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I'm tired of racist family
3 years ago
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I am tired of having to go about my day, only for my mom to keep shouting the n-word whenever she is annoyed at black people, and claiming they'd burn down cleveland if one of them was killed, but saying no one would protest white people being killed.
Its an entirely different context where someone is killed by the police or group actively saying its because of their race, than just some random killing or accident, and they never want to hear what I have to say.
Like do you know how stressful it is having to grow up with parents saying "if you go into a black neighborhood, they are just going to kill you, but they are allowed to walk around in ours"? or when my mom always sees someone of a race she does not like and says "oh god, they are so ugly, you'd not go with that, would you?" and then tries to backtrack and say "oh no, there are pretty black people, its just rare."
I don't want to wake up one day and find that my parents are part of a hate group or something. I try so hard to counter everything, but there is only so much I can do.
Its better than it used to be when my mom did not even want my sister dating asian people. and they have not thrown me out for being queer, but progress is so slow.
its even worse because my mom is tri-racial probaly and talks like this.
I am not trying to make the right-wingers here upset, but I get uncomfortable with having to live in trump country and the thought people are rolling their eyes if I say I am worried about what could happen if anything about me gets revealed.
Its an entirely different context where someone is killed by the police or group actively saying its because of their race, than just some random killing or accident, and they never want to hear what I have to say.
Like do you know how stressful it is having to grow up with parents saying "if you go into a black neighborhood, they are just going to kill you, but they are allowed to walk around in ours"? or when my mom always sees someone of a race she does not like and says "oh god, they are so ugly, you'd not go with that, would you?" and then tries to backtrack and say "oh no, there are pretty black people, its just rare."
I don't want to wake up one day and find that my parents are part of a hate group or something. I try so hard to counter everything, but there is only so much I can do.
Its better than it used to be when my mom did not even want my sister dating asian people. and they have not thrown me out for being queer, but progress is so slow.
its even worse because my mom is tri-racial probaly and talks like this.
I am not trying to make the right-wingers here upset, but I get uncomfortable with having to live in trump country and the thought people are rolling their eyes if I say I am worried about what could happen if anything about me gets revealed.
Just...do what you can to de-stress and be yourself. Please be safe, and don't let them control how you see the world.
*hugs* I am okay. and am sorry for letting this out here.
*Hugs you back*
Expressing yourself through writing is a way to de-stress buddy ^^
*Hugs* Hope you'll be alright and you can figure out someway to not be in that kind of stuff anymore.
thank you. it is nice to see you also :3
I bit my tongue for decades, telling myself this was only a phase and he would one day grow out of it. He's going to turn 40 this November, and he still does it.
But now I only find out once a year that he still hasn't grown out of it, because, six years ago for unrelated reasons, he announced that he was cutting me out of his life forever, and, unlike so many other trolls who do such things, he actually did.
Damn near did a cartwheel when I found out he was serious.
My advice with your mother and her behavior is to think of it as nothing more than a trial, and this particular period in your life as nothing more than a checkpoint. Sooner or later, either she will be forced to wake up and change her ways, or you will (one way or another) achieve independence and not have to put up with her anymore.
Mind you, I am absolutely not suggesting to just keep it to yourself and deal with it. Only that, no matter how stuck you feel with this shit, to remember that you are absolutely not.
it s nice to hear from you also :3
And one day, one way or another, you'll be talking about all of this crap in the past tense too.
I hope you can get out of there soon~ Escape from the crazies~
About Racism its human nature, some people can see that all we just people who want live they lifes but as i see most bummers are Racist because they grow up in it our goal is dont let other wave of ricism happen again whats curently going with Russia. EU want ban visas for us. Someone see it as revage on what going on in Ukraine someone happy about mostly bummer and someones dreams will be dead, and by that act Putin get stronger.
Anyway Zavv just do what you want but still becarful i wont say all africans bad i know couple of them they pretty nice people here in Russia. But some of them are bad and your mom just want protect you.