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My sister just died
4 years ago
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My older sister is dead.
Her brain tumor finally killed her, nearly seven months after they discovered her tumor and when I posted a journal about it. She was able to see her two children before she died, and I think that played a big roll in her lasting this long. She was put in hospice in late February, and one week after her eldest daughter visited her, her health declined.
It happens, as I believe she was subconsciously holding on until she was able to see her daughters together again and once she did, she allowed it to take her. Though she didn't make it till the Easter holiday as we had hoped, so her other daughter could have had one final holiday with her. In her last days, she couldn't do much, as the tumor removed her ability to swallow solid foods and she had to be fed in a tube for two days, and then yesterday she couldn't move or walk and she was bed ridden. Then last night she had the seizures, and that was the beginning of the end for her, another victim of cancer.
My dad at least was able to stay by her side, but the way she was before she died, conscious but unconscious at the same time, sounds like a terrible thing. To know and be able to see everyone around you, hear them, knowing you are about to die, unable to move. That torment gets to me. I can't stand the thought that she had to endure that torment in her last hours.
And now, she is no more.
Her brain tumor finally killed her, nearly seven months after they discovered her tumor and when I posted a journal about it. She was able to see her two children before she died, and I think that played a big roll in her lasting this long. She was put in hospice in late February, and one week after her eldest daughter visited her, her health declined.
It happens, as I believe she was subconsciously holding on until she was able to see her daughters together again and once she did, she allowed it to take her. Though she didn't make it till the Easter holiday as we had hoped, so her other daughter could have had one final holiday with her. In her last days, she couldn't do much, as the tumor removed her ability to swallow solid foods and she had to be fed in a tube for two days, and then yesterday she couldn't move or walk and she was bed ridden. Then last night she had the seizures, and that was the beginning of the end for her, another victim of cancer.
My dad at least was able to stay by her side, but the way she was before she died, conscious but unconscious at the same time, sounds like a terrible thing. To know and be able to see everyone around you, hear them, knowing you are about to die, unable to move. That torment gets to me. I can't stand the thought that she had to endure that torment in her last hours.
And now, she is no more.
im really sorry she passed so early it....hurts
My aunt had the breast cancer, I recall me telling you that a few years ago as it coincided with something on your end, though she lived. My sister, didn't. She had the care accident, and they found the brain cancer then, and it was inoperable. She died with my dad in the room though, he said they were playing some Christian music she loved, and she opened her eyes one last time, stared directly at my dad for a moment or two, then she closed her eyes and died. She came into this world with her mother, and she left with her father.
I know you have experience with this, you know how it can hurt and the surrealness of it all. But nothing could be done, though at least my dad managed to have power of attorney so her POS husband wouldnt take the body and he got custody of the youngest daughter, so that is good. She did a lot of questionable and bad things, mostly due to her POS husband, though I do still feel bad recalling childhood, I mean for this last Christmas she was feeling nostalgic and I made her a USB drive with all the old cartoons we watched together as kids, least the ones I could remember, some of which I had not seen in over 30 years, and its surreal to see them again, not remembering but remembering at the same time. She enjoyed that at least.
I don't have much to remember her, however the Trans documentary I told you about and think I gave you the link to it, that the three of us were interviewed in 05, I have that at least. It's a small snippet, and edited to make her views more negative bias, but at the very least, it is a video clip of her that is there that I have and is out there in a documentary. So at the very least, I could always hear her and see her, back when she was pregnant with her youngest, having a little bit of weight on her bones.
Though you two wouldn't have gotten along (you also know my history with them), it does mean much to hear that from you. Thank you.