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2 years ago
Hi guys, long story short thing aren't well irl right now.
My puppy is dealing with separation anxiety in a level I've never dealt with before and we've gotten a noise complaint. If it keeps happening we'll have to either move which we cannot afford or I'm going to have to let him stay with my parents...which I don't wanna do because it feels like I would have given up on him and it doesn't solve the issue of separation anxiety since he will still be the same with them...
I've tried a lot of things, kennel training him, leaving and coming back several times a day to give him familiarity we will return home, cbd oil, melatonin treats (small ones for his weight size), music, and even dog videos like birds/squirrels...my only thought is to then let him be outside on the patio which is big enough to support him, keep him mildly entertained, and he will be cool at all times because we face away from the sun. We have big box fans and the fence is high enough he cannot jump it or fall out. Other than that I will be trying to maybe cover his kennel with a blanket and turning the lights off so he thinks it's night...all I know is he was barking non stop today as we came home and I'm stressed out and don't wanna lose him.
I'm considering a non-harmful bark collar with vibration, and possibly recording my voice to try something new...I'm running out of ideas and time.
On top of that, I have to pay $218 for his papers on being an official ESA, I'm debating medical leave because of some issues I've gotten irl from work...and I'm constantly being put out of the mood to work here on my things because I've gotten so depressed and stressed out by this it's hard to deal with...
I want to refund the people who are waiting on me, so I wanna sell some designs, but I have no motivation...all of this has given me a lot of anxiety as well as wanting to transfer into another store has just added a lot of weight. I wish I knew what to do...I'm so desperate for help and answers to the issues with Koda that it's overwhelming me every moment of the day...
I'm not sure what to do anymore...I owe people some files and I'm sorry I've been absent.
I can get the files owed to people, but as for the commision work/extras, I'm overwhelmed and I want to focus on my dog situation first because he is so important to me, he is basically my child.
I cannot lose him...I've come so far with him and I love him so much but idk what to do anymore...
My puppy is dealing with separation anxiety in a level I've never dealt with before and we've gotten a noise complaint. If it keeps happening we'll have to either move which we cannot afford or I'm going to have to let him stay with my parents...which I don't wanna do because it feels like I would have given up on him and it doesn't solve the issue of separation anxiety since he will still be the same with them...
I've tried a lot of things, kennel training him, leaving and coming back several times a day to give him familiarity we will return home, cbd oil, melatonin treats (small ones for his weight size), music, and even dog videos like birds/squirrels...my only thought is to then let him be outside on the patio which is big enough to support him, keep him mildly entertained, and he will be cool at all times because we face away from the sun. We have big box fans and the fence is high enough he cannot jump it or fall out. Other than that I will be trying to maybe cover his kennel with a blanket and turning the lights off so he thinks it's night...all I know is he was barking non stop today as we came home and I'm stressed out and don't wanna lose him.
I'm considering a non-harmful bark collar with vibration, and possibly recording my voice to try something new...I'm running out of ideas and time.
On top of that, I have to pay $218 for his papers on being an official ESA, I'm debating medical leave because of some issues I've gotten irl from work...and I'm constantly being put out of the mood to work here on my things because I've gotten so depressed and stressed out by this it's hard to deal with...
I want to refund the people who are waiting on me, so I wanna sell some designs, but I have no motivation...all of this has given me a lot of anxiety as well as wanting to transfer into another store has just added a lot of weight. I wish I knew what to do...I'm so desperate for help and answers to the issues with Koda that it's overwhelming me every moment of the day...
I'm not sure what to do anymore...I owe people some files and I'm sorry I've been absent.
I can get the files owed to people, but as for the commision work/extras, I'm overwhelmed and I want to focus on my dog situation first because he is so important to me, he is basically my child.
I cannot lose him...I've come so far with him and I love him so much but idk what to do anymore...
I'm sorry you're stressed.
so far the vet suggested cbd oil, I might just have to give him a bigger dose but my time to fix this is running out because I’m not sure how many more times can happen until we are kicked out if he doesn’t stop…
Does your pup have anything that smells of you in his kennel? Sometimes it helps, as do anti-anxiety pet jackets which help your pup feel more secure. Explore training options in the mean time to help work on the anxiety of separation as usually its very rarely a one shoe fits all thing.
My dog suffers from the same thing and I've found after a few years that the only thing that helped her was a big teddy bear to self soothe on and a cat companion, though she does bark when people pass in the hall she doesn't scream relentlessly anymore till I arrive home.
If you must rehome him in the future please don't think of it as failing him, nothing about giving your pup the best possible chance is a failure, a pup doesn't belong on the streets and neither do you because you're both so valued and kindhearted. Thats not to say it wouldn't be hard to do but it would be the right thing to do for his sake maybe just until you find a method that works for you both in such a case.
For Snow, the breeder sent him home with a scrap of a blanket from his mom and siblings. It had been laid on/rubbed all over them, so it smelled like his family and was soothing; she said this helped with the transition between homes. If you got him from a breeder, I'd try this. If not and if he's reliably attached to you, you can wear a shirt or something for a day and then put that in the crate with him instead.
Next, a vibration collar. I saw you mention this and honestly, I was wary of them at first until a friend told me about them. Snow had to be crated whenever we ate because he'd relentlessly beg for our food; he still sometimes does since he's tall enough to take food right off of our plates. As a puppy, though, this didn't go well and the same thing happened every night trying to sleep after getting him for a while. I purchased the vibration collar and in one day, he stopped wailing while in his crate. It was a game changer. It wasn't even on a medium setting; I had it super low. I will say that Snow is a weirdly smart dog so idk if that has anything to do with how quickly he acknowledged the cause and effect of the situation, but it was so worth it. I bought it off of Amazon, I think.
Mom's dog is different because she won't let anything be tried on him most times. I had slight. Very slight. Success with Zesty Paws calming bites, but it's probably not going to help you. A thunder shirt is what I want for him, but ultimately what worked was anxiety meds. My mom won't go get them again because "they changed his personality," but I try to tell her uh. Yeah. He's not hopelessly neurotic about everything that moves! I think you can give benadryl for anxiety (please check to verify) , but it'll make him go sleepy time and it's based on weight. Tempted to do it for Sam here ever since I got the dosage for Snow. =/ Granted Snow was for allergies...