last few months have been a nightmare. I've been avoiding talking about all of this purely to avoid the trainwreck that my head turns into when I think about it. Tinkering with Vega and Mia here and there and hanging out in discord VCs during some of the moments of clarity between work/family/anxiety overload was a tremendous help in keeping my sanity intact, and I can't thank you guys enough for putting up with me.
So yeah...just wanted to get this off my chest. Not talking about it was starting to hurt worse than talking about it. Right now, unfortunately my focus is completely fucked. Projects will not halt, but the pace is going to stay extremely slow for obvious reasons. Apologies to anyone who DMed me in the last few months that I wasn't able to respond to. When I'm in this state I just can't manage replies sometimes.
Don't waste time. Don't take the people you love for granted. And take care of yourselves.
- AAD
-Zennilad
And my condolences; may she rest in peace.
The loss of a loved one will always test ones strength of character and strength of will, though this is especially true in situations where not just family but parents are the ones we've lost. I cannot and will not pretend to understand what you have gone and currently are going through, but know that you have my sincerest sympathies.
Take the time you need to come back better than you were before. If you feel a sluggish pace is right then I won't tell you otherwise, but if you so much as doubt that decision then I insist you take a break and come back when you've sorted out your grievances. I may not have lost a loved one the same way you have yet, but I know what it feels like to let things fester and grow when I could have handled them a long, long time ago.
Take care Anno, and remember, don't dwell on what could have been, just be glad you made the most of the time you had. I'm sure the last thing she would have wanted is seeing you sulk for the rest of your days.
My condolences to you and your family. :(