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a year ago
In eternity, where there is no time, nothing can grow. Nothing can become. Nothing changes. So death created time to grow the things that it would kill and you are reborn but into the same life that you've always been born into.
I'm really not sure how to start, what to say, etc. I'm having to deliver my own major life update, but when I came on, I saw the news that everyone knows now; Dragoneer has passed away. I can't recall any reaction with him, good or bad, though I have seen him comment on journals and other content by people I do follow. My understanding is that Dragoneer has often been a controversial person. Many decisions made by him and other admins would often result in a slew of "I'm leaving FA" Journals that...well if I had a penny for every time I saw someone announce they were leaving FA, but ended up doing nothing of the sort, I'd have quite a lot of "Fuck You" Money accumulated.
Truth be told? It's really not even on my radar. What I'm dealing with right now is something that I really don't know how to handle. In late 2022, I was informed that my dad was expecting a cancer diagnosis after experiencing some health problems that he thought was one thing, but CT scans and such showed something more concerning to the doctors. I can't remember how far along I've kept everyone updated on things past his surgery, so I'll just jump to that point:
Early this year, after going through chemo and his surgery to remove the cancer, a follow-up appointment revealed some "nodules" that the doctors were concerned about. They decided to be safe and start him back on chemo. Afterwards, they were able to determine that his cancer had, in fact, metastasized. His chemo treatments started at about the same time as they did the previous year, and my dad recently had a sit-down with his doctor to discuss the results of his latest scans. Curiously, they're not saying the word "terminal", but the cancer has spread to his bone, making it Stage 4 Cancer and they have said it's incurable. However, they are going to start him on radiation therapy.
Pretty much, how the prognosis was explained to me, they're going to have to do treatments to focus on the worst of it, where ever it pops up, but it's going to be with him for the rest of his life. As far as how long "the rest of his life" is, that's something I don't know and haven't been able to bring myself to try and look up. The way my mom explained it to my uncle, it sounds like they're going to treat and control it as best they can until they just can't anymore. I'm going to try to convince my parents to seek a second opinion, but I doubt it'll do any good as my parents think his current doctor is about the best they can get, which might be true.
I really don't know what the future looks like here. As far as FA goes, I really don't know. It's not a priority, nor has it been for several years now. One of the big things that I'm trying to deal with is aside from my dad, my mom isn't in great health either. She's got a list of ailments stemming from obesity and her refusal to quit smoking and has been told by her doctors that, pending some major lifestyle changes (which she hasn't attempted to make) she's looking at needing a liver and/or kidney transplant in the future. I've also known several people, family included, who died within a year of their spouse, so I'm not really holding out a lot of hope that cancer taking my dad is where this is going to end.
Truth be told? It's really not even on my radar. What I'm dealing with right now is something that I really don't know how to handle. In late 2022, I was informed that my dad was expecting a cancer diagnosis after experiencing some health problems that he thought was one thing, but CT scans and such showed something more concerning to the doctors. I can't remember how far along I've kept everyone updated on things past his surgery, so I'll just jump to that point:
Early this year, after going through chemo and his surgery to remove the cancer, a follow-up appointment revealed some "nodules" that the doctors were concerned about. They decided to be safe and start him back on chemo. Afterwards, they were able to determine that his cancer had, in fact, metastasized. His chemo treatments started at about the same time as they did the previous year, and my dad recently had a sit-down with his doctor to discuss the results of his latest scans. Curiously, they're not saying the word "terminal", but the cancer has spread to his bone, making it Stage 4 Cancer and they have said it's incurable. However, they are going to start him on radiation therapy.
Pretty much, how the prognosis was explained to me, they're going to have to do treatments to focus on the worst of it, where ever it pops up, but it's going to be with him for the rest of his life. As far as how long "the rest of his life" is, that's something I don't know and haven't been able to bring myself to try and look up. The way my mom explained it to my uncle, it sounds like they're going to treat and control it as best they can until they just can't anymore. I'm going to try to convince my parents to seek a second opinion, but I doubt it'll do any good as my parents think his current doctor is about the best they can get, which might be true.
I really don't know what the future looks like here. As far as FA goes, I really don't know. It's not a priority, nor has it been for several years now. One of the big things that I'm trying to deal with is aside from my dad, my mom isn't in great health either. She's got a list of ailments stemming from obesity and her refusal to quit smoking and has been told by her doctors that, pending some major lifestyle changes (which she hasn't attempted to make) she's looking at needing a liver and/or kidney transplant in the future. I've also known several people, family included, who died within a year of their spouse, so I'm not really holding out a lot of hope that cancer taking my dad is where this is going to end.
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