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Daily Dose of Dergon#005: Communication Channels
3 years ago
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Hello friends.
As I prepare to continue my education, and will thus be harder to reach than usual, I think it's high time I address a subject that's been on my mind lately.
Namely, that of communication with me on Discord.
Now. I will preface this by saying it's not directed at anyone in particular. This has been something that's been going on for a while now and I really owe it to myself.
But I am just one person.
I am active in maybe two or three Discord servers, because I find group settings easier to be social in than DMs. Because I cannot juggle all the DMs I get. I do try and be friendly and personable to people, friends and acquaintances alike, but lately I've had to set myself to DND to process some things going on in my personal life, and even then I'm getting messages. And more than that, I'm getting frustrated messages from some people who seem upset I am not talking to them very much.
I am sorry for that, but I realistically cannot keep up with everyone. I am sorry but that's the reality of the situation. Now I'm not saying don't message me anymore. And I am not saying I'll just ignore people either. I just... need some patience. I try my best to offer the same to my friends.
To make things more concise, I will respond to people when I am able to handle one on one conversation. That is it.
If it helps, here's a handy key to my Discord statuses.
Invisible: I am likely around and will respond when I'm able
Green: I am currently around for the forseeable future and looking to chat with folks
Red: I am overwhelmed and will handle DMs at my own pace, which yes, may sometimes include ignoring some.
That is all. Thank you for reading.
As I prepare to continue my education, and will thus be harder to reach than usual, I think it's high time I address a subject that's been on my mind lately.
Namely, that of communication with me on Discord.
Now. I will preface this by saying it's not directed at anyone in particular. This has been something that's been going on for a while now and I really owe it to myself.
But I am just one person.
I am active in maybe two or three Discord servers, because I find group settings easier to be social in than DMs. Because I cannot juggle all the DMs I get. I do try and be friendly and personable to people, friends and acquaintances alike, but lately I've had to set myself to DND to process some things going on in my personal life, and even then I'm getting messages. And more than that, I'm getting frustrated messages from some people who seem upset I am not talking to them very much.
I am sorry for that, but I realistically cannot keep up with everyone. I am sorry but that's the reality of the situation. Now I'm not saying don't message me anymore. And I am not saying I'll just ignore people either. I just... need some patience. I try my best to offer the same to my friends.
To make things more concise, I will respond to people when I am able to handle one on one conversation. That is it.
If it helps, here's a handy key to my Discord statuses.
Invisible: I am likely around and will respond when I'm able
Green: I am currently around for the forseeable future and looking to chat with folks
Red: I am overwhelmed and will handle DMs at my own pace, which yes, may sometimes include ignoring some.
That is all. Thank you for reading.
You keep up with people how you can, and that should be enough. If someone doesn't get a response from you and gets rather uppity about it, then, at least to me, it feels like a relationship they are hanging on to much. People have to respect and understand boundries, and work to understand what 'level' of a relationship is actually present between two individuals. Online can make that difficult, but in general, it's important for people to keep the close ones close, and work with the rest as time allows. If everyone could have multiple copies to meet with everyone else, that would be great, but they don't. And people gotta pursue their own goals in life too, and not just sit on their respective devices all day responding to messages.
All this to say, take the time you need there Louna ^^ and get done what you have to, no reason to exasperate yourself when other things in your life will be doing that quite handily themselves.
Perhaps type down a generic response somewhere you can copy and paste into those chats with people who are complaining about you not talking back. Add a link to this journal maybe.
I remember back in the day MSN messenger had a auto respond feature where you could set a message that sends once someone sends you a message. Ahhh good times....what was i talking about?