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Just getting a few things off my chest.
2 years ago
Heyo!! Still a bit of a tired mess at the moment but I'm keeping it together :D Not sure how long I've managed to stay in the fandom for but boy has it been a ride and I'm glad to have met a majority of you, plenty who've genuinely kept me smiling at times and have been amazing listeners though some have left me frustrated and annoyed enough to warrant me posting this. This is more of a vent post but at the same time I don't expect many people to read through everything or even read it at all but to those that do thanks for your time!
One thing that has frustrated me most are how plenty of people navigate friend groups as though they're still in high school, I've watched ONE person who had beef with me because they've actually been horrible to me manipulate 3 whole groups of people into thinking I hated them? That I was treating that person terribly when my evidence is damning and pretty much easily proves they're wrong but it doesn't matter what evidence I had at the time because these people found him hot, and by then already made their decision that he was in the right. I've then been isolated by other groups once they got involved all because they again are good friends even though I've made attempts to speak with them to just solve an issue. I've tried to reach out to their friends to explain fully what happened and talk to them because I've seen how they talk about me behind my back but those friends are instinctively defensive. I just can not understand people who in the fandom have not made any attempt to talk to me, any to get to know me, any to even address serious claims against me can act as if they're the wholesome UWU gentle and friendly type of people when they accept the first person's claims about anything because they found them hot but try to use therapy speak to brush aside complex issues.
I've watched groups of people grow distant because they give someone preferential treatment once they find out how hot they are and it feels weird, and don't get me started on politics, the amount of people I've grown distant towards because of them slurping up transphobic nonsense, repeating far right talking points and just can not understand why some people are so vocal about the state of the world rn... it felt exhausting being around them.
Also those who do not understand time zones and that people are probably busy, trying to guilt trip me into pushing everything I'm busy with aside and give them attention it really is something I've found super annoying but I've at least learned to navigate around this especially when it comes to groups and people who roleplay. Even artists I've come across tend to have their head up their ass? I love supporting creatives and want to see them succeed especially in the furry community but how art is exchanged, talked about and consumed in some spaces makes me so uncomfortable especially around groups of wealthy people who look down on someone who uses the same art piece twice or more times or reposts their art a lot. I will not apologize or feel ashamed for reposting the pieces I love that especially have been gifted to me. I love my sona that much and no amount of hate for the species, the art style or myself as a person is going to change that because I love going back to art I enjoyed especially NSFW art and just appreciating it. Some artists are surprisingly unprofessional though when dealing with money so I haven't been all that willing to get a new piece of art for my ape.
Going forward though after I sort out all the platforms I'm on, take a few breaks and clean up old chats of people I might need to let go of, I think I'll try to approach what I do in the fandom as something I want to do for me. Budget and save up enough to then eventually splurge on pieces that help with the worldbuilding of my gorilla sona and the world around him. Explore some furry spaces that might lead to potential friendships, exploring more kinks I'm into and want to get art of be it extreme or weird, kinky or vanilla. Try to interact and engage with artists that don't mind the comments and compliments instead of hoping for those that only comment within their group of friends to notice me. Trying to support creatives and interact with them if they're open to just doing something else that doesn't involve them and their art. Using the block button often because honestly being a bigot is not something I have the energy to help you fix. Lastly, I link my Steam a lot because I enjoy gaming with people, thanks to those who regularly play with me because it serves as a good icebreaker to just bond over as well as watching movies, playing games, worldbuilding and roleplaying etc. I'm not competitive so don't expect a godlike player nwn
Links to other spaces I'm on:
Telegram: https://t.me/HairyGreenMan
Discord: pyramid_heads_meat_socket
Steam: https://steamcommunity.com/id/MilkyApeGalaxy/
Bluesky: ookflavouredmilk.bsky.social
One thing that has frustrated me most are how plenty of people navigate friend groups as though they're still in high school, I've watched ONE person who had beef with me because they've actually been horrible to me manipulate 3 whole groups of people into thinking I hated them? That I was treating that person terribly when my evidence is damning and pretty much easily proves they're wrong but it doesn't matter what evidence I had at the time because these people found him hot, and by then already made their decision that he was in the right. I've then been isolated by other groups once they got involved all because they again are good friends even though I've made attempts to speak with them to just solve an issue. I've tried to reach out to their friends to explain fully what happened and talk to them because I've seen how they talk about me behind my back but those friends are instinctively defensive. I just can not understand people who in the fandom have not made any attempt to talk to me, any to get to know me, any to even address serious claims against me can act as if they're the wholesome UWU gentle and friendly type of people when they accept the first person's claims about anything because they found them hot but try to use therapy speak to brush aside complex issues.
