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A belated update + GoFundMe
a year ago
https://gofund.me/21dfe001 - GoFundMe for funeral and other end-of-life related expenses for my mom.
On the 19th, my mom had her 68th birthday. We had Red Lobster, and it was pretty good. She was out of it, but she was doing okay. Had a bunch of laughs, and she was surrounded by friends and family - my partner, my two highschool friends who care for her and view her like another mom. My two uncles (the ones I call the "chill" and "annoying" one), and the 'chill' uncle's partner.
Four days later, my mom had, by account of the nurses, entered the transition to end-of-life process.
That's also known as beginning to die.
My godmother, her best friend, whom I know as "Aunt Bitch"** had spoke to her some days before her birthday, and my mom apparently was speaking about the past, but in the present. Bringing things up only the two of them would know. Telling her best friend (who never got along with my mom's dad, and who had passed away MANY years ago, when I was still in high school) that she should talk to her father. As someone that had worked in the medical field, she suspected my mom entered transition some days prior to when I was called last Friday.
**I'm 'required' to call her that - it's an inside thing, and while most people have to properly address their elders as a kid (Aunt Tammy, Uncle Dan, etc), for me to give her respect, I didn't call her Aunt Patty. If I did, that was almost as bad as calling her by her first name as a kid :P If you knew her, it made sense so just go with it! haha
Needless to say, my mom is virtually unrecognizable from days prior. It's a huge drain and I've been seeing her nearly every day since then. It's hard. Yesterday I was so tired from not sleeping right that I couldn't go. I could barely sleep cause by not going, I obsessed even MORE about keeping my phone on.
As per hospice suggestion, we're looking into funeral arrangements and having them ready NOW, as it's honestly more of a ticking timer, and we don't quite know. I could get a call today. I could get a call sometime next week. If my mom is particularly stubborn, even at this point, even as we can't even talk to her the rare time we visit her and she's awake, she might even last another month like this. I don't know.
I talked to one of the nurses. All of the people at the facility love my mom. For whatever reason, she's considered different from the other patients. Hell, one of them, they had a pretty bad day. For whatever reason, she had a rough time with another patient. She had visited my mom as part of her thing and whatever chat they shared apparently gave the nurse the push to lift her up mentally and finish her shift for that day.
That's my mom, making people happy and taking care of them, even as she's suffering like she is...
I've got a GoFundMe going to help raise money to ease up the financial burden that will be the funeral and wrapping up anything else in my mom's final chapter in life.
https://gofund.me/21dfe001
Please, if you can spread the word or donate, anything helps.
On the 19th, my mom had her 68th birthday. We had Red Lobster, and it was pretty good. She was out of it, but she was doing okay. Had a bunch of laughs, and she was surrounded by friends and family - my partner, my two highschool friends who care for her and view her like another mom. My two uncles (the ones I call the "chill" and "annoying" one), and the 'chill' uncle's partner.
Four days later, my mom had, by account of the nurses, entered the transition to end-of-life process.
That's also known as beginning to die.
My godmother, her best friend, whom I know as "Aunt Bitch"** had spoke to her some days before her birthday, and my mom apparently was speaking about the past, but in the present. Bringing things up only the two of them would know. Telling her best friend (who never got along with my mom's dad, and who had passed away MANY years ago, when I was still in high school) that she should talk to her father. As someone that had worked in the medical field, she suspected my mom entered transition some days prior to when I was called last Friday.
**I'm 'required' to call her that - it's an inside thing, and while most people have to properly address their elders as a kid (Aunt Tammy, Uncle Dan, etc), for me to give her respect, I didn't call her Aunt Patty. If I did, that was almost as bad as calling her by her first name as a kid :P If you knew her, it made sense so just go with it! haha
Needless to say, my mom is virtually unrecognizable from days prior. It's a huge drain and I've been seeing her nearly every day since then. It's hard. Yesterday I was so tired from not sleeping right that I couldn't go. I could barely sleep cause by not going, I obsessed even MORE about keeping my phone on.
As per hospice suggestion, we're looking into funeral arrangements and having them ready NOW, as it's honestly more of a ticking timer, and we don't quite know. I could get a call today. I could get a call sometime next week. If my mom is particularly stubborn, even at this point, even as we can't even talk to her the rare time we visit her and she's awake, she might even last another month like this. I don't know.
I talked to one of the nurses. All of the people at the facility love my mom. For whatever reason, she's considered different from the other patients. Hell, one of them, they had a pretty bad day. For whatever reason, she had a rough time with another patient. She had visited my mom as part of her thing and whatever chat they shared apparently gave the nurse the push to lift her up mentally and finish her shift for that day.
That's my mom, making people happy and taking care of them, even as she's suffering like she is...
I've got a GoFundMe going to help raise money to ease up the financial burden that will be the funeral and wrapping up anything else in my mom's final chapter in life.
https://gofund.me/21dfe001
Please, if you can spread the word or donate, anything helps.
UnnamedDragon
~unnameddragon
I'm very sorry to hear. It's good you shared her birthday together. Journal boosted. I hope it helps.
