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Re: non con is rape
10 months ago
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Currently in the life of a Sunflion F-22...
Based on the title, this journal is discussing elements of sexual assault depicted in fictitious works. Don't view if you're not in the space to, etc.
Chuckled to myself this morning. Not sure why I think its funny, but there was a banner for a game where someone is asking us to play a nsfw game that was worked on hard for a whole year in earnest. "Cw for non con" it cheerfully is labeled. At least that's polite, but also? I've been thinking about this.
Calling rape and sexual assault "non con" as a synonym feels a bit just as sanitized and ethically removed/useless as calling someone who is homeless "unhoused". "Forced orgasm" is in the same line. I have seen people genuinely think that "non con" doesn't mean rape in passing here and there through my life. So, I that adds to the "huh?" Aspect.
I have to wonder where this comes from, and recall a funny (more like sad/pathetic) test they did on a class of teen boys where boys revealed that they cannot identify what is and isnt rape on their own when the circumstances of rape are described to them without the use of the actual word. Do by chance, those types of boys who have become men think that changing the wording will help them re-categorize their fetish? Why bother?
Personally, I'm not into that fetish due to multiple factors and finding that the people who make it their specialty to draw consistently are generally speaking, awful to deal with in real and online life. Like, can you believe it? The guy who gets his gold drawing rape fetish art all the time may not be well adjusted by the time you meet him in real life even if you didn't even come out here to "kinkshame".
I feel like if you are new to the sex positivity movement, it's easiest to say "don't kinkshame ùwú" but even following that pop kink psychology requires some level of discernment. Some people draw rape art as a way to cope with their trauma, but won't post it online or share with others out of fear of it becoming fap material online. Some people need to draw elements of sexual assault due to the story they are working on containing it, even if it's not terribly explicit.
I have to get going, but I think no matter what I'm still going to be baffled as to why Fandom spaces wanted to use the word noncon to tag explicit work when not everyone knows what it means and is shorthand for, and rape as a tag will be more easily identified for English speakers and typers.
Chuckled to myself this morning. Not sure why I think its funny, but there was a banner for a game where someone is asking us to play a nsfw game that was worked on hard for a whole year in earnest. "Cw for non con" it cheerfully is labeled. At least that's polite, but also? I've been thinking about this.
Calling rape and sexual assault "non con" as a synonym feels a bit just as sanitized and ethically removed/useless as calling someone who is homeless "unhoused". "Forced orgasm" is in the same line. I have seen people genuinely think that "non con" doesn't mean rape in passing here and there through my life. So, I that adds to the "huh?" Aspect.
I have to wonder where this comes from, and recall a funny (more like sad/pathetic) test they did on a class of teen boys where boys revealed that they cannot identify what is and isnt rape on their own when the circumstances of rape are described to them without the use of the actual word. Do by chance, those types of boys who have become men think that changing the wording will help them re-categorize their fetish? Why bother?
Personally, I'm not into that fetish due to multiple factors and finding that the people who make it their specialty to draw consistently are generally speaking, awful to deal with in real and online life. Like, can you believe it? The guy who gets his gold drawing rape fetish art all the time may not be well adjusted by the time you meet him in real life even if you didn't even come out here to "kinkshame".
I feel like if you are new to the sex positivity movement, it's easiest to say "don't kinkshame ùwú" but even following that pop kink psychology requires some level of discernment. Some people draw rape art as a way to cope with their trauma, but won't post it online or share with others out of fear of it becoming fap material online. Some people need to draw elements of sexual assault due to the story they are working on containing it, even if it's not terribly explicit.
I have to get going, but I think no matter what I'm still going to be baffled as to why Fandom spaces wanted to use the word noncon to tag explicit work when not everyone knows what it means and is shorthand for, and rape as a tag will be more easily identified for English speakers and typers.
"noncon" "dubcon" are terms that are currently less problematic.
But you are correct the two terms should be interchangeable theoretically, but in practice, aren't. "Rape" is a strong word, meaning violently grabbing someone. It's a trigger warning word. It makes people uncomfortable. "Noncon" doesn't do that so much, but that comes at the cost of it's often taken to mean something less violent, more manipulation, and bleeds into "dubcon" and then it all becomes shades of grey. "Forced orgasm" is an odd one. Most porn I've seen using that label it's not ever clear how this is different from the porn they usually make?
I can see why it's more militant on social media sites where money is involved via video and streaming, but I was actually more referencing FA and art spaces specifically in thought, so I'll clarify that.