FA+
Shop
Dating shouldn't be this hard
2 years ago
For the last few months, I've been actively trying to date, and while I've had some successes, nothing has stuck for the long term yet. But that's not what I'm here to rant about. I'm here to rant about people's profiles on different platforms and how terrible they are on average. I don't know about the people behind them, frankly I probably never will, because a lot of them are putting so little effort into making an even basic dating profile that I swipe left almost immediately.
* Lack of smiling pictures: I get it, you're cool, you want to give off an attitude, but maybe try showing some positivity as well? Why would I want to date someone who just looks miserable in all of their pictures
* Pictures taken seconds from each other: I get that we don't always have a lot of photos off hand but come, on three versions of the same thing isn't saying much about you except "lazy". Usually they're not even smiling, or interesting in any way.
* No profile description: This might be a personal thing, but I'm not looking to just date a body, I want to know about your personality so say something, anything about yourself. And don't just say top or bottom, actually say something interesting about your personality, about what you enjoy.
* Generic tags: A lot of dating sites have a bunch of tags to classify interests, and low effort profiles all seem to have the same stuff: art, travel, cooking, music, all kinds of statements that don't feel like they mean much, especially when they don't have a description to underline them.
There's plenty of stuff that I'll swipe left for lack of compatibility, but at least those seem to know what they're looking for and I can imagine someone finding those profiles interesting. At the end of the day, if you're on a dating platform, project yourself to be datable. Have some energy, some interest, some follow through. Everything is already set up to require so little effort.
Also, this isn't furry specific, people are pretty bad at this on average.
* Lack of smiling pictures: I get it, you're cool, you want to give off an attitude, but maybe try showing some positivity as well? Why would I want to date someone who just looks miserable in all of their pictures
* Pictures taken seconds from each other: I get that we don't always have a lot of photos off hand but come, on three versions of the same thing isn't saying much about you except "lazy". Usually they're not even smiling, or interesting in any way.
* No profile description: This might be a personal thing, but I'm not looking to just date a body, I want to know about your personality so say something, anything about yourself. And don't just say top or bottom, actually say something interesting about your personality, about what you enjoy.
* Generic tags: A lot of dating sites have a bunch of tags to classify interests, and low effort profiles all seem to have the same stuff: art, travel, cooking, music, all kinds of statements that don't feel like they mean much, especially when they don't have a description to underline them.
There's plenty of stuff that I'll swipe left for lack of compatibility, but at least those seem to know what they're looking for and I can imagine someone finding those profiles interesting. At the end of the day, if you're on a dating platform, project yourself to be datable. Have some energy, some interest, some follow through. Everything is already set up to require so little effort.
Also, this isn't furry specific, people are pretty bad at this on average.
also 'fetish' or 'leather' without any context is a swipe left for me as well.
To be fair, though, I just looked on an old furry dating site. "Oh! Three single Furs in my area! This one is wearing a dorky Sonic costume!" Almost a decade later and he's my husband now.