Friend/Chat advice?
4 years ago
General
Ok so a slightly more serious journal. When you talk to someone new for the first time and really hit it off and have a real fun chat together. The next day do you wait for them to get back in touch or do you reach out to them again?
See, me i'm very very nervous about reaching out and usually wait for them. My first thoughts tend to be; "i'm bugging them, I shouldn't, they'll think oh no him again, oh he wants to DO that AGAIN." But if they reach out it takes the edge off because it makes me feel THEY WANT to spend time with me, they sought me out after all.
So this makes no sense, if I enjoy someone's company and enjoy doing things with them I should just do it, right? And yes i'm aware people spend time with other people and have work, commitements etc. I'm not self centered.
The reason I bring this all up is because it's crippled me a while and I can tell it's definetly been why i've lost some friends or just grown distant from them. I just want to overcome this and feel confident to reach out every time without fear or anxiety trying to stop me.
And opinions on naughty friends? Do you have friends who you're just naughty with and nothing else? Do you try and get to know them more outside of that or do other things?
Thank you for your time and reading this and any input is appreciated ^^
See, me i'm very very nervous about reaching out and usually wait for them. My first thoughts tend to be; "i'm bugging them, I shouldn't, they'll think oh no him again, oh he wants to DO that AGAIN." But if they reach out it takes the edge off because it makes me feel THEY WANT to spend time with me, they sought me out after all.
So this makes no sense, if I enjoy someone's company and enjoy doing things with them I should just do it, right? And yes i'm aware people spend time with other people and have work, commitements etc. I'm not self centered.
The reason I bring this all up is because it's crippled me a while and I can tell it's definetly been why i've lost some friends or just grown distant from them. I just want to overcome this and feel confident to reach out every time without fear or anxiety trying to stop me.
And opinions on naughty friends? Do you have friends who you're just naughty with and nothing else? Do you try and get to know them more outside of that or do other things?
Thank you for your time and reading this and any input is appreciated ^^
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