Some friend. That's what I'd call the wrong way to address somebody that should matter to them.

Here's the kicker: he's actually a decent friend and he was actually trying to help me out of a situation. He wasn't being mean, just honest. I really do have no confidence whatsoever... That time I was suffering from an unfulfilling relationship with my then-girlfriend and I didn't have the guts to talk to her about it because I was too afraid of her breaking up with me, even though it was a relationship that I was no longer happy being in... Eventually she ended up breaking up with me anyway.

My lack of confidence is also what led me to the unpleasant situation I'm in right now and it's also why I'm stuck in it... I'm engaged to a girl my parents hooked me up with because I have no confidence to find women on my own...

Now I realize that it's just not working out: she's manipulative and a gold-digger who probably just wants my money and US citizenship...even if she does love me, she's not supportive or caring at all so even if her feelings are real, it's still not real love but rather puppy love.

This has already happened to me once before with another girl from overseas from my native country...and breaking out of that engagement was even more traumatic than I already feared it would be and it took years out of my life...

As much as I don't want to be in this engagement anymore, I just don't have the guts to go through that experience all over again...

I'll be honest; I'm definitely not the best person to talk to about relationship advice, or confidence really. You've got a lot more going on than I do, or probably ever had. Granted measuring that is tough.

I can always listen and be supportive, and I hope others than can give you the real assistance you need will listen in too.

Why don't people say positive things prefaced by, "I'm just being honest?"

Hey man I'm sorry to hear. Honestly you're a good guy. You're a hard worker, you go above and beyond to make your family happy. If your fiancée is gonna be trouble then it's best to pull the ripcord now and get out of it before it gets worst. Being in a relationship isn't a magical "fix me" button. If you have low confidence and you're not happy with who you are or where you're at then you gotta step back and figure yourself out. "A man who is friends with himself will never be alone"- ancient proverb. You got this!

I'm sorry to hear you are going thought thast.\I know that feeling, sometimes we have to choose between an unhealthy relationship and not having anyone.
There is no clear answer. It's easy for someone who isn't in your shoes to blame you for being indecisive, but these are not the kind of situations that can not be fixed by manning up and taking a quick action.