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Thoughts Out Loud or "How I Struggled with Emotional Burn...
3 years ago
Not too long ago my friend and I got into a dialogue about emotional burnout. Since, as some of you may know, I am a "larva psychologist" here (fifth year, wow, I have to write a research paper and defend my diploma, and then exams) then let me "wisecrack".
I'm only going to talk about what comes up most often. I'm not saying that 100% of everyone is like this - no, everyone is different and a certain percentage of people can have it completely different.
So there you go. Burnout is most often based on anger, and from the psychosomatic point of view (I reject this approach, but it is worth mentioning) burnout affects mostly those who had bad relationships with their parents in childhood.
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Personally, I am a supporter of practical psychology, so I have my own methods for combating burnout:
1. Try to weigh all the "pros" and "cons"
For example: I had to be in an unpleasant collective for some time. People there were always pouring dirt on different people, descending to personal insults and wishing death. I was in that collective not of my own free will, but at the request of a close person.
But I thought about it and decided for myself that there were quite a lot of factors "against": starting with banal aggression that "infects" me while I was on the team, and ending with the lack of strength to continue working.
There was too much negativity in this team, now and then constantly discussing and grinding someone's bones. So I had to stop talking to people with whom, though we were once friends, but they brought a lot of negativity in my life.
2. Try to set boundaries between work and home
I have to try not to bring all of my work-related problems home with me.
2.1 You have to separate the imposed goals/values from your own
You know, pay attention to what is necessary for you and not something imposed from outside.
2.2 You have to set boundaries between what is possible to do and what is impossible to do
Do not set yourself unattainable goals, but do it step by step, gradually approaching your goal.
3. Try to take more care of yourself
As often as possible to remind yourself of who you really are, to remind yourself of the good.
I had the experience that at some points in his head and dug and thoughts like: "You're a loser, you do not get anything, you do not need you, you are not interesting.
What helped me, however, was that I created an image of someone who was telling me this. It's called visualization.
And every time such sad thoughts occurred in my head again, I remembered the best things that I have and had, as if to prove to this very person that he is wrong. So, by clinging to the pleasant (and good) little things in life, I was able to suppress those images, those negative thoughts.
You should try to spend time in that place, in that community, which brings you kindness and warmth - to do what brings you pleasure.
And I'll also point out the main thing: you have to learn to deal with stress. Everyone does it differently, everyone deals with stress in their own way, but there's a certain common set of methods that can help.
I don't know if anyone is interested in these kinds of speeches of mine, I could go on and on. Maybe the methods I have described here will not only help me, but someone else.
Thank you very much to those who have finished reading. And forgive me for the ton of text - my brain is melting because of the temperature (I've managed to get sick somewhere, the second day of high fever), I wanted to write something and tell you. What is called "being stuffy" with people who can not (or are just too lazy) to absorb new information.
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