Living alone definitely has benefits, but also downsides (much like with relationships). There is the feeling of freedom and peace in knowing you are in control. There's the calmness that can't be disturbed from a roommate who makes bad/dumb/obnoxious decisions.
However, it also can be very lonely and silent. It becomes more difficult to really get that feeling of interactivity. It definitely sucks on the affection part (if you are like me and actually want it). It also means you are fully responsible for everything, from bills to home care (dishes, sweeping, etc).

Overall it isn't the worst kind of situation to be in, esp if it means not dealing with issues like a gas leak .w. And the best way to counteract loneliness is with a pet (I personally still working on getting a cat myself).

Therapy can be really helpful and can be a nice outlet for frustrations or issues you feel you can't deal with on your own.

I'm sorry to hear you're going through some rough times, but I wish you the best of luck and hope things turn up well for you.

Thank you!
I was doing most that stuff anyway in the relationship. He was going through some stuff and it just seemed to never end until I brought up things I wanted changed. He decided he could not be the partner i needed or deserved right now so instead of trying to work on it together, like i wanted, he decided to work on it solo.

I'm sorry to hear that. While I can't say I fully discredit him (as I myself have struggled with a lot self-esteem issues esp with relationships), if he was quick to dismiss the relationship upon the first mention of what you wanted to see change, it seems more like the excuse to break up than a legitimate low self-esteem kind of thing. Either way I wish you the best in your future endeavors. It's always rough to be lonely, but sometimes a break from others can be the perfect thing for your mind and heart.

Most people here know what it's like to be discriminated against / a social outcast / isolated in this fandom... because most of the world still has biased opinions about what it means to draw furry / talk about furry / what it represents to that person... or if it's just a fetish / kink thing.

I'm really sorry to hear things didn't work out, but relieved you are ok and able to move on for the better (gas leaks worry me immensely). Single life is ok if you have routine with the option of mixing things up when you want, and music / art / a pet and some people to talk to (yes, even here on your own journal).

Living alone suggestions: I dunno how some people consider it, but I like to make extra food leftovers (I hate freezing stuff though, I usually forget about it then) and always clean dishes right after cooking (before eating) so I don't have anything "waiting for me" later.

Also, I do buy specials like 3-for-2 or discounted non-perishables, even if it's just me, because then I have cheap supplies for like 3-6 months or longer. That can really help stretch the budget by being "cheaper on average"... but yeah... I don't have enough people living nearby who keep in touch that I could invite for coffee or movies or drinks or whatever... so it's kinda lonely.

BUT when I'm away for work, I get to see new faces and go places, so.. it's not all terrible.. maybe one day I'll find that special woman who really likes me despite the personality flaws I haven't fixed yet - I'm working on improving myself, any way I can - and won't mind that I'm a hobby artist who is part of the furry community.

Ahhh.. sorry, personal "I can relate" shouldn't be sad / depressing.. hah.. music can be good therapy... and also venting / just talking to someone about stuff that bothers you.

Stay safe and I wish you the best of success!

It's ok, I am hopeful (at this point) that, if he improves like he wants, we can try again later because.. I do know I am a good catch, especially at 27 lol. I am not "old" but I am old enough to have my shit together, no kids (and no desire for kids), but don't have an interest in doing the whole "woohoo I am single time to drink, party and fuck everyone!" thing most people do want to do when single.

I do, luckily, have friends to chat with and have to go to anime cons, on average, 1-2 a month so there are social times for sure.

If i was to give any advice for attracting women.. at this point I would see it as a major green flag for any man (i am assuming you are a man, I could totally be wrong though and sorry if I am) to be going to therapy or have gone. It's also good to maximize style and confidence as much as you can cause the right clothes can really make a person stand out :)

Hehe, it's good to know your worth.

Ahh, it might actually also be the clothes... I've never really had good role models for fashion sense, and I have seen how "fancy" some guys can look (I used to think they were trying to imitate actors or people from tv) - I will begin working on that.

I've been for therapy for a few years, and done a lot of personal introspection too - it's a lot to deal with, aside from society conditioning men to think they can't show any weakness.. but it is extremely worthwhile to work on; it has made me calmer, more comfortable with myself, and probably friendlier too. A lot less angry than I used to get over small things and I don't hold grudges at all; much less stress to deal with, and probably better for my health too.

Thanks for the insightful advice about the clothing, I hope it will make a difference.

I don’t know your whole situation, but I could see this being an opportunity for you to get your own situation sorted before trying to work at a relationship again, either with or without him. I imagine it could be hard to see it that way at the moment, but that just seems like the smart way to go for the time being.

Lord knows I didn’t even take my own advice so do what YOU think is best. Either way, I hope things work out for you in the end. <3