I'm sad. And furious.
2 years ago
General
Have you ever left your job/sòavery to do something worthy in your life, just to be accused by everyone to be a ridiculously picky young with no will of working?
Well, on one hand, yes: I am picky. But guess what? Everyone should be picky. This our only life, there's no turning back, no saving point, no restart-button.
You may have done an "evaluation error" and ended up studying 5 years for a job that kills you, but this does not mean that you cannot fix that error and take a new path.
Something that does not make you wish to die during the night just to avoid waking up and go to work again, maybe.
But on the other hand, no: I'm everything but lazy. Since I left engineering I spent all the days of my life trying to build something that was mine.
I learnt new stuff, dealt with bureaouioioacracy, perfected my skills, tried 4 new careers, looked for customers worldwide. I work 24/7 to pursue my passion and follow my moral compass.
Lazyness, I don't know what this word mean.
It makes me furious to be judged badly by those fucking old generations, the ones who literally turned society to an unlivable crap.
I mean, I'm trying everything to improve this world with my skills. First I did it as an engineer, I suggested new ways to make the workflow smooth and products more reliable. I was fired.
Then I wanted to be an artisan. Looked for some workshop, offered my help to learn the job and bring in my up-to-date knowledge in it. None wanted apprentices. "There's no job" they said me with a month-long queue of orders.
Now that I am an artist I'm trying to bring back the old good habit to make everyday objects unique and appealing. Because there are hundreds of products around us that could look good with no additional costs. Books, food boxes, bottle labels, even that small creepy tile pattern on you clothing. I looked for customers, offered them my hands for low prices at first, Nothing. So I offered them my work FOR FREE. Guess what? Most of them didn't even reply to me with a fucking "thanks, we're not interested". The only people who actually pay and appreciate my job, is you and I am so thanksful to all of you for this.
But at this point, I feel like it does not metter how much effort I put into everything I do.
Out of here I always hit closed door, and who shut them is the same generation who keep telling my I'm a lazy and picky shit.
I am not accepting this. Never. You ruined this world, I try to fix it by exiting slavery and showing that a job doesn't have to be a torture. That quality is better then quantity. That living a worthy life is most important than making money.
Though this is making me more and more tired everyday. Though sadness burns my heart from inside.
Well, on one hand, yes: I am picky. But guess what? Everyone should be picky. This our only life, there's no turning back, no saving point, no restart-button.
You may have done an "evaluation error" and ended up studying 5 years for a job that kills you, but this does not mean that you cannot fix that error and take a new path.
Something that does not make you wish to die during the night just to avoid waking up and go to work again, maybe.
But on the other hand, no: I'm everything but lazy. Since I left engineering I spent all the days of my life trying to build something that was mine.
I learnt new stuff, dealt with bureaouioioacracy, perfected my skills, tried 4 new careers, looked for customers worldwide. I work 24/7 to pursue my passion and follow my moral compass.
Lazyness, I don't know what this word mean.
It makes me furious to be judged badly by those fucking old generations, the ones who literally turned society to an unlivable crap.
I mean, I'm trying everything to improve this world with my skills. First I did it as an engineer, I suggested new ways to make the workflow smooth and products more reliable. I was fired.
Then I wanted to be an artisan. Looked for some workshop, offered my help to learn the job and bring in my up-to-date knowledge in it. None wanted apprentices. "There's no job" they said me with a month-long queue of orders.
Now that I am an artist I'm trying to bring back the old good habit to make everyday objects unique and appealing. Because there are hundreds of products around us that could look good with no additional costs. Books, food boxes, bottle labels, even that small creepy tile pattern on you clothing. I looked for customers, offered them my hands for low prices at first, Nothing. So I offered them my work FOR FREE. Guess what? Most of them didn't even reply to me with a fucking "thanks, we're not interested". The only people who actually pay and appreciate my job, is you and I am so thanksful to all of you for this.
But at this point, I feel like it does not metter how much effort I put into everything I do.
Out of here I always hit closed door, and who shut them is the same generation who keep telling my I'm a lazy and picky shit.
I am not accepting this. Never. You ruined this world, I try to fix it by exiting slavery and showing that a job doesn't have to be a torture. That quality is better then quantity. That living a worthy life is most important than making money.
Though this is making me more and more tired everyday. Though sadness burns my heart from inside.
FA+

For what it’s worth, I think people like you are worth way more than all those boomers and Gen X, who are convinced you’re worth nothing if you don’t produce valuable goods for the Great Capital. We need more art, not more useless shit to buy.
And you’re right to follow the path you like instead of the path others want you to follow because of some societal "norm". We only have one life. Let’s not waste it for someone else’s profits.
Now, THIS is is what I call moral decadence. I'm sure there are many people like you out there who does not share this thoughts. Still, majority does, and they sit on on the boss chair. It's kind of a shit to be considered as a crap from them just because you do the hard job :/ To not mention that, being a crap, means that you deserve a crap salary, and a crap treatment.
