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Advice for your Friends
4 years ago
Hey guys,
Had a rough little few nights, all I gotta say...well is a few things.
Don't punish your friends for their beliefs, just don't, that's firstly. Don't take it out on someone if they have a different religion, different "side", not everyone is evil who thinks different than you. We all have different experiences.
Second if you're going to accuse someone of being a terrible, awful, scary person? Show your side, show your proof, and don't get mad when someone asks for proof. If you're going to tell someone they're shit at least be able to tell them why.
Next, don't be close minded. Accept that you may be in the wrong, look at the evidence, and realize it might be your own emotions or hatred that's the problem, not them.
Lastly, don't burn bridges with people who care about you and try to reach out to you. Not everyone is perfect, but if someone shows genuine care for you and tries to check on you and sees your upset? Why wouldn't they try to find out what's wrong or try to cheer you up?
Don't be that guy who just goes "Oh you're not on my side politically? Then you make me uncomfortable and are a bad person. Block." Just, don't. I've seen too many.
We're all human, all of us, every last one. Just people on this planet trying to get along.
Everyone should be allowed the pursuit of happiness as long as it does not get in the way of someone else's pursuit. Offending someone doesn't count, keep to your own lane.
Got shut out by another "friend" today. I make mistakes, and am ready to admit them. But me being me, and believing what I believe in, why should what I believe in, but never talk about or bring up, bother you? I run a chat room with the sole purpose of never bringing up politics or religion for this reason. Our whole past is fine and then political things happen in RL then you're mad at me online for no reason? Because I'm asking why? Because I'm asking for proof?
Those things bother me.... don't get mad at someone for defending themselves when you accuse them of random things you heard or imagined. Don't be mad when someone asks for proof because you can't provide it. Don't get mad when someone worries about you and asks about you. Don't send them a short novel on how they're a bad person then get angry when presented with the logs you mentioned and they're NOTHING like what you said.
This has happened to me roughly eight or nine times, always the same story, always with people in the same mindset, always the same "political" instances that drag it out.
I am sick of losing friends to politics, rumors, imaginings, and religion bashing.
We're all people, just...be people, human, respect one another and be kind, everyone is going through something, and not all of us care about politics and the "political high ground" over caring about people.
Take care of yourselves, be kind to others,
Alex
(Comments disabled because this is a vent, rant, and advice, not for pity or discussion)
Had a rough little few nights, all I gotta say...well is a few things.
Don't punish your friends for their beliefs, just don't, that's firstly. Don't take it out on someone if they have a different religion, different "side", not everyone is evil who thinks different than you. We all have different experiences.
Second if you're going to accuse someone of being a terrible, awful, scary person? Show your side, show your proof, and don't get mad when someone asks for proof. If you're going to tell someone they're shit at least be able to tell them why.
Next, don't be close minded. Accept that you may be in the wrong, look at the evidence, and realize it might be your own emotions or hatred that's the problem, not them.
Lastly, don't burn bridges with people who care about you and try to reach out to you. Not everyone is perfect, but if someone shows genuine care for you and tries to check on you and sees your upset? Why wouldn't they try to find out what's wrong or try to cheer you up?
Don't be that guy who just goes "Oh you're not on my side politically? Then you make me uncomfortable and are a bad person. Block." Just, don't. I've seen too many.
We're all human, all of us, every last one. Just people on this planet trying to get along.
Everyone should be allowed the pursuit of happiness as long as it does not get in the way of someone else's pursuit. Offending someone doesn't count, keep to your own lane.
Got shut out by another "friend" today. I make mistakes, and am ready to admit them. But me being me, and believing what I believe in, why should what I believe in, but never talk about or bring up, bother you? I run a chat room with the sole purpose of never bringing up politics or religion for this reason. Our whole past is fine and then political things happen in RL then you're mad at me online for no reason? Because I'm asking why? Because I'm asking for proof?
Those things bother me.... don't get mad at someone for defending themselves when you accuse them of random things you heard or imagined. Don't be mad when someone asks for proof because you can't provide it. Don't get mad when someone worries about you and asks about you. Don't send them a short novel on how they're a bad person then get angry when presented with the logs you mentioned and they're NOTHING like what you said.
This has happened to me roughly eight or nine times, always the same story, always with people in the same mindset, always the same "political" instances that drag it out.
I am sick of losing friends to politics, rumors, imaginings, and religion bashing.
We're all people, just...be people, human, respect one another and be kind, everyone is going through something, and not all of us care about politics and the "political high ground" over caring about people.
Take care of yourselves, be kind to others,
Alex
(Comments disabled because this is a vent, rant, and advice, not for pity or discussion)
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