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Doggo thoughts: This type of person I now don't like
a year ago
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A young wiseman friend of mine once told me:
There's a certain type of person one needs to learn to avoid.
Never interact with them.
Cause after 3 interactions they'll fully be like:
"He's my friend."
"We used to chat."
"Let me tell you behind the scenes stuff."
"I used to know him."
I used to be more understanding, on people who are socially awkward, maybe autism, or any other reason.
Not everyone is a social butterfly, and that's okay.
But, as the years go by, I've encountered a couple of people who get a bit obsessed.
Some seem to think I'm obliged to be their friend without knowing me at all.
Some mistake a polite or fun small talk with a profound friendship.
Some even place "friend list!" on their profiles, listing me, when we don't know one another.
Some demand I help them jerk off, or that I give them all my attention over and over as if I had no life of my own.
Some get mad, they legit get mad if I don't become their BFF or porn machine.
Sometimes, not gonna lie, it gets scary seeing how some people are.
I'm now more understanding as to why there's people that prefer to be secluded, to not talk to anyone but their inner circle.
Thank you for reading me!
There's a certain type of person one needs to learn to avoid.
Never interact with them.
Cause after 3 interactions they'll fully be like:
"He's my friend."
"We used to chat."
"Let me tell you behind the scenes stuff."
"I used to know him."
I used to be more understanding, on people who are socially awkward, maybe autism, or any other reason.
Not everyone is a social butterfly, and that's okay.
But, as the years go by, I've encountered a couple of people who get a bit obsessed.
Some seem to think I'm obliged to be their friend without knowing me at all.
Some mistake a polite or fun small talk with a profound friendship.
Some even place "friend list!" on their profiles, listing me, when we don't know one another.
Some demand I help them jerk off, or that I give them all my attention over and over as if I had no life of my own.
Some get mad, they legit get mad if I don't become their BFF or porn machine.
Sometimes, not gonna lie, it gets scary seeing how some people are.
I'm now more understanding as to why there's people that prefer to be secluded, to not talk to anyone but their inner circle.
Thank you for reading me!
Sucks ya gotta deal with it, perhaps too often it sounds like. Yeesh.
jajaja but nah,
is not that often (thank God)
Always so awesome to see you pass by btw
hoping all is well on your end <33333333
It's very difficult to approach people because they have their circles so they don't have any initiative to talk with anyone who wants to make friends. They are not necessarily unfriendly but all the responsibility for interaction and gaining trust lies on those who are in need for this.
And this phenomenon makes it even worse.
Just wanted to let some steam off about it sorry.
the internet is full of scary people
You can make circle of friends by actively trying, or have the circle closed but still be welcoming to those who try to enter it. Or atleast help them get started somewhere, expose them to new interactions more easily than they would do on their own. And then let them go when they feel like it.
I feel bad if I shoot people down though so I have more then a few people I'm not interested in getting closer with sitting in my friends list
They're annoying but I also don't wanna hurt their feelings x.x
In the same boat so I certainly understand where you're coming from with all of this.
Oh by the way, this website comes in real handy:
https://nohello.net/en/
I have ran into *way* too many of these kinds of folks online.
In the end, I really wanna just chill the fuck out with people. If there's things to talk about, there'll be things to talk about. I don't wanna be thrusted into scenarios where I basically get pestered or pressured into doing shit I don't wanna do.
It also doesn't help when these types of folks have these weird fuckin' standards set for you to abide to, whether it'd be "being actively talking every day" or "doing every kinky thing THEY like". They dont even tell you, they just expect you to be a psychic and just *know* right away, and then get pissed off when you inevitably don't abide to what they want out of you, and you get labelled as a bad person for it. You basically just can't be yourself around these people.
It is so fucking dumb, and over time I've had less patience for these folks, bluntly telling them that I'm not gonna do what they want. If having set boundaries is enough to make me a villain now, so be it. I'll gladly be a bogeyman to these crazy mfs :v
kinda wish it wasn't like that in this community sometimes but eh :v
Aunque yo enseño mi amor con simping pero no cread que es todo lo que pienso de ti mi buen DD
Also the parasocial realtionships really only make the problem far worse.
It's like... A lot of the time it feels almost like they don't see the person on the other side of the screen as an actual person. It's kind of like a different flavor of the whole main character syndrome mindset where they're the main character and everyone else is just that NPC that exists to contribute to their story.
Either that or They seem to feel like online interactions are.. I don't even know how to put it like not as real of a form of communication/I interaction as physically or even verbally interacting with someone so they think that you know things like social norms and tact And things like that don't apply in online circles. So like say you're having a conversation about something not safe for work with A couple of your friends on Twitter. Some random person that you've never talked to or interacted with before who apparently gets off on your character or something we'll just jump into the conversation and start trying to forcibly insert themselves into it with seemingly no self-awareness at all
I try to think of interactions like public Twitter circles, chat rooms, discord servers and things like that like a house party. Act in those spaces the same way you would at a house party. If three friends are in a circle somewhere having a conversation about one of their boy/girlfriends And some of the stuff they get up to it's incredibly off-putting at best and super fucking creepy at worst if a random person just shoved into the conversation and started talking about what they'd like to do with that person's boy/girlfriend.
And then they're the ones you also mentioned where they build up like this fictitious relationship you have with them and then try to engage with you as if it already exists which I think kind of goes back to the whole they don't see these interactions as regular interpersonal interactions or they just see you as an NPC whether consciously or unconsciously.
I know a lot of people don't do it on purpose and Lord knows I was guilty of it to varying degrees when I was a lot younger so I try not to hold it against these people but also I am very much at the point where I do not have the energy to deal with them anymore lol. If they start doing that creepy shit I'll probably if I'm feeling a little energetic send them one message politely but firmly telling them what they're doing wrong and why it's not okay And then stop interacting with them unless they actually fix it and then maybe I am more willing to engage with them in a public setting not straight to DMS
I'm too old for this socially awkward drama shit lol I can barely maintain the friendships I have I don't have that youthful early twenties energy to artificially prop up false friendships anymore haha
Everything you have written is true.
It also happened to me that many thought that just by talking a little there was friendship and then they got angry with me. Hey, friendships are built, it's not one day to the next.
I also had those experiences where they insulted me in private because I didn't upload content every day, sometimes they go a little overboard, right?
<3