Most underestimated, underpaid and despised job? People who clean offices (and offices’ TOILETS). In some places people don’t even say hello to them, or they’re not allowed to take a coffee break with the company’s employees. Even if they’re vital for the well-being of everyone. That makes me mad.
Yeah I know, sometimes is envy, more often is that they suffered for the entire life following society "norm". The idea that, maybe, they could have ended the suffering to enjoy life scare them like hell.
Sharing a problem may not solve it, but it makes it look more solvable (somehow).
But, I think its good to talk about it and to try and connect with people. I guess Im saying it Therapeutic, because nothing hurts more then Feeling You are Alone in a Struggle; being surrounded by people that tell you to suck it up, or just call you lazy.
Many of these people dont think about it, but this is something that leads to Declining Mental Health. Which leads to...y'know. MANY unfortunate things.
Like, I work a Labor job thats...Factually, very, Very, VERY simple and easy....but its execution make things just TERRIBLE all around for everybody. Ive been doing this job for almost 12 years. I can see how we can improve it and have said my grevences with the Customer in how we could make things better....and I just get ignored. "This is the way/This is the process" and its infuriating...especially when the same issues that are complained about, continue to happen.
"You just dont want to do extra work" I mean......YES, but at the same time we shouldn't HAVE to...there is a solution here to make it easier for me, AND the whole-job....but it doesnt want to be heard.
So yeah....The Struggle XD
*facepalm*
Ok, it's true. Complaining doesn't make things more solvable. But shutting up forever will keep things the awful way they are... so let's complain at least XD
i got that going on at my own "work", things are in place to make peoples lives easier, but they don't want to follow them... the good people leave, and the bad ones take over, then when it all burns out they are left wondering who's hall they blame next.
I know how it feels..
Do want you want a feel good at it!
I had toxic job for 5 years and i did quit and it feels good.
At the end, living here is not long so we need to make it fine for us.
After getting omicron and staying home for a month and coming back the next, we had snow. I'm in the boonies and work was downtown. The car was iced in. Day 1, no one had to go. Day 2, car moved, road too slick. They let me stay home. Later said I wouldn't get the pay everyone else did for those days because I didn't come in the second day and you have to attend both the day before and after to get paid. I ended up checking our attendance policies; it wasn't in there. I got paid for the first day because I fought for it and let the other go. But I digress, day 3 was the problem.
The front door was in shadow; I got out and nothing in front of the building was salted, so it was all ice. Put both feet down successfully. Stood, immediately fell. If I hadn't grabbed the sides of the car, I'd've hit my head on it. Pulled nearly every muscle in my body, sprained my ankle and some others, had to go to urgent care... and for this I got written up with a warning that if I missed a single day again, I'd be fired. I have anxiety. That made me positively neurotic. I started developing a problem with vertigo/nausea; my PTO was used on this a lot. I had to take my "as needed" panic medication every day before work. I caught covid again seven months later (courtesy of work). I was let go. I knew it was coming. I was going to quit at the end of that month if not, but the real kicker is how short staffed they were. They couldn't hold on to their employees.
Now I just read everywhere that my generation is lazy and doesn't want to work and I'm over here like... I get jittery doing job searches thanks to y'all. Also... you guys want ten years of experience on an entry level job. Just expect that sometimes, just sometimes (aka normally), you're supposed to train your new hires yourself!
...I ranted. I'm sorry. Jobs just make me mad these days.
No worries, that's the right place for rents.
My favorite for listings, to date, was this one guy who talked about applying for programming jobs and they started asking for 10+ years of experience in a coding language that had only existed for, wouldn't you know it... a few months.
while on the other hand people who could fill it perfectly, are not employed because too young, too old, too this, too that, not enough of something random. this is a society problem, germany goes the same...
Only this year did I FINALLY land a job where I'm reasonably happy at and am now slowly working my way out of poverty.
On a more upbeat note, I do like your art. You've drawn some lovely ladies. ^^
Looking for a good path is the hardest thing I've ever done. It's nice to know that somebody actually finds it at some point.
And thank you ^^
The world is filled with those who will belittle you... admonish you... disagree with you... put you down... and everything else in between. For some it's about control. For some it's about domination of those around them. For some it's about their own past mistakes and regrets. But, for most, it's simply a way to rise above without having to work to do it. To put others down so they can say "I'm better than you."
It IS your life. What you choose to do... who you choose to be... all of this and more is for YOU to decide. But don't fall into the trap of becoming just like those that are telling you you're wrong. I am old, yes. Older than most. But only in my time... not in my mind or heart. I got tole the same things you are hearing today. I STILL get told those things. I care not. It is my life therefore I get to decide how to live it. And I choose to not listen rather than get angry about those around me, telling me how wrong I am to live MY way.
The anger eats at you in ways I cannot describe... but I can say it terribly degrades your quality of life and changes you into something you likely do not wish to be. There are times to be angry... but it always needs to be let go in the end... otherwise anger is all you will know and become... followed by despair and depression because anger, in and of itself, cannot ever be resolved. It can only be sustained. And to do that, takes all of you and all of your effort and time away from you.
Just know it's YOUR life and you SHOULD live it the way that brings you joy and peace. Which means never letting others cause you to lose that through their intimidation and words.
