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a little change for people that ghosts me
2 years ago
Lately, I've been dealing with people that shows interest in commissioning me but then stop aswering me. It happened 3 times in less then 30 days. So I will start to shitlist (this sound cooler than blacklist) these people. I'm in a really bad days, been get less commissions than I expected, money is geting worrying short and this actitude just make it all worse.
Just to make it clear, I DON'T MIND people giving up on commissions, it's totally ok and compreehensible! What I don't want is people that after show interest in commissioning me, just start ignoring me! For whatever reason is, I don't want that kind of client! Last week I even did some sketches before payment, for god's sake. after that, no more reply!
I need to make a TOS to clarify that.
And for those who support my work by commissioning, commenting, faving or watching, thank you a lot, as always!
Just to make it clear, I DON'T MIND people giving up on commissions, it's totally ok and compreehensible! What I don't want is people that after show interest in commissioning me, just start ignoring me! For whatever reason is, I don't want that kind of client! Last week I even did some sketches before payment, for god's sake. after that, no more reply!
I need to make a TOS to clarify that.
And for those who support my work by commissioning, commenting, faving or watching, thank you a lot, as always!
I hope you don't mind a comment eventho you posted this almost 1 year ago.
I have to totally agree with you and I can't put into words how much it straight up infuriates me, when people ghost me.
Some of them even had me invoice them only to never pay despite the reminders and me reaching out through DMs which I don't like doing.
While I understand "not wanting to make someone mad by saying no" this is not the way to do that, this is the complete opposite of the way and it causes the complete opposite effect, because, and pardon me for being unprofessional, it makes me want to lash out at them; I have to hold back from it at this point. I'm very clear and I'm very respectful when dealing with customers and I value every single one of them and their business and kind comments, but I expect some of the same respect back, not money, respect.
I had a situation in which I had like 7 different people close a deal for adoptables the same month, every single one of them ghosted me after agreeing on a purchase, one of them even made me put like 5 adopts on hold for them for a week; it was a big sale, they never paid, not a single one of them, despite multiple reminders and messages.
I learned to never count on the egg until the hen lays it but it doesn't make it any less infuriating when people do this.
I live in a third world country and I can't count on my art to support myself (believe me I have tried it all these 17 years), so I make adopts and every now and then I sell one or two, and even if its a few bucks they can make a difference whether I eat that day or not; it's a particularly sensitive topic.
I wish people didn't do this because it's unbearable; I have come to the point in which I no longer do holds for adopts, all my adopts are first come first serve and if I get ghosted I'm blocking. I'm really sick of people doing this and the worst part is that it's not just one or two but literally the vast majority of "customers" behave like that no matter how much you stress that they TELL YOU they want to back out of a transaction.
STOP.GHOSTING.ARTISTS. WE NEED TO FUCKING EAT HAVE SOME RESPECT.
Rant end.
I got it, I live in a 3rd world country too, also strugling to survive - even worse since pandemic. It's so fucking frustrating. Must be for artist who makes 10 times more money than me, but for us come these feellings, preocupations of how the end of the month will be, etc.
and theses peoples seens to come in time for me. Now for exemple I'm like all this time without this problem. When It happen again will come like 2 or 3 in the same month.
But little by little we learn: don't expect from other people, always have a backup plan (and backup money) and do your best for real clients
also I'm very thankful for working with what I really like, beside all problems
I have been unemployed for years, due to health, and how exploitative the job system is I simply see no value in working, I nearly overworked myself to the death. I get by however I can, I tried to find a part-time job for years but they do not exist, I have 6 professional degrees, it's not a lack of qualification, it's plain exploitation, paying nothing and expecting it all; and it sucks, I need to eat but I can't kill myself in order to do that, it doesn't make a lot of sense now does it? lol
I tried living off my art, well, not living, just having some money to buy food on the side, but nobody valued my work; I'm a furry, despite my gallery not looking the part, I'm hyperfixated on Boruto/Naruto and I enjoy drawing fanart and my OCs and pairing a lot, so that's what I do, but I'm a furry to the bone and I have been drawing anthro for nearly 2 decades, what I mean is, I have plenty of experience and examples, styles and stuff to showcase, but people were never drawn to my art and no matter how much I tried I have always been unnoticed (hence my name lol), so every little sale I make counts and I don't like being taken for a ride.
40 bucks might not be much for someone in the USA but for me it's 2 or 3 meals, and most of my adopts are cheaper (against my will and good judgement) and I still struggle to close sales and get people like that one after another; it's really infuriating; I don't count on anyone paying until they pay, but I still count on them paying out of simple respect towards me. A little communication goes a long way...