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Opinion (vent) (for real this time) Post
4 years ago
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I feel like there is a wall between me and other people that I can't express genuine thoughts to them, most of the time because they would think my thoughts are insane. I also see a rift between other people in the diaper art sphere though.
This issue is compounded by how there are few public forums to discuss diaper art, especially due to the existence of Twitter and Discord. The ones that exist are largely devoted to real life diaper stuff and AB lifestylers, a vastly different aspect of the fetish to what I'm interested in.
I feel like the "ABDL" label is a mental prison, like many other labels. When all of us call ourselves that, it implies we have a connection that we don't. I suffer from a feeling that I do have something in common with them, when I know I don't. The label was supposed to bring us together but that doesn't work if we don't share common interests and have no reason to interact with each other, at best it gives us tribes to belong to. This results in pretty ugly things. The best example of this is how in would-be safe havens for "ABDLs", I see a fair handful of people who insecurely foist their own interests onto others.
You're here because you like my art or writing, and I find that infinitely more valuable than if you were here because of the "community" or because of the superficial elements our fetish share. I have gained a great many positive experiences from friends I made over diaper art, but I have gained not one thing from associating with the community at large.
Diapers are not one interest, they are the object of many different interests. There are so many different appeals to them, it's an interesting thing. That's why I'm disappointed in how people claim that only theirs counts, the one true diaper fetish. It is especially ironic that this happens so much with "ABs", who mostly use diapers as a prop, like a costume, which serves only a secondary purpose.
Every once in a while I get hung up on these things. I feel like I'm in a cycle where I get the desire to go interact with other diaper fetishists, because I crave belonging like the animal I am, but I always find these things happening and am disappointed. I have more or less accepted that my interest is different from others and I'm not going to change for them, but I don't want to give up on finding more people to share my passion with.
This issue is compounded by how there are few public forums to discuss diaper art, especially due to the existence of Twitter and Discord. The ones that exist are largely devoted to real life diaper stuff and AB lifestylers, a vastly different aspect of the fetish to what I'm interested in.
I feel like the "ABDL" label is a mental prison, like many other labels. When all of us call ourselves that, it implies we have a connection that we don't. I suffer from a feeling that I do have something in common with them, when I know I don't. The label was supposed to bring us together but that doesn't work if we don't share common interests and have no reason to interact with each other, at best it gives us tribes to belong to. This results in pretty ugly things. The best example of this is how in would-be safe havens for "ABDLs", I see a fair handful of people who insecurely foist their own interests onto others.
You're here because you like my art or writing, and I find that infinitely more valuable than if you were here because of the "community" or because of the superficial elements our fetish share. I have gained a great many positive experiences from friends I made over diaper art, but I have gained not one thing from associating with the community at large.
Diapers are not one interest, they are the object of many different interests. There are so many different appeals to them, it's an interesting thing. That's why I'm disappointed in how people claim that only theirs counts, the one true diaper fetish. It is especially ironic that this happens so much with "ABs", who mostly use diapers as a prop, like a costume, which serves only a secondary purpose.
Every once in a while I get hung up on these things. I feel like I'm in a cycle where I get the desire to go interact with other diaper fetishists, because I crave belonging like the animal I am, but I always find these things happening and am disappointed. I have more or less accepted that my interest is different from others and I'm not going to change for them, but I don't want to give up on finding more people to share my passion with.