(Hugs). Breathe... and live... your way.
But know all of us "old farts" aren't like this.
My rage come all from the fact that the way of living I've chosen makes it hard to pay the bills, and it doesn't pay the bill not because I'm terrible at it, but because there are very few people out there ready to give a real chance to new entries. Even if you offer them your skills for free.
I feel useless like one of those porcelain ducks sold at the vintage stores. And it's filled of people like me out there feeling even worse.
As for the rage, the moment you get rid of it is the moment someone comes to bother you again XD I've learn to channel fury in good ways, but getting rid of it is still a mirage far on the orizon.
Are you a writer too? Let me know if I can draw some cover art for you. I'd love to support.
dont give up, and dont undervalue yourself!! you deserve to work hard and be paid as well as you work! your art is fantastic and i could see people paying $$$ or more for it, and i hope you can find the audience you deserve for the quality of work you put out.
Anyway, your words makes sense. I'll keep them in mind.
god i sound like a fuckin shill but like its literally the best alternative to straight paypal or kofi ive found so far, that also happens to TAKE paypal and stripe (and cashapp now apparently)
its just a plus for me bc im american :D and vat is confusing and painful and very expensive for clients if its based on the full price of my art. jus makes it super easy tbh thats why i promote em so hard. hopefully if they dont assist or suit you someone else might see the thread and be pleasantly surprised or something, idk XD completely derailed this, so sorry!
now I do a helper's job, sotosay. many people on my tour across the fabrication area greet me, wave at me, laugh with me, talk to me, sometimes offer me a cup of coffee. because most realize I do a hard job for minimum wage. a job almost none of them would even consider.
also I have regular work hours now, overhours and saturdays get paid fully, and I don't have to do what I'm not supposed to.
could be worse.
I can see why young people seem to be wanting not to work. they look at us, they look at their parents struggling, at people caught in jobs they hate, jobs they can't live off, and simply want more. not necessarily payment, but more life. what use is a bad job if you can't live anymore? if it doesn't even pay your handful of bills? all the while Those In Power destroy our future.
I have a drawer filled of stories of bad bosses. At this point I guess being a good boss is not easy, but I can also think to a thousand simple ways to at least "look" good. So far, I'm slightly convinced they are not even trying to.
on one hand I can imagine that no-dealership auto shops have lots of problems, with all the electronic going around and every new car needs a new set of immensely expensive special tools, and more and more people drag out paying the bill. but that doesn't mean you have a right to mob your workers, to treat them like shit; after all they make things possible, and some vehicles are constructed in ways beyond any mortal mind.
maybe I had bad luck with bosses, too. still I will not touch anyone's car except my own ones ever. not for money or anythign else. I am done with this career.
oh goody, germany is so short on skilled personnel? why not starting to treat them like they are skilled, and not expect them to so professional work for underwage so you can buy another ferrari next week?
there was a time, long ago, where the bosses of large steel plants or coal mines built whole small towns for their workers because they had to live somewhere; it's what you did when you cared at least a little bit for your people. the plants and mines are long since closed, but the towns are still there, bustling with life.
It's not that you need to make a difference because just breathing and having a heartbeat makes you useful by default. Your breath feeds the plants, and your energy literally spreads across the universe in every way imaginable. By default, you make a difference.
You seem like a leader, not a follower. Perhaps the problem is, you are not fit to be a follower, you need to lead. That may mean going freelance and taking control of your own needs and desires. It's never going to be easy to get noticed, but once it clicks, it becomes laughably simple.
Yeah I know, I just can't stand bosses XD I'm a freelance artist right now indeed. Still, sometimes I want to work with someone bigger to reach more eyes and things usually go bad. Anyway, thank you for your kind words :)
Many industries have many examples of people whose ideas and contributions were continually rejected, until they decided to branch out on their own or find other like minded individuals - and subsequently went on to find great success. Often times the older people get, the more complacent, stubborn, and unwilling to change they come to be. Some of that is related to degradation in neuroplasticity, and often just overall pride. If you feel you have great potential and a lot to offer, screw their rejection, keep being you, and push onwards. Find people who appreciate your real value, or be the change yourself.
Nearly all of the bullies in my life and people who have looked down on me where old as fuck, and I've been through a long depressive phase of going nowhere and feeling shitty. Last year I pushed myself to move out and explore a new industry. I now work as a field service engineer at Intel, and I like my job. It doesn't make me miserable. It's not really what I want to do with my life but it's a great step for me, and I'm better because of it.
Don't give up!
True. Sometimes I forget that good things are always 100 steps away, and that we get depressed when we (obviously) fail trying to reach them in a single step. I wasn't just simply trained to be patient XD Since when I was a child, it was all a "do this, get that". Now that things are "do this, to get this, to do that, to do another thing that gets you something that MAYBE get you that", I'm al bit lost and confused.
I'm a bit lost and confused too >~< . But you seem like a very resilient person, and you can do eeet. In other news, I'm about done with my new ref sheet and will commission you shortly! Muwhehe.