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Well, guess I'll never live there anymore.
a year ago
Selfish title.
Not sure where to begin.
I'll try to make it short.
Step dad been losing his mind for years now. Refuses to seek help. It gotten so bad that he lost his job of over 20 years in Mukilteo. Then got very behind on payments to the point their home was for closed in September. During the whole time, he refused to seek help. But expected us to bail them out. Mom refused to do anything.
Then this realtor decided to check on them when she noticed they did nothing to fix their situation, and was close to eviction date. Which was April 5. Met them at home, and told them they got 3 options. Eviction, sale the home, or reverse mortgage. The later would have given them a couple years rent free with their debts to the home paid. But after couple years, they need to start paying again. Step dad is in no position to work. And he did try. He has a couple jobs since he was fired. And....he was fired from those too.
Anyway, was able to sell the house. Got the estate sale done. Once the closing is done on Thursday, they'll be moving here to Indiana.
We are not able to deal with them. Since they refuse to admit they have issues and work with us, there's not much we can do. We are going to try to guide them at least. But...well...there's a lot going on. I am just stressed out. Especially since they are back in WA. Not much I can do here other than try to prepare here. But step dad is so far in what we think is dementia that all he does is forget what was told. Then demand to know why his furniture is gone and what the hell everyone saying they are not living here anymore.
And mom refuses to step in and do more than be a manager. She wants him to drive them from WA to IN. Yes, he's done it many times before in the past to visit my sis here. But, from what I been told, he needs to be reminded where he's going most of the time now. And mom expects him to remember where he's at that moment and where to go? While pulling a box trailer behind his pickup?
I don't have time and funds to go out there and take over the drive. And he'll get insulted if I do.
Sorry, just wanted to post all this. It's weird seeing the home on a lot of home sales websites. Seeing the house, even my bedroom posted up for the world to see.
Not sure where to begin.
I'll try to make it short.
Step dad been losing his mind for years now. Refuses to seek help. It gotten so bad that he lost his job of over 20 years in Mukilteo. Then got very behind on payments to the point their home was for closed in September. During the whole time, he refused to seek help. But expected us to bail them out. Mom refused to do anything.
Then this realtor decided to check on them when she noticed they did nothing to fix their situation, and was close to eviction date. Which was April 5. Met them at home, and told them they got 3 options. Eviction, sale the home, or reverse mortgage. The later would have given them a couple years rent free with their debts to the home paid. But after couple years, they need to start paying again. Step dad is in no position to work. And he did try. He has a couple jobs since he was fired. And....he was fired from those too.
Anyway, was able to sell the house. Got the estate sale done. Once the closing is done on Thursday, they'll be moving here to Indiana.
We are not able to deal with them. Since they refuse to admit they have issues and work with us, there's not much we can do. We are going to try to guide them at least. But...well...there's a lot going on. I am just stressed out. Especially since they are back in WA. Not much I can do here other than try to prepare here. But step dad is so far in what we think is dementia that all he does is forget what was told. Then demand to know why his furniture is gone and what the hell everyone saying they are not living here anymore.
And mom refuses to step in and do more than be a manager. She wants him to drive them from WA to IN. Yes, he's done it many times before in the past to visit my sis here. But, from what I been told, he needs to be reminded where he's going most of the time now. And mom expects him to remember where he's at that moment and where to go? While pulling a box trailer behind his pickup?
I don't have time and funds to go out there and take over the drive. And he'll get insulted if I do.
Sorry, just wanted to post all this. It's weird seeing the home on a lot of home sales websites. Seeing the house, even my bedroom posted up for the world to see.
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I wouldn't even know what to say or even do if I was in your position. Ugh.