I know random but in watching some friends and being a fly on the wall so to say cause I don't do well anymore in crowds or gatherings cause of my past and that. (Yes I'm the quiet outcast that others like to vent to and get advice from but no one ever reads or listens to me when I have something to vent about or have an opinion about but is what it is been that way since I can remember). But I digress, some friends were talking (and mainly friends of the mate girls) about how their mates were asking to yiff/have fun/play the horizontal mambo/etc. and they were "not in the mood, have a headache, not feeling well, etc" but they were just like "eh, I don't care just didn't want to have sex cause its not benefiting me". I can say that cause one pretty much said I'm not going to get anything from it I just lie there and wait until he finishes and not like I'll get a gift nor is it an anniversary or birthday so why should I give it to him? Which as Peter Griffin says "you know what really grinds my gears" is how they think its ok to deny it or say shit like "it's not like amazing or the greatest its like average" (yes that is what one said and didn't realize I was in the corner on my phone pretending that I wasn't listening (mainly cause I can't be playing music cause mates watching TV and dislike headphones) when talking about having sex with their mate/BF/Husband/Wife/etc. yet men are not taught to not show emotion, not to expect a pat on the back, a bouquet of flowers, an atta-boy, praise, etc. yet girls are the opposite you got to do all that to show them you love them, you care, etc. but for men the one way they can express their love and get (in a sense) a way to show emotion, a pat on the back, a bouquet of flowers, an atta-boy, praise, etc. is through sex and women/girls don't get it. If a man shows his emotions he's weak, he's a girl, he's a looser, etc.. Yes, a man is to protect and care for his mate and be strong, emotionless, but a provider but he shouldn't be expected to be deprived of the one thing that he can do/get to be shown that he is loved or cared for. Yes, its not everything to us (yes I am a male, married, happy) but it is important even if you or others don't think so it is one way that we feel we are loved and cared for. (This is my thoughts and others that I know think the same) We don't want it just cause we want sex we want to be able to show and feel love we are taught not to show emotions (and is good and bad because if we are emotionless we are more of a stronger presence and more of a foe to those who wish to do harm or that to our loved ones but if we show our emotions we are weak). And to hear mates talking as if sex is a weapon to get things or that they don't like it or its like "eh I'll just do the motions cause its nothing" is frustrating to me. If you don't like it talk about it how can he make it more fun, better, enjoyable, better, or best for you I can guarantee he will try to and do his best to make it better but don't condensed him or make him feel inadequate cause sex is learned not inherited. I know this is my thoughts but shit I hate hearing this kind of sh@ like "my BF/husband is just wanting sex" or "sex is only if I want him to get me something or do something for me" . Sorry if I offended well not really sorry it's my thoughts and opinions. I just think a lot of cheating is done because of this. mate never wants to have "fun" (aka make him feel loved/appreciated/show-feel emotions) but she/he is willing to have "fun " and let me feel appreciated. I just don't get why no mates really want to actually sit down and walk of their issues or what they are feeling (and has to stay between you and him/her not your friends or family). But I know one reason how can you trust each other when more than likely yo told them something that was supposed to be between you and her/him and he/she said it to their friend/family member which made them lose trust. And is understandable (I've been through it and still have trust issues but am open about it with her and she's understanding that I am not stating everything of my past due to that and the past) to have that trust lost but the only way to get around it or patch it is through slowly giving up little things that is to be only between you two and no one else and see if he/she keeps it between you two only and slowly gain that trust back. (Once trust is lost its hard if not near impossible to gain back depending on past incidents but can be re-gained if you don't do anything to lose the trust again. Men have an ultimately harder time re-gaining trust once lost than others cause it is taken advantage of too many times especially with those they love/trust enough to tell their secrets too and be more open than what they are with those around them. This is my thoughts and what I have been through but it is me and my thoughts/opinions. I’m only being honest here and stating this because I lost my care of what others think about me or what others think of me no matter who it is cause I’m at that point of not giving 2 sh@s about others …. But …

Sorry just a rant so I'll stop here.