For myself, I've mostly distanced myself from it several years back, but I am connected with just a handful of special people who I care about and that is just my overall enjoyment of the community. So, if that decision gives you peace of mind, I fully support it.

That is definitely where I am at...

I have no reason or desire to cut off a handful of individuals from the fandom that I enjoy or who I consider to be good people... It will simply just be outside of the fandom going forward. :)

Don't get me wrong; I still like most of the folks in the community including the artwork but there is so much toxicity among the bigger names and voices in the community that I find obnoxious and off-putting. Hence why I generally keep my distance.

I getcha Billy. Seeing what this community has turned into over the past few years is incredibly disheartening and seeing folks that you look up towards be okay/indulge in "certain tastes" (especially as a victim) has completely thrown a wrench into my want to partake in this community. It WAS a safe space for me to both be my goofy toony adult self and also explore and look after my more innocent self.

Branching out was the best thing I did. Helped me discover a lot more about myself! I've made plenty of new friends and connections outside of ABDL/BF. I'm still an ABDL at heart (and will always be) but not an *ABDL* (as in community) I just interact with folk I can vet myself and keep certain types at a blocks distance.

I'm thankful for the community but it's just incompatible with me now ya'know? I've found that staying within closed off communities keeps the bad actors away. Sometimes you HAVE to gatekeep and I think people have forgotten that because of the current situation politically.

Enemy of my enemy doesn't mean that they're your friend.

You and me are on the same boat in regards to all of that.

It feels like the fandom has become obsessed in being so insular and "anti-normie" that it's becoming self-destructive and unhealthy, especially with the new waves of people entering that fandom... The recent open acceptance of such "certain tastes" into its ranks feels like an example of this, and one I do not wish to associate with in any way for personal moral reasons.

I will still have my niche personal interests in ABDL stuff, and I have made several wonderful friends from the fandom....But the community itself? No, I am staying away from it.

I just don't get it. That community already has their own spaces and places. They should keep that stuff in those spaces instead of coming into ABDL/BF spaces and astroturfing them into their own spaces. That has been one of my major complaints.

I know that kink is under attack both by Payment Processors and Governments but that doesn't mean you throw all morals and jellify your spine just because you're both fighting the same fight. As I said earlier you can be into that and also be an ABDL. However you should keep that stuff in those spaces and away from ABDL ones. It's a completely reasonable and fair to want that. My analogy is you wouldn't go dressed up as Spock from Star Trek at a Star Wars convention.

"Enemy of my enemy doesn't mean that they're your friend." That's based AF.

Bummer, I'll still keep you on my watch list though, as you do make very cute art. I know what ABDL is, but can you explain the "BF" part? This is the first I've heard it.

"BF" stands for "babyfur." Hope that helps.

Thanks! :D

I will still be trying to do some art, it will just be not focused around ABDL stuff and more general type of stuff... But happy you had enjoyed my stuff regardless! :)

And as Jazz mentioned, BF just means babyfur.

As a new ABDL (but not new to furry), I have found the ABDL furry community immensely difficult to integrate into the past 6 months. It seems cliquey and so isolating/closed off compared to the rest of the fandom. Thank you for being the only person I contacted that was willing to art trade with me, it meant a lot! I hope you continue to draw, I enjoy your art style. Take care of yourself!

That's actually the thing that turned me off from the community about five-ish years ago: it was cliquey even back then, but now it has gotten much worse and has become extremely toxic. I don't mind identifying as a babyfur/kidfur myself but for the most part, I'm content not being associated with the community. It's definitely nice to not be in the minority on this view though. :)

While there are still a good selection of artists that I love and I enjoy a lot of the concepts, I kinda can't help but agree with you, and I kinda plan to do the same thing when I break into posting my own artwork online
I think the thing that's made it a difficult community for me to fully get into save for a couple good pals I vibe with, is that so many of the generally accepted dynamics between folks feel so hard-codified into certain specific roles that I just kind of don't have much interest in
It's like anyone who's a "caregiver" always has to be a certain way, everyone who's a "baby" is expected to be a certain way, and so on, and so forth
If you just like diapers for the sake of it, or you have your own idea of how you'd like to interact with folk, it gets really hard to click with people when they seem to want certain kinds of interactions out of you based on what they initially see you as
I also feel like so much more of the community these days has hard-focused on the IRL ABDL lifestyle, and while I fully respect the folk going for it, and I think it's cool people are finding a way to be comfy with themselves, I also dislike the way this, too, has become sort of an expectation of its own, and people lose interest in you if you tell them you aren't really interested in pursuing these things IRL or making it part of your overall lifestyle. Like it's not that I don't see the appeal, I think I just wish overall that folk in this space were more easygoing, and could go with the flow when they're interacting with new folk, rather than expecting the interest to be the same for everybody.

It was nice seeing your art then... and it will still be nice to see your art later!

I've never considered myself ABDL/BF/etc but have acknowledged it for being a reason I draw today, even if I don't draw babyfur stuff often
I have ZERO clue what's going on with the community right now, yet I have seen these "rises" and "falls" of artists entering and exiting the community every couple of years...
I'm kind of curious about what's going on now but, maybe I don't wanna know HAH

Thank you for doing an art trade / considering art trades with me. Even now, several years later, it makes me happy I got the opportunity to trade with an artist I admire :)
I hope to see more of your work in the future, even if it's not BF related!

I have decided to keep distance from that community as well. I am looking at other hobbies such as filmmaking to try out something different.