I'm writing this journal about what happened to my wife, because I was personally dragged into that. Read it up; it's mind boggling and wtf-ishly creepy.

There's this person for whom I drew a commission some time ago. I don't remember whether I terminated the deal or finished it, but the commissioner was big one for overstepping every boundary humanly possible as far as I remember. In the end, I didn't upload the art, cause I didn't want to see it again, nor remember the experience. They just looked like a particularly toxic narcissist to me, bearing every classical mark of the kind.

Some time ago they commissioned my wife. From the beginning she'd mention to me that they're overstepping her boundaries too. They'd even go mocking her ToS for being "just usual stuff" after she requested them to actually read it after they nonchalantly admitted they never do, cause it's always the same stuff (??????). I actually like reading ToSes of other artists and as anyone who reads them, I can tell you that each is different, even if some parts are very common. But aside that, do you get it? Mocking a ToS. The nonsense of it still blows my mind x'D

Still, that's not the worst. But getting an image from an artist and communicating your dissatisfaction with it with a language of the type "this is f'd" is. That's a whole nother level of being incredibly rude and lacking basic empathy. Especially so, as this was said to an artist, who offered to boost up the commission quality for free. And to be clear; I don't say they shouldn't have said what they didn't like in the art due to the courtesy being done to them. By all means, they pay, they have the right to request changes to the art being made. It's the way in which they did it that is unacceptable. My wife expressed her shock but she didn't even get an apology. She decided to let it slip and continued working. Now it gets good. In a bad sense.

That creep has gone as far as stalking. From the very beginning they had been probing about my wife's location. She has no problems with sharing it, but felt off about this particular person and decided to follow her gut and not tell them. They went as far as, wait for it.... analysing her sleep patterns to tell where she might be living. After a couple of times she refused the info, they suddenly wrote to her in a language they must've decided is her native. If that's not creepy, I don't know what is.

She felt so as well and terminated the service. She returned the money for all the unfinished art they commissioned as a follow up and she refused them service on the basis of them breaking the rules set in her ToS (one about a respectful, civic conduct). In a few moments after it transpired, I had a message in my inbox from this commissioner, letting me know that my wife (one of the most tactful and mentally stable people I had a chance to ever spend time with) is "unstable" and started venting that she blocked them "in a fit". Then removed the message, but come on. I’ve got screens.

I regretfully happen to know how narcissists work and that this is one of their prime tactics; if someone does something unpleasant to them, they're going to badmouth them to everyone to ruin their reputation as revenge. This is so pathetic and just gross. This behavior makes me feel even more like this person can indeed be just that; a really toxic narcissist.

And now the conclusion: the fandom is great, I love people in it, but as everywhere, there are also some toxic individuals that can be really creepy. Keep your personal data to yourself. Report abusers. Stay safe ❤️