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So I shouldn't have to say this, but...
3 years ago
This has been happening more and more... Someone randomly reaching out through some media to me only to tell me their thoughts on why I should not play as a feral dragon. And I have a statement to those individuals:
I don't care. I play an oversized feral dragon because I want to and it makes me happy. Life sucks terribly. That's plain and simple. In the past year, I have been working through the death of my mother, a difficult career, and a one two punch from depression and anxiety. The fact that you think you are so high and mighty that you will come around to try and bring someone down further because you demand to implement your morals on others is detestable and I sincerely hope that you find some other method of bringing yourself happiness instead of relying on trying to bring others down or perhaps, in your opinion, bringing them up by making them conform to your demands.
When it comes to anything, a good situation is one where there is clear consent between two adults who can make their own decisions together about what they can and will enjoy. That's. It. Nothing less than it. My dragon, whether on two legs or four will very clearly do that. If you don't like the fact that he can be on four legs, you can proceed to kindly go somewhere else as two legged beasts are quite the norm around here. Most importantly, you can and are able to do that without letting me know. I don't care whether you do or don't like my character, but do not think that you rank high enough in the hell of life for me to really give a damn about what you think about what I should be doing.
I'm sorry for the very negative viewpoint. But I'm tired, and exhausted, and if this deters even one person, so be it.
I don't care. I play an oversized feral dragon because I want to and it makes me happy. Life sucks terribly. That's plain and simple. In the past year, I have been working through the death of my mother, a difficult career, and a one two punch from depression and anxiety. The fact that you think you are so high and mighty that you will come around to try and bring someone down further because you demand to implement your morals on others is detestable and I sincerely hope that you find some other method of bringing yourself happiness instead of relying on trying to bring others down or perhaps, in your opinion, bringing them up by making them conform to your demands.
When it comes to anything, a good situation is one where there is clear consent between two adults who can make their own decisions together about what they can and will enjoy. That's. It. Nothing less than it. My dragon, whether on two legs or four will very clearly do that. If you don't like the fact that he can be on four legs, you can proceed to kindly go somewhere else as two legged beasts are quite the norm around here. Most importantly, you can and are able to do that without letting me know. I don't care whether you do or don't like my character, but do not think that you rank high enough in the hell of life for me to really give a damn about what you think about what I should be doing.
I'm sorry for the very negative viewpoint. But I'm tired, and exhausted, and if this deters even one person, so be it.
I've dealt something kind similar around a week ago, I won't go into too much detail since it's clear you've dealt with enough nonsense, but basically, it was some guy who watched me, who thinks the universe revolves around him, comes up out of nowhere with this note titled "-watchlist, +criticism", pretty much telling me that he thinks i'm overly dramatic in my journals and that he can't handle the fact there's a real person behind the artwork. Fails to acknowledge that maybe, like for almost everyone else, life is hard here as well, and sometimes we all need to vent instead of holding it in and acting in other ways. Complimented my art skills, but says he can't find much worth faving in my gallery... pretty much thinks i'd notice him unwatching me [I wouldn't have in a billion years], and that I should just keep my thoughts to myself.
Yeh, not gonna do that, I lost my best friend to that because he was afraid to speak his thoughts and emotions, drove him off the deep end. So yeh.. again as I said up there, be what and who you wanna be, forget all these chodes. As you said, if they can't find happiness on their own, and instead feel the need to bring others down to make themselves feel better... well, maybe it is them who has the problem.
Keep on being you, for you are the best you, that you can be, and like you, your dragons are all beautiful, as well~ -w-
And so are your dragons! I always love seeing one of your works! :)
Thank you, I am trying to keep productive though I have slowed the rate down some to allow more breaks~ <3
People often use outrage to involve themselfs for no reason other to be outraged.
....Really, if that's such a big problem that "Someone else is not exactly how they wish they were" that they want to complain and bring someone else down for not being how they want, They need to seek out help, because something is screwed up in their head.
The issue when it comes to drawing lines in the sand when it comes to kinks (especially online kinks) is that a lot of it, and I mean a LOT of it boils down to personal boundaries and what people see as being legitimately bad or not. I include myself in this on places like F-List, where I make it known how I feel about ageplayers and RPing underaged characters. And yet I still have to concede that so long that actual minors are not involved, no matter how much I hate it, there is nothing legally wrong with people doing those sorts of things with those sorts of characters. To begin to assume that this is some sort of gateway to worse things, or assume the worst about these people, too, invites very serious implications about the nature of individuals based on worst case scenarios. The world isn't black or white, and acting as if it is, or that we collectively aren't a set of case studies with unique factors and elements and interests and limits and breaking points and personalities damns all of us to keep running around in the same circles ad infinitum.
It may sound like a bit of a tangent, but absolutely all of that applies to feral. People make the same arguments: if you enjoy characters on four legs, then clearly you're going to be into bestiality, and that makes you morally reprehensible and you must be judged for your actions. Regardless of the severity of those grandstanding thoughts, so long as the people RPing those things out are adults and they're not ACTUALLY doing those things, how can you possibly make such a ludicrous jump in logic or assume such a terrible thing about other people based off something as small as "dragon is on four legs instead of two"? That doesn't even begin to discuss the sentience debate which factors heavily into how people form opinions on the subject...
I guess my tl;dr is that it's unfair for people to assume the literal worst about strangers when they're just that: strangers. To take fringe, extreme cases and apply them to everyone as a default or a norm or an EXPECTATION based off of something as benign as quad vs anthro is such a fucking stupid and dangerous notion when peoples' grips on the very definition of reality seem to slip by the day as people sequester themselves into their own little bubbles of what they think it looks like.
Always do what makes you happy, never let others bring you down. Something I have also have been trying to live by.
I've always seen a sona as an extension of one's self. Never let anyone take that from you. <3
Hope things get better for you, always here if you need to vent, even if I take a bit to respond, I'll always listen <3