Problems I could never imagine
3 years ago
if you are tired of horror or negative news, do not read further
I just want people everywhere to know what is happening to me, because talking about the situation is calming
if you read all my journals, you remember that my sister had a difficult situation in life. the situation has not improved, she is still unemployed and needs money, and something terrible is happening to her life. she don't talk about anything to anyone, just "I have problems, I'm coping with them" (she isnt)
in the last month she came to me. because she was in strange states, it ended with the fact that she slept 95% of the time for days, in the remaining 5 she made a mess in my apartment and ate my food while I tried to save on it. I was angry because hey, I'm helping you, and in response she behaved like a vegetable, did nothing around the house, was not grateful and could shout obscenities at me or our mother
When she left, I thought her misfortunes had gone with her. I helped her for a long time, but this help was never "sufficient" or she did not have the help as she should have
At four in the morning today she called me and asked for money to come to me. she arrived, and I was still thinking, "damn, I just bought food today," I was sorry that I was going out of the budget again to feed a bottomless person who would not respond with gratitude
this turned out to be the least of the problems. towards evening a man came. he rang the doorbell at the elevator, but did not answer about who he was. He tried to call my neighbors and told them that he came to my apartment. they didn't open for him. my sister immediately realized who it was: one of her friends seemed to be.... a maniac?.. that night, before she came to me, she was visiting him. he put something in her drink, and almost directly said that he was going to kill her. she left him and came to me. he has already visited us, knows where we live, and came here too
he stole the keys to our house from her. the key for the apartment does not work. the key for the elevator door works. He knows that I will go out with the dog for a walk
It's been a long time since I've been so scared
it was my first encounter with the police, I wrote a statement. They will be admitted tomorrow morning, and I will have to go to the department. my mother will come for me tonight and take me to the dacha
I'm scared that I can't leave the house. he can wait in the stairwell. he knows what I look like. he said that he already has experience in murders
my sister is behaving amazingly. she refused to cooperate with the cops, did not write a statement, but constantly said "what needs to be done to get the statement accepted this second" (hinting that the police are only pretending to be interested in helping, and the statement may lie for days while the danger is still high). she kept saying what they should do, what I should do, and that it was all just a circus that wouldn't help
the police are gone
she called a maniac, flirtatiously asking "oh bunny, did you want to kill me mmm?". I pointed to the dictaphone so that she put the phone on speakerphone so that we could record the evidence. she put the call on hold, and screamed at me with obscenities so loudly, as if it was my only fault at first. I didn't forgive her for this, I was so enraged by her negligent behavior that she called me a fool for calling the police, although before that she screamed at me for not knowing what to do either, and I can do whatever I want. she said, "my life consists of this horror, I'm still alive, so I know what to do." She always said "I know what to do," even though her actions never helped her.
we shouted at each other for a minute, very stressful for me. she blamed me for not wanting to deal with her problems. she didn't feel guilty that her problems were hanging over me like a mortal danger. a maniac is outside my door, and I have to put on an unemployed drug addict who is embroiled in problems that are destroying her life. I couldn't stand it, I told her to solve her problems outside my house. she went to cry.
either she or my dog pressed the microphone with her nose, and the maniac could hear part of our conversation.
she also said that he "got into her phone"
I was planning to watch a movie this evening, not this actually
she is completely inadequate, and considers herself a heroine because she "knows how to deal with it." she doesn't care that she brought trouble on me (and everyone who lives in my house, for that matter). it seems that my little fear of death is absolutely insignificant, because she is afraid of death more often.
it's just fantastic. the way you can't talk to her, or come to a decision, or figure out what's going on, or figure out what she's going to do. it acts inconsistently: then she helps me make a statement, then he tells the cops that they are useless. she says, "I'll try to bring him into a dialogue so that he will directly say about the death threat, and we have proof," and immediately goes to bed, and then complains that she didn't have time to do this before the cops arrived. I pointed it out to her and she said "my brain is the size of China" in her own right. but she still remains the one who "knows what to do"
Tonight I'm going to the country with my mom. I'm not staying in the apartment. until this situation is resolved. I'm afraid he might stab her with a knife when she tries to enter. I hope that doesn't happen.
I do not know what will happen next. I do not know if the police will be able to do anything, because the direct victim, that is, my sister, did not write a statement about the threat or about the poisoning attempt. can they find him and arrest him for trying to enter and with indirect verbal messages about a death threat? I would like to believe it, but it's hard to believe.
