Hey guys!

For those who didn’t know and were curious, around 7 months ago I declared that I no longer identify as an “ABDL/babyfur/diaperfur,” and I continue to stand by what I said.

But I figured I would write this journal on where my interests lies in regards to the fandom as I feel I have a better mental definition on where my boundaries lie.

I have no real IRL interest in nappies anymore… Whether it be talking about it, wearing them IRL or seeking out/hanging out with other community members for the purpose of expressing ABDLish dynamics (I have no issue with meeting up with other peeps in the fandom space, it’s just ABDL stuff can’t be the main motivator for such a meet-up)…. There is an exception when it comes to fursuits (which I explain why in a little bit).

The biggest reason for the decline in these interests, and why I no longer identify with the fandom, is simply that I feel the interests of the fandom don’t align with my own.

In my experience in the fandom, there is an expectation you are one of two things: 1. You want to be part of a baby/caretaker dynamic, recreating your cherished childhood memories and feelings through each other. Or 2. (The far more common nowadays) You are an adult wanting a ‘dirty’ sexual relationship with someone else… Things like cucking, snoofing and obsessing about ‘yellow and brown diapers,’ playing with particular adult toys, behaving crudely, etc.

Now to be absolutely clear, I am not shaming ANYONE for these interests, go have fun with them! They are simply not my own interests... I also know not everyone falls exactly in these two groups, but a lot of peeps do, and that makes it tricky when others make the assumption you fall into one of those two groups as well (hence why I don’t identify with the fandom).

So… What are my interests then? Well it’s no secret I enjoy talking and drawing silly cartoon animals (who often end up in nappies), and that holds true to this day! To me, nappies are still cute as a silly cartoonish gag and can lead to some amusing funny stories that pays homage to old cartoons we all watched, and act as a vessel for some truly imaginative scenes. In all, it’s just silly goofy fun for me imagining and playing out those situations, especially as it lacks this expectation being ‘sexual/adults.’

The same applies to fursuits… Wearing a fursuit is just silly light-hearted fun as you are just playing a character rather than necessarily expressing some inner sexual desire (I know some suiters do, and that is fine, but that’s not the default expectation of fursuits). In fact, I honestly would have no issue wearing a diapered fursuit IRL.

To me, playing as a cartoon animal or dressing in a fursuit is akin to playing a video game character and messing around, rather than expressing some deep inner desire that I don’t have… That’s why I don’t consider myself an ABDL/babyfur/diaperfur despite these few interests. You may disagree with my definitions or analysis of the fandom as a whole, but that’s just my perception of how I experienced things in this space.

So yeah, that’s about it without making this journal even longer than it should be… But it should act as a good reference for myself to understand my interests going forward (especially since that has always been a tough struggle for me) Any questions, feel free to yell at me and I’ll be happy to answer!

Take care peeps! c: