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16 years ago
For those of you that do not follow me on facebook or furaffinity, there will be some info here that may confuse you. It has been a long time since i have been here. I'm sorry I wont be recapping what has happened in the past years.
Frustrations: They stem from family friends and work. Quite often they pour from one category to another and create new frustrations. The only way to remedy frustrations is for all the causes to lessen. For others to help lessen them.
Lately I find myself increasingly more frustrated with my work and social life. So many things happen at my workplace that bother me and I feel my voice is going to a wall. My social life. Yes I hang out plenty, but its lacking things I want. Not to mention past problems resurfacing to cause more problems. Right now these are both trickling over into my family life. I am finding myself increasingly more and more frustrated at home over the littlest things when I really shouldn't be. This combined with other peoples frustrations mix as well as oil and water. They clash...
I know some things that can help me alleviate these frustrations, but unfortunately I've dug myself a hole I'm having troubles crawling out of. I can't make changes in my life right now, when I need it the most. When I state this, I get criticized for not just doing it. Guys I know you want to help but life WILL stand in someones way if they do not see a way out that they can reach. Please realize this. Currently I am blocked at nearly all angles. There are some possibilities. But I do not know how to approach them just yet.
Here is the scoop in short form. I am at a job (whom I enjoy the staff) that I am not progressing at all in. I am a high-school drop out with only a GED, and feeling dumber by the year. I am still single, although I would be happy with just a close friend to curl up with at this point. (no need to rush things) I cant drive because of my seizure and being diagnosed with epilepsy. Which has me grounded from being a lot of things. (NO the bus is not as helpful as you say when you hafto wait 30 to 60 minutes in the dead of winter do not remind me of that) I am feeling a burden to a lot of my friends lately. I cant save a dime to save my life. Lets face it, I"m not the cleanest of fellas. I'm more disorganized then I would like to be. I am overweight and having a lot of trouble losing it. (due to habits) Everything I used to love, is starting to become boring. I easily get annoyed with the littlest things when I know I shouldn't. I am out of shape. (different from the overweight) ...Alright so this wasn't short... I am too afraid of change, dispight knowing how I need it, and want it. I am 26 and still living in my parents basement.
I want to go on but I have a feeling you all get the idea.
I am feeling lost and too deep in a hole. I don't see my way out anymore and I am feeling lost lately.
Wording this all out to everyone has calmed me down from being angry at least. And that's what i had hoped for. I guess it was just time to just tell everyone what was on my mind. (more detail is to be had...but i think this is enough for now)
Thanks for listening everyone. It means a lot to me.
Frustrations: They stem from family friends and work. Quite often they pour from one category to another and create new frustrations. The only way to remedy frustrations is for all the causes to lessen. For others to help lessen them.
Lately I find myself increasingly more frustrated with my work and social life. So many things happen at my workplace that bother me and I feel my voice is going to a wall. My social life. Yes I hang out plenty, but its lacking things I want. Not to mention past problems resurfacing to cause more problems. Right now these are both trickling over into my family life. I am finding myself increasingly more and more frustrated at home over the littlest things when I really shouldn't be. This combined with other peoples frustrations mix as well as oil and water. They clash...
I know some things that can help me alleviate these frustrations, but unfortunately I've dug myself a hole I'm having troubles crawling out of. I can't make changes in my life right now, when I need it the most. When I state this, I get criticized for not just doing it. Guys I know you want to help but life WILL stand in someones way if they do not see a way out that they can reach. Please realize this. Currently I am blocked at nearly all angles. There are some possibilities. But I do not know how to approach them just yet.
Here is the scoop in short form. I am at a job (whom I enjoy the staff) that I am not progressing at all in. I am a high-school drop out with only a GED, and feeling dumber by the year. I am still single, although I would be happy with just a close friend to curl up with at this point. (no need to rush things) I cant drive because of my seizure and being diagnosed with epilepsy. Which has me grounded from being a lot of things. (NO the bus is not as helpful as you say when you hafto wait 30 to 60 minutes in the dead of winter do not remind me of that) I am feeling a burden to a lot of my friends lately. I cant save a dime to save my life. Lets face it, I"m not the cleanest of fellas. I'm more disorganized then I would like to be. I am overweight and having a lot of trouble losing it. (due to habits) Everything I used to love, is starting to become boring. I easily get annoyed with the littlest things when I know I shouldn't. I am out of shape. (different from the overweight) ...Alright so this wasn't short... I am too afraid of change, dispight knowing how I need it, and want it. I am 26 and still living in my parents basement.
I want to go on but I have a feeling you all get the idea.
I am feeling lost and too deep in a hole. I don't see my way out anymore and I am feeling lost lately.
