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Validation (nsfw)
2 years ago
So I'm gonna go a bit more in depth about the previous journal I wrote, but before I do I'd like to thank those who left feed back weather inside or outside the journal and the fact that it was mostly positive this time actually makes me and my thoughts on the matter valid. Like seriously yall have no idea how mentally frustrating it's been holding in these types of thoughts for all these years and to finally come out and for people to actually acknowledge them in a positive light really makes a person feel valid and not like crap. So I thank yall for that BUT however there are some thing I feel I need to address so yall know where I was coming from and why everything that I said needed to.
First off the reason for the journal outside of self-expression that I made the previous journal was also because of validation. It's normally a taboo subject for a guy to talk about a girls feeling as if he knows her or in this case them, but I'm glad people saw that this time that I genuinely care about equality in the mursuiting community rather than a male dominated society in that spectrum. But also concent and comfortability being the biggest thing that would help in such situations. I remember admitting I've given up on attempting this myself with making content with a women but at one point I actually almost did. but a friend *or lack there of I should say, you choose* convinced me not to and used agism as a crux. Just because someone is 35 doesn't mean their not worthy, I literally just saw something similar a few days ago on twitter where some snot nose 20 year old cut ties with a friend of mine because he's in his 30's and while I don't know if they we're male or female it's still fucked up. Don't use agism to justify not communicating with someone and because of this I honestly felt like shit. Because thanks to this so called friend I actually legitimately felt bad about the situation. Had I not listen to them me and that person may have actually made content together maybe, but we'll never know.
On the flip side consent is also key, this is the most important thing literally ever in world history and it's also why this one person is permanently banned from my room parties. At NYFB this year I hosted a mursuit party and this guy shows up and he's looking for someone to play around with and in the bedroom it's me two girls and a guy and him. Now I understand not getting any attention as much as the next guy but this shit... this shit ridiculous. So in the middle of foreplay I notice one girl at my party servicing another guy that part is fine, but can someone tell me why this other guy is trying to get her attention where she's already playing with someone else. Now you think it stops there, but it gets worse.so so much worse. This same guy to cool him down I try to service him because ya know it's my party and I want everyone relaxed and comfortable because everyone here is trying to get their thang on b4 the new year. he tells me THE HOST to back off because he's not interested.
And I'm like know what ok cool that's fine concent is keys and everything and I value as much so I move to the other side of the room to service one of my other friends. Why did I do that, because not even 5 minutes or so later the same women that was giving him 0 attention because she was busy with another guy caused him to for whatever reason violently bang his head against the wall in I guess rage or jealousy or something I dunno but it bought my party to a stand still full stop. At this point I have every right to kick the guy out because the girl was too busy for him so basically that's a nope lol and "No" should be respected is how I felt at the time but also this psycho just bashed his skull multiple times against my wall. A wall that I might have to pay for if it got damaged which luckily it didn't. but in the end the other attendees just walked him to the living room and tried to make sure he was ok before we continued with what ever murry purry stuff we we're doing b4 whatever that was. So yeah concent, that's important and if someone says no move on to someone else, you don't bash your skull in the wall because now he's banned and I don't wanna see him at any future party I throw like at all.
So why did I tell you these two stories? because agism, sexism and concent play a big role in women wanting to make mursuit content and what you just read is all the wrong ways to get it done. just show respect and maybe luck will come your way yet one day. Ya gotta remember and I shouldn't tell grown ass cis men this but it seems like I have to. The cis women community of the furry fandom are people, not objects treat the like people. cis gay men you can kinda do whatever. It's pretty much accepted that cis gay men are chew toys in the furry fandom so treat them however you want, but women aren't about that life and deserve more tlc than that so that one day if comfortable enough they'll make mursuit content and all in the mursuit side of the fandom will be balanced because as I said in the previous journal the mursuit scene is basically dominated at leas 95% to 5% male and gay content to women content in the mursuiting community and it's time for a change of some sort. Anywho thank yall for reading this journal I hope it sheds light on why these needed to be created and hopefully we can speak on a better topic in the next journal
First off the reason for the journal outside of self-expression that I made the previous journal was also because of validation. It's normally a taboo subject for a guy to talk about a girls feeling as if he knows her or in this case them, but I'm glad people saw that this time that I genuinely care about equality in the mursuiting community rather than a male dominated society in that spectrum. But also concent and comfortability being the biggest thing that would help in such situations. I remember admitting I've given up on attempting this myself with making content with a women but at one point I actually almost did. but a friend *or lack there of I should say, you choose* convinced me not to and used agism as a crux. Just because someone is 35 doesn't mean their not worthy, I literally just saw something similar a few days ago on twitter where some snot nose 20 year old cut ties with a friend of mine because he's in his 30's and while I don't know if they we're male or female it's still fucked up. Don't use agism to justify not communicating with someone and because of this I honestly felt like shit. Because thanks to this so called friend I actually legitimately felt bad about the situation. Had I not listen to them me and that person may have actually made content together maybe, but we'll never know.
On the flip side consent is also key, this is the most important thing literally ever in world history and it's also why this one person is permanently banned from my room parties. At NYFB this year I hosted a mursuit party and this guy shows up and he's looking for someone to play around with and in the bedroom it's me two girls and a guy and him. Now I understand not getting any attention as much as the next guy but this shit... this shit ridiculous. So in the middle of foreplay I notice one girl at my party servicing another guy that part is fine, but can someone tell me why this other guy is trying to get her attention where she's already playing with someone else. Now you think it stops there, but it gets worse.so so much worse. This same guy to cool him down I try to service him because ya know it's my party and I want everyone relaxed and comfortable because everyone here is trying to get their thang on b4 the new year. he tells me THE HOST to back off because he's not interested.
And I'm like know what ok cool that's fine concent is keys and everything and I value as much so I move to the other side of the room to service one of my other friends. Why did I do that, because not even 5 minutes or so later the same women that was giving him 0 attention because she was busy with another guy caused him to for whatever reason violently bang his head against the wall in I guess rage or jealousy or something I dunno but it bought my party to a stand still full stop. At this point I have every right to kick the guy out because the girl was too busy for him so basically that's a nope lol and "No" should be respected is how I felt at the time but also this psycho just bashed his skull multiple times against my wall. A wall that I might have to pay for if it got damaged which luckily it didn't. but in the end the other attendees just walked him to the living room and tried to make sure he was ok before we continued with what ever murry purry stuff we we're doing b4 whatever that was. So yeah concent, that's important and if someone says no move on to someone else, you don't bash your skull in the wall because now he's banned and I don't wanna see him at any future party I throw like at all.
So why did I tell you these two stories? because agism, sexism and concent play a big role in women wanting to make mursuit content and what you just read is all the wrong ways to get it done. just show respect and maybe luck will come your way yet one day. Ya gotta remember and I shouldn't tell grown ass cis men this but it seems like I have to. The cis women community of the furry fandom are people, not objects treat the like people. cis gay men you can kinda do whatever. It's pretty much accepted that cis gay men are chew toys in the furry fandom so treat them however you want, but women aren't about that life and deserve more tlc than that so that one day if comfortable enough they'll make mursuit content and all in the mursuit side of the fandom will be balanced because as I said in the previous journal the mursuit scene is basically dominated at leas 95% to 5% male and gay content to women content in the mursuiting community and it's time for a change of some sort. Anywho thank yall for reading this journal I hope it sheds light on why these needed to be created and hopefully we can speak on a better topic in the next journal