I've watched groups of people grow distant because they give someone preferential treatment once they find out how hot they are and it feels weird, and don't get me started on politics, the amount of people I've grown distant towards because of them slurping up transphobic nonsense, repeating far right talking points and just can not understand why some people are so vocal about the state of the world rn... it felt exhausting being around them.
Also those who do not understand time zones and that people are probably busy, trying to guilt trip me into pushing everything I'm busy with aside and give them attention it really is something I've found super annoying but I've at least learned to navigate around this especially when it comes to groups and people who roleplay. Even artists I've come across tend to have their head up their ass? I love supporting creatives and want to see them succeed especially in the furry community but how art is exchanged, talked about and consumed in some spaces makes me so uncomfortable especially around groups of wealthy people who look down on someone who uses the same art piece twice or more times or reposts their art a lot. I will not apologize or feel ashamed for reposting the pieces I love that especially have been gifted to me. I love my sona that much and no amount of hate for the species, the art style or myself as a person is going to change that because I love going back to art I enjoyed especially NSFW art and just appreciating it. Some artists are surprisingly unprofessional though when dealing with money so I haven't been all that willing to get a new piece of art for my ape.
Going forward though after I sort out all the platforms I'm on, take a few breaks and clean up old chats of people I might need to let go of, I think I'll try to approach what I do in the fandom as something I want to do for me. Budget and save up enough to then eventually splurge on pieces that help with the worldbuilding of my gorilla sona and the world around him. Explore some furry spaces that might lead to potential friendships, exploring more kinks I'm into and want to get art of be it extreme or weird, kinky or vanilla. Try to interact and engage with artists that don't mind the comments and compliments instead of hoping for those that only comment within their group of friends to notice me. Trying to support creatives and interact with them if they're open to just doing something else that doesn't involve them and their art. Using the block button often because honestly being a bigot is not something I have the energy to help you fix. Lastly, I link my Steam a lot because I enjoy gaming with people, thanks to those who regularly play with me because it serves as a good icebreaker to just bond over as well as watching movies, playing games, worldbuilding and roleplaying etc. I'm not competitive so don't expect a godlike player nwn
Links to other spaces I'm on:
Telegram: https://t.me/HairyGreenMan
Discord: pyramid_heads_meat_socket
Steam: https://steamcommunity.com/id/MilkyApeGalaxy/
Bluesky: ookflavouredmilk.bsky.social
I hope things improve for you. But reading this. It sounds you have a pretty good handle on how you feel about all this, and what you intend to do about it. So honestly? I'm not too worried about ya. You'll do okay <3
Firing you all the well wishes anyway! We really ought to game sometime. I've had your steam for ages and never have yet! XD
I know that sounds harsh but trust me. its waaaaaaay better to have a very select few friends that want to talk to you, and understand your life situation, then a shit ton off tone deaf assholes that don't care.
Also, your profile is your own, do with it what you will. if people don't like it, they can unfollow and move on with their life. its that easy XD
Now i don't say purge everyone out of your life. but at the very least assess if its worth staying friends with people. (also a lot of groups are veeeery toxic)