here are the things
I feel calmer when people know about it
commissions are delayed. however, order commissions
update: I'm not going to the country, I'm staying in the apartment with my mom, sister and two dogs. the sister is still inadequate, wants to catch a maniac herself
I just want people everywhere to know what is happening to me, because talking about the situation is calming
if you read all my journals, you remember that my sister had a difficult situation in life. the situation has not improved, she is still unemployed and needs money, and something terrible is happening to her life. she don't talk about anything to anyone, just "I have problems, I'm coping with them" (she isnt)
in the last month she came to me. because she was in strange states, it ended with the fact that she slept 95% of the time for days, in the remaining 5 she made a mess in my apartment and ate my food while I tried to save on it. I was angry because hey, I'm helping you, and in response she behaved like a vegetable, did nothing around the house, was not grateful and could shout obscenities at me or our mother
When she left, I thought her misfortunes had gone with her. I helped her for a long time, but this help was never "sufficient" or she did not have the help as she should have
At four in the morning today she called me and asked for money to come to me. she arrived, and I was still thinking, "damn, I just bought food today," I was sorry that I was going out of the budget again to feed a bottomless person who would not respond with gratitude
this turned out to be the least of the problems. towards evening a man came. he rang the doorbell at the elevator, but did not answer about who he was. He tried to call my neighbors and told them that he came to my apartment. they didn't open for him. my sister immediately realized who it was: one of her friends seemed to be.... a maniac?.. that night, before she came to me, she was visiting him. he put something in her drink, and almost directly said that he was going to kill her. she left him and came to me. he has already visited us, knows where we live, and came here too
he stole the keys to our house from her. the key for the apartment does not work. the key for the elevator door works. He knows that I will go out with the dog for a walk
It's been a long time since I've been so scared
it was my first encounter with the police, I wrote a statement. They will be admitted tomorrow morning, and I will have to go to the department. my mother will come for me tonight and take me to the dacha
I'm scared that I can't leave the house. he can wait in the stairwell. he knows what I look like. he said that he already has experience in murders
my sister is behaving amazingly. she refused to cooperate with the cops, did not write a statement, but constantly said "what needs to be done to get the statement accepted this second" (hinting that the police are only pretending to be interested in helping, and the statement may lie for days while the danger is still high). she kept saying what they should do, what I should do, and that it was all just a circus that wouldn't help
the police are gone
she called a maniac, flirtatiously asking "oh bunny, did you want to kill me mmm?". I pointed to the dictaphone so that she put the phone on speakerphone so that we could record the evidence. she put the call on hold, and screamed at me with obscenities so loudly, as if it was my only fault at first. I didn't forgive her for this, I was so enraged by her negligent behavior that she called me a fool for calling the police, although before that she screamed at me for not knowing what to do either, and I can do whatever I want. she said, "my life consists of this horror, I'm still alive, so I know what to do." She always said "I know what to do," even though her actions never helped her.
we shouted at each other for a minute, very stressful for me. she blamed me for not wanting to deal with her problems. she didn't feel guilty that her problems were hanging over me like a mortal danger. a maniac is outside my door, and I have to put on an unemployed drug addict who is embroiled in problems that are destroying her life. I couldn't stand it, I told her to solve her problems outside my house. she went to cry.
either she or my dog pressed the microphone with her nose, and the maniac could hear part of our conversation.
she also said that he "got into her phone"
I was planning to watch a movie this evening, not this actually
she is completely inadequate, and considers herself a heroine because she "knows how to deal with it." she doesn't care that she brought trouble on me (and everyone who lives in my house, for that matter). it seems that my little fear of death is absolutely insignificant, because she is afraid of death more often.
it's just fantastic. the way you can't talk to her, or come to a decision, or figure out what's going on, or figure out what she's going to do. it acts inconsistently: then she helps me make a statement, then he tells the cops that they are useless. she says, "I'll try to bring him into a dialogue so that he will directly say about the death threat, and we have proof," and immediately goes to bed, and then complains that she didn't have time to do this before the cops arrived. I pointed it out to her and she said "my brain is the size of China" in her own right. but she still remains the one who "knows what to do"
Tonight I'm going to the country with my mom. I'm not staying in the apartment. until this situation is resolved. I'm afraid he might stab her with a knife when she tries to enter. I hope that doesn't happen.
I do not know what will happen next. I do not know if the police will be able to do anything, because the direct victim, that is, my sister, did not write a statement about the threat or about the poisoning attempt. can they find him and arrest him for trying to enter and with indirect verbal messages about a death threat? I would like to believe it, but it's hard to believe.
here are the things
I feel calmer when people know about it
commissions are delayed. however, order commissions
update: I'm not going to the country, I'm staying in the apartment with my mom, sister and two dogs. the sister is still inadequate, wants to catch a maniac herself
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thanks for participating, huh. I feel calmer
You need to protect yourself and your mom. Stop enabling and helping your sister. I'd cut off all ties as hard as that is, let her fend for herself and do for herself. It's on her. You tried, she does not care for her own well being or yours. But I know not everyone thinks this way... But it's how I was raised if someone brings you danger, I've seen family members shun and abandon family members of this exact thing.
I'm wishing you the best, hope no harm comes to you.
I will not stop her from running away to catch a maniac, but I will finish my business with the police as I see fit.
/I'm from russia/
If you would be able to go to the countryside some time soon, that could be a mentally healthy reset for you.
Однако есть еще один фактор - действительно может так получится, что она убьет его сама. А потом вас подставит, как соучастников, или полиция сама это сделает
Поэтому лучше хоть что-то предпринять, как мне кажется
Мне разве что приходит в голову сохранять все переписки, вроде же через кейт мобайл можно? И записывать диалог с сестрой через скрытый микрофон
Знаю что не очень успокаивающие слова, но я правда надеюсь что с тобой и мамой все будет хорошо, а вот за судьбу сестры и ее хахаля не волнуюсь, и вам не советую