Wording this all out to everyone has calmed me down from being angry at least. And that's what i had hoped for. I guess it was just time to just tell everyone what was on my mind. (more detail is to be had...but i think this is enough for now)
Thanks for listening everyone. It means a lot to me.
i can't really offer any suggestions that wouldn't make me look like a hypocrite, but hey, it can't be like this all the time. sooner or later something will come along.
though, there is something that might help... find a quiet spot somewhere and just absorb the beauty. it's kinda zen and tranquil and you'd be surprised how few people actually stop to smell the roses nowadays, it's like the world is "WORK WORK WORK CONSUME EAT SLEEP DIE."
hell, if you aren't against it, if you take a couple hours to just soak in something beautiful, sometimes if i smoke a joint, i can really get into the moment... which is fulfilling on so many levels. (though, if you do it, don't let it become a habit.)
Does that mean you're treated differently than everyone else? If not, don't worry about it, because no matter what, you can't make people care.
If so, you're like me, and am constantly abused at work. Get a new job, or just put your foot down and not get screwed over. Even if it means possibly losing your job, nothing else will fix the problem.
Yes I hang out plenty, but its lacking things I want.
Such as? I'm incapable of "hanging out" because I don't know what to do with myself. If you know what you want, that's a starting point.
I am finding myself increasingly more and more frustrated at home over the littlest things when I really shouldn't be.
You need a stress outlet. I work a night job and it's hard for me to go jogging, so I've taken up yoga. It's private and doesn't take much room.
I am at a job (whom I enjoy the staff) that I am not progressing at all in.
A lot of people don't progress in their job. If you enjoy the staff, that's a big plus. Your job is a lost cause, and you must accept that. Make the best of what you have at work, and improve your skills on your own time.
I am a high-school drop out with only a GED, and feeling dumber by the year.
Night school is the only answer for that. Failing that, try a hobby outside of your current skill set. What interests you?
I cant drive because of my seizure and being diagnosed with epilepsy.
I really feel for you, here. Local events are pretty much impossible to find these days, and our society revolves around cars.
Lets face it, I"m not the cleanest of fellas. I'm more disorganized then I would like to be.
No excuse for this. If you can't clean because you feel overwhelmed and hopeless, that's one thing, but everyone needs to do some spring cleaning now and then to get out of a rut. It's a pain at first, but it helps to relieve stress. I like doing laundry, cleaning the bathroom, and washing dishes. In a small way, it makes me feel like I've accomplished something in the day. Pick one room in your house/apartment and re-organize it. Dust the furniture. Alphabetize your DVDs. Just do something. Train yourself to stay active.
Everything I used to love, is starting to become boring.
People change, and your brain is begging for something new. You need a hobby.
I'm the opposite. I never get bored with my routine, and I have to force myself to do new things. That's a far, far bigger problem.
I am out of shape. (different from the overweight)
Yoga. Mild stretching is very good exercise, despite being so easy. It won't promote cardiovascular health, but it gives you more energy, and more motivation. It's a discipline.
I am 26 and still living in my parents basement.
That's fine, so long as you're contributing. I'm 31 and I still live with my parents, but that's only because I don't have a reason to move out (no girlfriend, job is close by). I make good money, so I pay rent, and my parents get the income, not some landlord. I do chores, clean the house, do my own shopping, cook my own food, etc. I work a night job, and I almost never even see my parents. They don't mind me being around.
If your parents aren't mad at you, don't dwell on it. Be a good son, pull your weight around the house, and concentrate on school. If your parents have any sense, they will understand and appreciate your efforts.
I am feeling lost and too deep in a hole.
You're bored. In the springtime, look into community volunteer work that you can reach by bicycle. Nobody can suspend a license for riding a bike.
The biggest way to start improving your tidiness is to stop and think-- the fastest way to clean up a mess is not to make one in the first place, so don't be lazy about putting things away when you're done with them. If you finish playing a game and it needs to be put away, get up and put it away. If you change your clothing, put dirty clothes in a laundry basket or hamper right away. Also, do things that are "on the way" or convenient to other tasks/actions you're already doing. Like, say you're thirsty and need to refill your glass of water, and you remember that there's something that needs to get put back in the kitchen-- take it with you and do it right then. If you notice that your desk is cluttered, or are upset that your cluttered desk is getting in the way of you finding important things or working on projects, make the time to sit and go through the items. Make sure that you have a wastebasket in your room. I keep mine lined with a plastic shopping bag so "taking out the trash" is easy, and the can stays clean. I also have a paper bag (or cardboard box) designated for recyclable papers. Sort everything out, throw out trash, put recyclables where they need to go, and put away the important things. I know it sounds stupidly simple... but sometimes that's the only way to go :) You just have to do it. Then it's done, and you can take a breath, look around, and move on. Another good habit to get into is that when you notice a problem/issue, it's best to take care of it right away, before you forget about it or get distracted by something else. If you can't work on it right then, write it down immediately. Keep lists of things you'd like to accomplish... it's fun to cross them off as they're completed.
The most important thing to keep in mind about trying to be tidier, or when lamenting about any of your perceived shortcomings, is that you need to change your behaviors to make yourself happier... and that you WILL be happier when you experience the many benefits OF your changed behavior. Some habits are tough to break, but even if you start slow, you'll still be better off than you were before.