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Terms, and their uses
4 years ago
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Last night was emotionally charged for me, and for that, I'm sorry. I wish to clear the air about what actually happened in regards to this matter, and with the other party involved, should they want to, as well.
1) There was no 'At Length' discussion of any kind. During a commission communication, I said my character was Hermaphroditic, that is to have both the male, and female genitals. I was told "Please do not use the word hermaphrodite when working with me, thank you. If you want your character to have a penis and breasts, that's fine." I then inquired as to what term to use, and was referred to the term 'intersex'. That was the end of it. Three, fairly short notes regarding the matter.
2) I will admit, YES I made a mistake when I uploaded the picture and used a tag they did not want me to. HOWEVER I would like to also point out that all my other work in regards to the character in question always refers to them as Hermaphrodite. So take a second to reflect that I may not think twice about using the tag. If you had gotten back in contact with me, and asked me to remove the tag. I would have, I have after the scorched earth happened in fact, just to show, I can be respectful towards the people who have spurned me for a mistake.
3) I do not view the terms Cuntboy, Femboy, Hermaphrodite, or Futanari as slurs. I view them as descriptions of body types or gender/sex. I grew up with Hermaphrodite (and later Futanari as it's the Japanese word for Hermaphrodite) as the gender of snails, worms, and other creatures that had both sets of reproductive organs at the same time. I can understand how Femboy and Cuntboy or their alternative spellings could be seen or used as derogatory terms, but I will never use them in that fashion. If you notice one phrase missing, it's because any iteration of it is in fact a slur, and there is very little that can be done about that.
It's a shame that people can't just communicate any more, and have to resort to scorched earth the second something wrong happens. It's not the first time a simple mistake, that could have been fixed with a 'hey, please don't do that again', happened to me. We're all humans, much to a lot of our disappointment I'm sure, we're going to make mistakes. It's why we should be more understanding, and correct the incident instead of well Scorching the Earth. When everyone destroys what's behind them while walking away, sooner or later, they'll be nothing left for those who come in after.
And before anyone says 'you're just making excuses'. No, excuses would be 'I didn't know' or other weak arguments along those lines, as well as a refusal to take fault with their own actions. I wholly accept that I made a mistake, and am trying to both rectify as well as explain my point of view. I have taken steps to show that my intentions were not malicious, just dumb. If you find fault with how I handled anything, please discuss with me, down below, your own views with constructive conversation, as I have here.
1) There was no 'At Length' discussion of any kind. During a commission communication, I said my character was Hermaphroditic, that is to have both the male, and female genitals. I was told "Please do not use the word hermaphrodite when working with me, thank you. If you want your character to have a penis and breasts, that's fine." I then inquired as to what term to use, and was referred to the term 'intersex'. That was the end of it. Three, fairly short notes regarding the matter.
2) I will admit, YES I made a mistake when I uploaded the picture and used a tag they did not want me to. HOWEVER I would like to also point out that all my other work in regards to the character in question always refers to them as Hermaphrodite. So take a second to reflect that I may not think twice about using the tag. If you had gotten back in contact with me, and asked me to remove the tag. I would have, I have after the scorched earth happened in fact, just to show, I can be respectful towards the people who have spurned me for a mistake.
3) I do not view the terms Cuntboy, Femboy, Hermaphrodite, or Futanari as slurs. I view them as descriptions of body types or gender/sex. I grew up with Hermaphrodite (and later Futanari as it's the Japanese word for Hermaphrodite) as the gender of snails, worms, and other creatures that had both sets of reproductive organs at the same time. I can understand how Femboy and Cuntboy or their alternative spellings could be seen or used as derogatory terms, but I will never use them in that fashion. If you notice one phrase missing, it's because any iteration of it is in fact a slur, and there is very little that can be done about that.
It's a shame that people can't just communicate any more, and have to resort to scorched earth the second something wrong happens. It's not the first time a simple mistake, that could have been fixed with a 'hey, please don't do that again', happened to me. We're all humans, much to a lot of our disappointment I'm sure, we're going to make mistakes. It's why we should be more understanding, and correct the incident instead of well Scorching the Earth. When everyone destroys what's behind them while walking away, sooner or later, they'll be nothing left for those who come in after.
And before anyone says 'you're just making excuses'. No, excuses would be 'I didn't know' or other weak arguments along those lines, as well as a refusal to take fault with their own actions. I wholly accept that I made a mistake, and am trying to both rectify as well as explain my point of view. I have taken steps to show that my intentions were not malicious, just dumb. If you find fault with how I handled anything, please discuss with me, down below, your own views with constructive conversation, as I have here.
People have become SO woke these days that they openly push others out who are allies but dont see things to thier exact point of view. The fact that its even spread to porn of all safe havens makes our future look kinda bleak...