Nah, that's a load of 💩.

You can only ever be "non-judgemental" if you are a newborn baby.

Otherwise the moment you know anything about anything else you recognize patterns and you start making connections.

You cannot be "non-judgemental" and in fact it is actively bad to be non-judgemental as you would need to be a "gooh gooh gah gah" newborn baby.

What you can do (instead) is:
• recognize what are the judgements you make consciously and subconsciously.
• understand why you are making those judgements.
• identify what are the emotions you experience.
• reflect on the source of those emotions.

But you can only do so on a frame of reference, "nothing" being the absence of anything means you would be unable to make any judgement and you would have to recognize all your judgements as you make them.

Basically you need to understand yourself better rather than some wishy washy thought experiment about "becoming nothing" and thinking that any deviation from "nothingness" is either bad.

You are a grown ass adult. You cannot "become nothing" and you have had no concept of being "nothing" as you were "nothing" decades ago and you have no clear understanding anymore of how that ever felt like.

Rather than trying to understand "how you deviate from nothingness" think about similar stuff but reflecting on why you think the way you think.

It is still an herculean task, but it does not start from a false assumption that "nothingness" can be achieved (or is even desirable).

Once you accept the fact that you are biased (because you are not a baby and learning is quite literally biasing yourself towards certain outcomes for they have become useful in your life) and once you understand why you are biased the way you are (that is: why stuff you now consider "harmful" tendencies have become part of your way of thinking, as they were useful if not desirable at some point in your life) then you can start understanding how to move away from stuff you currently consider bad for yourself.

Remember one thing. You are the way you are because at some point that was beneficial to you. If you want to move way from what you are you need to recognize what you liked about what you are and let go of what makes you into yourself.

The idea that you can be "nothing" stems from this silly notion that free will exists.

The will of a human being is like a particle of water in a riverbed. Said particle of water can be anywhere along the river, and even in the air and in the ground around the river but its time-point-to-time-point presence is defined by its past. And it has a very very huge chance of staying inside the river as that is the highest probability.

You can become as much "nothing" as the chance of a particle of water stopping mid-stream or going upstream to the spring of your life's river.

It can totally happen by chance, but it's just silly to expect it to happen on demand or that it is 100% beneficial.

What you can do is understand the stream of your life.

Understand why your particle of water is where it is. And choose the direction to take knowing the options available.

In theory you can change the stream of your life too.

Streams constantly change in nature (unless handled by human beings in which case tons of money is spent to ... uh... not make streams do what they normally do and wanted in the landscape as that alters the plans of people and people do not like seeing their plans altered).





Telling yourself you should "become nothing" in order to begin to judge yourself is not just "unnatural", it is harmful because you need a frame of reference to know how you behave the way you do and you must accept that the way you are is due to thing that in the past which in the past you did find beneficial and now you do not find beneficial no more.

There is no "nothingness" that can be achieved. All there is is an understanding of:
• where you are
• where you want to be
• why you are where you are

This lets you know how to be where you want to be.

BUT in order to understand why you are the way you are the way you are... you need to understand that you did so because that was beneficial to you.

And if you want to change you need to let go of something that was or still is beneficial in order to embrace a different paradigm.

And depending on how loaded with paradigms you are (which "just" means "how far into your life you have gone and how much you have learned"), changing direction is difficult or even harmful.

So.

You need to understand that change can only be achieved via "suffering" through the period of change.

How much do you value what you are letting go to achieve your goal?
How much do you value your goal?
How much do you value embracing what you do not like to achieve what you want to achieve?

THAT is how you change yourself.
There is no shortcut.
There is no way to do it without suffering at least a little bit.
And the least you suffer the least change you make to your own life.
Because there is no change that can be had without suffering, if you are not suffering because of the change... you are not changing.
You are just going with the stream of your life and have changed nothing about yourself or the environment in which you live.
You are embracing what is comfortable to you.
You are making choices that are not impacting your life in a meaningful way.

And if what you wish to change about yourself impacts other people too... you bet that those other people are going to lash back.
The same way you liked the stuff thast made you who you are other people like the way they are for they worked a lot to be where they are.
And if you want to change stuff about yourself, and that impacts them, you bet they will fight you to end your fight to change yourself.

It gets worse when you want to change other people because you need to understand that if you want other people to change you have to make them understand why what they are doing is harmful.

And you can bet that they will tell you that what they are doing is not harmful at all, it is 100% beneficial. Because it is. From their perspective.

This is why fighting stuff like climate change or racism or fighting for the acceptance LGBTQ+ rights is super hard.

Because people fought hard to be where they are because you are not thinking about why it was beneficial to them.
Because you are telling them they are wrong and they should change without giving them something they like to get.
Because change can only be fought for and if people do not fight for something they like they will not fight, in fight they will see fighting as something harmful and fight against you.

Or they will fight against a distorted perception of you given by their unclear and distorted understanding of who you are.
Just like you are fighting against them due to an unclear and distorted understanding of who they are.

One thing is true. If you do not try and think of why people might be doing what they are doing out trying to protect or save something they value you will only see monsters and evil people doing evil things for evil.

And that is just silly. Yes everybody does something that they can clearly recognize as evil. That is normal. But that is not the standard.

99% of times "evil stuff" comes from people trying to save something that they consider precious. And if you do not wish to understand why they consider it precious, if you only consider other people "evil" for the sake of bein evil, all you will achieve is fighting people to get what you want.

You canget frustrated at people but as long as you consider them a flattened evil you cannot change how they behave the way they do. And if they do not understand why you behave the way you do... and you do not make them value wwhy you value what you value... they will only ever have a distorted perception of you.

And changing something can only be achieved through understanding why things are the way they are and who benefits from the state of things and how they are affecting the state of things.

And change is easier at the beginning.

If (say) you wish to change how AI is currently working.
Go at the source, not at the source of the stuff that hurts you but at who provides what they give to the people who hurt you.
Ask the people doing research "why are you doing what you are doing?" find ways in which their dreams align to yourself find the points of contact.
Let them know what you value and steer them towards what you like to see rather than telling them to kill their dreams.

You cannot change other people by chastising them. That never worked. That will never work.

TL;DR: reflect mindfully about why you are the way you are think about what to expect to build distress tolerance and plan how to achieve interpersonal effective change, and finally: understand/learn how to regulate your emotions based on what you wish to achieve.