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Life update (cw: medical talk)
2 years ago
It's been a while and I've been quiet for a little while so I should provide y'all with an update. The medical talk stuff isn't about me, at least, so y'all don't have to worry about that, at least.
Unfortunately, it is about my dad. He had a transient ischemic attack ain february, about 6 weeks after getting a hip replacement, and while he recovered from that and the hip surgery very well, some things were happening. He'd been put on new medication, notably a pretty heavy dose of anti-cholesterol meds, and he'd started suffering side effects from that. Lack of appetite, feelinng bloated, and he started to lose weight concurrently, so a number of doctor visits and tests followed.
Unfortunately it turned out it wasn't simply a side effect of the medication. Early on in May he was diagnosed with colon cancer, which had already metastasized to his liver. Not a diagnosis anyone wants to hear because at that point the most you could do is stretch however long you have left. Even more unfortunately, the cancer was aggressive enough, and had already weakened him to an extent that really intensive treatment was no longer an option. Weaker treatment options were still available, but they were also very risky at that point, and as likely to shorten his life as prolong it, with the certainty of heavy side effects. So my father opted to forego treatment and instead focus on palliative care, spending what time he has left with us in relative comfort and dignity.
So yeah, my dad's very sick and not getting better. Thankfully he's been in very little pain until basically today, and we're all very grateful to have this time with him still. Things are deteriorating now, however, so we're getting a visit from the doctor next week to see about starting palliative sedation.
I'll be okay, and my family will also be okay, but, y'know. We're all just. Very sad. He's been a really good, supportive, understanding and kind father for my entire life, and I'm acutely aware of how lucky I am to have him as my dad, and I'm going to fucking miss him, really bad.
We're going to take our time to process this when it's done, and I'll be back. Please don't ever forget to cherish your loved ones, y'all. It's important.
Unfortunately, it is about my dad. He had a transient ischemic attack ain february, about 6 weeks after getting a hip replacement, and while he recovered from that and the hip surgery very well, some things were happening. He'd been put on new medication, notably a pretty heavy dose of anti-cholesterol meds, and he'd started suffering side effects from that. Lack of appetite, feelinng bloated, and he started to lose weight concurrently, so a number of doctor visits and tests followed.
Unfortunately it turned out it wasn't simply a side effect of the medication. Early on in May he was diagnosed with colon cancer, which had already metastasized to his liver. Not a diagnosis anyone wants to hear because at that point the most you could do is stretch however long you have left. Even more unfortunately, the cancer was aggressive enough, and had already weakened him to an extent that really intensive treatment was no longer an option. Weaker treatment options were still available, but they were also very risky at that point, and as likely to shorten his life as prolong it, with the certainty of heavy side effects. So my father opted to forego treatment and instead focus on palliative care, spending what time he has left with us in relative comfort and dignity.
So yeah, my dad's very sick and not getting better. Thankfully he's been in very little pain until basically today, and we're all very grateful to have this time with him still. Things are deteriorating now, however, so we're getting a visit from the doctor next week to see about starting palliative sedation.
I'll be okay, and my family will also be okay, but, y'know. We're all just. Very sad. He's been a really good, supportive, understanding and kind father for my entire life, and I'm acutely aware of how lucky I am to have him as my dad, and I'm going to fucking miss him, really bad.
We're going to take our time to process this when it's done, and I'll be back. Please don't ever forget to cherish your loved ones, y'all. It's important.
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I don't have anything else to add, tbh.
Take as long as you need and cherish your time with your dad.
Thank you for letting us know.
My condolences in advance, and my respect to your father.
We give out lots of love to you all.