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a year ago
So I guess I should give an update. So sorry for how long or short this may end up being.
For those who know me, know the last two months have been absolute hell.
Dad had a colonoscopy at the end of February, we found out he has Colon Cancer.
The start of March, literally two days after his birthday, he had a stroke and fell at home.
Ended up with him in the ER that put into observation. He ended up with a brain bleed that was really screwing him up.
Off to Butterworth Hospital he went.
When he was released to Rehab, he was not doing good at all.
They then released him from rehab way too early. He was NOT ready to come home. (They released him because insurance stopped covering his stay. And but of course its America, where they don't give a shit if you are okay to go home. If you don't have the money to pay for the time without insurance its a big 'screw you'.) It was NOT the rehab places fault.)
Well he made it up the steps two steps into the house and fell.
Back to the hospital. Back to Butterworth Hospital again. And back to Rehab after.
Now...
Now we had no option.
My dad is on Hospice now. And while yes, I know people can graduate from Hospice, this may...this wont be the case.
He is not a candidate for Surgery for the Cancer. And his body is too weak to do anything to stop it or help it.
So he's on Hospice and I am now his Primary Care Giver.
I want people to understand. When I used to say I focused on my dad and I would miss work at various times for my dad. I now understand.
Chances are he had that cancer starting not soon after my mom passed away. And it got worse.
There is a mass in his liver as well.
So please be patient with me. I'm doing all I can to keep myself afloat. All the while taking care of my dad and providing the best care I can for him.
Tldr;
Dad has Cancer. We can't fight it. He's home with Hospice Care. (Which are known for End of Life Care.)
I'm his primary care giver now. I am not going to be prepared for what is to come.
For those who know me, know the last two months have been absolute hell.
Dad had a colonoscopy at the end of February, we found out he has Colon Cancer.
The start of March, literally two days after his birthday, he had a stroke and fell at home.
Ended up with him in the ER that put into observation. He ended up with a brain bleed that was really screwing him up.
Off to Butterworth Hospital he went.
When he was released to Rehab, he was not doing good at all.
They then released him from rehab way too early. He was NOT ready to come home. (They released him because insurance stopped covering his stay. And but of course its America, where they don't give a shit if you are okay to go home. If you don't have the money to pay for the time without insurance its a big 'screw you'.) It was NOT the rehab places fault.)
Well he made it up the steps two steps into the house and fell.
Back to the hospital. Back to Butterworth Hospital again. And back to Rehab after.
Now...
Now we had no option.
My dad is on Hospice now. And while yes, I know people can graduate from Hospice, this may...this wont be the case.
He is not a candidate for Surgery for the Cancer. And his body is too weak to do anything to stop it or help it.
So he's on Hospice and I am now his Primary Care Giver.
I want people to understand. When I used to say I focused on my dad and I would miss work at various times for my dad. I now understand.
Chances are he had that cancer starting not soon after my mom passed away. And it got worse.
There is a mass in his liver as well.
So please be patient with me. I'm doing all I can to keep myself afloat. All the while taking care of my dad and providing the best care I can for him.
Tldr;
Dad has Cancer. We can't fight it. He's home with Hospice Care. (Which are known for End of Life Care.)
I'm his primary care giver now. I am not going to be prepared for what is to come.
