Please read! About Horny Comments / DM's, and Roleplay
12 months ago
General
Hey everyone, hope you're all doing well!
I wanted to come on here and post a few things to a wider audience bc this is something that commonly occurs from all angles. This post isn't specifically targeted at anyone, and I am NOT mad at anyone. I'm not looking for apologies or whatever, and am open to answering any questions below if this doesn't make sense. But please read first! :D
I want to say that I do not mind horny comments or questions about me or my characters. Think and feel whatever you'd like, I'm not here to stop you. I'm VERY glad you all love my characters and art. It means the world to me.
But I'm also not here to roleplay with you, I'm not here to be horny back, I'm not here to flirt with you or engage in kink with you or anything like that. Perhaps if we talk often and I can get to know you I don't mind talking about this sort of thing, or if I'm simply feeling it? Sure. But 90% of yall are strangers or acquaintances and sending me scenarios and the like just.. doesn't turn me on, for lack of a better explanation. Even if you were to comment something about my top 10 kinks or whatever there's a huge chance that I'm just gonna read it and go "cool idea" bc that's all it is to me.
I'm also autistic & demisexual / asexual* and don't really understand why people come into my DM's simply to talk about kink or whatever, or what I'm supposed to respond with other than an honest "I'm sure someone would be into that." Now, talking about commissions and the like is totally a different ballgame and that comes with the purpose of making something for you that is both worth our time and your money and honestly is a really fun and sometimes sexy experience for me depending on what it is and the mood I'm in. I love creating art with you all, seriously. You've all given me great opportunity to make some awesome pieces and have even better fun talking to you all about what we're creating together. Tis a labor of love.
I also don't understand why people just spam me with pornography randomly. I don't know what to do with it. Like I get a DM with a bunch of unsourced furry art and I just look at it like. "...? Okay,,,?" wondering if there's a point to that. Is this a reference for something you want drawn? Are you showing me old commissions? Are you trying to turn me on? I genuinely just don't know. Sorry!
Anyway- please just try and be direct with me. Tell me what you're doing and what you want from me. I don't mean this in a rude way or anything, I just GENUINELY do not understand what's going on half the time if it's not commission-talk. I have some of you that talk to me on a regular basis [sorry I usually don't DM first unless I have a WIP, I'm just a busy rottie lol.] that I get the goal, and sometimes i'll pick up on the flirty stuff or whatever, but rly i'm just guessing.
Seriously though, don't stop commenting and DMing and whatever- I always appreciate you all reaching out and chatting with me and expressing your feelings!! I just want you all to know that I'm not mad, but if I respond something like "haha sure" I'm just out here trying to encourage you while staying honest to myself as well. I try not to be stiff or seem standoffish, still working on that though.
Love you all very much! Thank you for supporting me, as always.
EDIT: I Forgot to post more on the RP thing- I don't really rp with strangers. I've had a long rp journey and because I'm very picky on who/what/where/when/how I rp, I don't often take on new partners. I MIGHT consider it if we've been friends for a while and talk often- but its rare. [If we've already discussed rping then you're fine, dw.]
I wanted to come on here and post a few things to a wider audience bc this is something that commonly occurs from all angles. This post isn't specifically targeted at anyone, and I am NOT mad at anyone. I'm not looking for apologies or whatever, and am open to answering any questions below if this doesn't make sense. But please read first! :D
I want to say that I do not mind horny comments or questions about me or my characters. Think and feel whatever you'd like, I'm not here to stop you. I'm VERY glad you all love my characters and art. It means the world to me.
But I'm also not here to roleplay with you, I'm not here to be horny back, I'm not here to flirt with you or engage in kink with you or anything like that. Perhaps if we talk often and I can get to know you I don't mind talking about this sort of thing, or if I'm simply feeling it? Sure. But 90% of yall are strangers or acquaintances and sending me scenarios and the like just.. doesn't turn me on, for lack of a better explanation. Even if you were to comment something about my top 10 kinks or whatever there's a huge chance that I'm just gonna read it and go "cool idea" bc that's all it is to me.
I'm also autistic & demisexual / asexual* and don't really understand why people come into my DM's simply to talk about kink or whatever, or what I'm supposed to respond with other than an honest "I'm sure someone would be into that." Now, talking about commissions and the like is totally a different ballgame and that comes with the purpose of making something for you that is both worth our time and your money and honestly is a really fun and sometimes sexy experience for me depending on what it is and the mood I'm in. I love creating art with you all, seriously. You've all given me great opportunity to make some awesome pieces and have even better fun talking to you all about what we're creating together. Tis a labor of love.
I also don't understand why people just spam me with pornography randomly. I don't know what to do with it. Like I get a DM with a bunch of unsourced furry art and I just look at it like. "...? Okay,,,?" wondering if there's a point to that. Is this a reference for something you want drawn? Are you showing me old commissions? Are you trying to turn me on? I genuinely just don't know. Sorry!
Anyway- please just try and be direct with me. Tell me what you're doing and what you want from me. I don't mean this in a rude way or anything, I just GENUINELY do not understand what's going on half the time if it's not commission-talk. I have some of you that talk to me on a regular basis [sorry I usually don't DM first unless I have a WIP, I'm just a busy rottie lol.] that I get the goal, and sometimes i'll pick up on the flirty stuff or whatever, but rly i'm just guessing.
Seriously though, don't stop commenting and DMing and whatever- I always appreciate you all reaching out and chatting with me and expressing your feelings!! I just want you all to know that I'm not mad, but if I respond something like "haha sure" I'm just out here trying to encourage you while staying honest to myself as well. I try not to be stiff or seem standoffish, still working on that though.
Love you all very much! Thank you for supporting me, as always.
EDIT: I Forgot to post more on the RP thing- I don't really rp with strangers. I've had a long rp journey and because I'm very picky on who/what/where/when/how I rp, I don't often take on new partners. I MIGHT consider it if we've been friends for a while and talk often- but its rare. [If we've already discussed rping then you're fine, dw.]
Kuruk_The_Bear
~kurukthebear
ngl feel the same way with a lot of stuff you mentioned. especially the being randomly sent porn and stuff without any context or anything. or people randomly trying to go into RP and stuff
Yonnixart
~dessydeathcat
OP
Glad I'm not the only one feeling this way, haha. I just don't really know what people expect..? Just bc I'm horny or posting sexual content, doesn't mean I'm available or open to random sexual encounters.. ??
Kuruk_The_Bear
~kurukthebear
yeah idk, like with sending random pics and stuff its one thing if you wanted to talk about something involving it, had a question, etc. but just sending it out of the blue with no context or nothing i just dont know what they want. and yeah i feel that 2 fold because ive literally never in my life felt horny so like its just being horny at me expecting reciprocation and thats just not gonna happen
Yonnixart
~dessydeathcat
OP
Ahh, same same same. For me I've been horny right but even then it's still not gonna go anywhere when a stranger busts down my door and show me porn. Expecting reciprocation without any connection or anything like that is the fastest way to dry me up. So strange.
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