People actually do this?!?! How fucking sick in the head do they have to be, i wish people who were blocked/blacklisted would just back off and accept that, why do they have to get malicious and shit? You deserve way better than that, and I'm SO sorry someone did that. I can't imagine bringing up someone's child for any reason unless the parent talks about it first... it's just weird.

Apperantly!

As mentioned in my last journal, the one regarding commission etiquette, I keep my personal life relatively private and only share things when absolutely necessary.

I don't just roll over when boundaries in any form are breached, they're there to protect my mental health.

DAMN STRAIGHT! say it louder for the people in the back!!!!

Ha. No kidding

Reason number.... I lost count.... Why people suck and I hate 99% of them and am generally so cagey and closed off unless I know the person. Hope the dipshit leaves you and your family alone! Hoping safety for you and your kid both!

Yeah, as I've said previously on the matter in the Commissions Etiquette journal I am a generally very private person. For personal reasons and beliefs.

99% of my client base is lovely and I've even made some really close friends.
But that 1% that can't handle the word no and someone not caving in when they breach boundaries? Yeah they're showing themselves this year.

I hate people who treat artists like that. Privacy is important! I am similar, don't divulge much about my personal life.

I have dealt with similar, but most of the time they leave me alone because I am an ASSHOLE when people piss me off and once somebody breaches my boundaries, I don't hold back. Make 'em feel like stupid shit until they leave me alone. Generally, it works. They realize messing with me ain't worth it because I don't care what the morons think about me, I just wanna be left alone and have an ability to get into their head and make them stop.

I mean that's fair.

I personally avoid unnecessary drama and conflict, but if it works it works right?

I'm only just learning how to be firm on my boundaries this year 😔
It's not been easy!

I avoid drama too. If it's senseless stupid bullshit I just shrug it off and go on with my life but if somebody continues to harass me, I am vicious. I have only had to turn that on two or three times. Saved screenshots with full context. One person who had been stalking and harassing me for months used cut and edited screenshots after I had enough and told them off, cherry picked to make them look like the victim and make me look bad and I immediately showed the full context and it backfired on them hard. Asshole hasn't tried anything since.

Somebody tried to drag my wife into it, by snooping on a private conversation when I was venting to a friend after a fairly minor disagreement, cherry picked and everything. Fully meant to hurt and upset my wife and pick at her fears and insecurities.

It was full on stalking, because I haven't put any of her info anywhere and I was not ok with that. At all.

People are shit. They need to learn how to back off and just let us be. Or, with me at least, suffer the consequences. I used to be a huge people pleaser, but I stopped when hurting myself because people are awful became too much and now I immediately tell them to fuck off with both middle fingers out when they treat me like shit. I give them a chance to make it right and apologize, but if they double down and keep it up, I am all too happy to show them the door and let it hit 'em on the way out.